Am I over reacting?

[kaycountrygal]

You obviously are a very patient person. I on the other hand am not nearly as patient as I used to be.

If I had a friend (or a friend of boyfriend or even the boyfriend) who did not like cats and had to mention it every time he saw me, then I would eventually say:

Look (friend's name) I KNOW you dont like cats. I DO and I LIVE here and kitty is NOT going anywhere. So, if it is bothering you as it obviously is, you dont need to come back. Give us both a break.

[Sowa]

They only thing keeping me from telling him off is that he is a very good friend of my boyfriend. I talked to my BF last night and said you HAVE to talk to him, because next time I'm not sure I can hold back from telling him off. I know that will make thins awkward for you, so I don't want to. But this has to stop.

I don't think my BF wants to, he said it annoys him too, and that he has mentioned it before and the friend sorta brushed it off. I told him he NEEDS to understand or I will say something and it won't be nice.

My poor cat is the nicest cat too. He is very very loving. He purrs all the time, and wants to snuggle. Nothing bothers him. I can take him to the vet for checkups and he just wants to explore. He got very sick once and spent a lot of time at the vet and everyone said what a joy he was and how loving. I know I'm a cat lover and can't really say anything but how can you not love that?

My cats made 2 cat hates actually like cats. I think that's a good thing. I feel if they are given the chance people will see cats aren't so bad.

But anyway, his friend is a very childish person. He isn't friendly with anyone really, he is very negative. I have NO idea why they are such good friends, but that's not really my place to decide who he is or isn't friends with. I try to support him which is why I haven't told the guy off.

Ok I'm rambling agian. I'll post pictures of my kitty so you all can see how beautiful he is.

[momoffuzzyfaces]

Next time he comes over meet him at the door. Tell him this is my home and my cats. If you come in, you must respect us BOTH and clam up!!!

And if he won't, tell him it's the last time he is welcome to come over.

[Sowa]

According to my BF the reason his friend started to dislike cats was because when he was young, he went fishing and a cat stole his fish...

[Scooter's Mom]

According to my BF the reason his friend started to dislike cats was because when he was young, he went fishing and a cat stole his fish...

That's a dumb reason... IMO.

My cousin was viciously attacked by 2 german shepherd dogs when he was about 6, but he doesn't hate all dogs, in fact he doesn't even hate german shepherd's. Attitude is everything.

You are not over-reacting at all. If I were in your shoes, that guy would never be allowed in or near my house until he learned a little respect.

[Asiel]

Must say you are more patient than I am Sowa - the guy would have been out on his ear ages ago had he been coming to my house with that attitude.
I have to agree with everyone that you should make it clear you never want to hear another word about cats when he's over or he can just stay home.

[Catty1]

Next time he comes over, give him a nice fresh rainbow trout....

It might be you that has to say something if your bf can't or won't. Don't wait til you are going to explode. If a person is being rude in YOUR house for ANY reason, you need to lay down the law. Period.

This guy sounds like he needs professional help and/or an attitude adjustment. Letting him get away with this is not helping him at all.

HUGS and good luck!

[moosmom]

It stole his FISH???

That is THE lamest excuse I EVER heard of!!

I am a reformed cat hater!! I adore my 8 cats and would do ANYTING for them!!! I am a changed woman because of them. It CAN be done! I think your friend needs the boot, and TOTALLY agree with Catmom.

[maerlyn]

Well, ok, this idea is extreme, but extreme situations call for extreme measures: The next time this oaf is over, every time he touches something or sits on a chair - just copy him by saying, "EEWWWW! You drank from my glass, now I have to throw it out and get a new one."

[katladyd]

The cat stealing his fish is a lame excuse. Several years ago a dog killed one of my cats. Now, I'm not especially fond of dogs now but when I am over someone's house and they have a dog I pet the dog and am very nice to it. It wasn't that dog who killed my precious Kitty. I am now starting to like dogs again because I realized how foolish is was to hate ALL dogs because of the actions of one. I've owned dogs in the past and loved them dearly. I would never, ever, be rude like that in someone else's home. It's amazing the nerve some people have!

[catnapper]

Ok, its not a boyfriend but a friend of your boyfriend. Thats easy -- tell him he is not welcome if he does not be considerate of every living creature within the home. Humans as well as animals.

He is disrepecting you and it sounds like he's getting joy out of it. Don't let him bully you into feeling awkward. He knows you don't like his comments yet makes them anyway. He's playing a game to see how far he can go. I work with a guy EXACTLY likme this and he's a huge immature jerk. The only way to get through to these guys is to say something short, to the point, and with no emotion.

[sana]

That's a dumb reason... IMO.

That's a dumb reason IEOIS! {In everybody's opinion I'm sure!}

I was attacked badly by a Corgi when I was little and I have a pet Corgi right now which I adore!

Seriously, if this is true that that boy's fish was stolen by a cat and that is the reason why he hates cats....then..seriously...why do you let him inside your house? IMO he's immaturely dumb! Seriously, if a cat stolen my fish, I'd brush it off like he brushed off the warning (like thing) your bf gave him! He needs to learn how to be a guest! A person learns that at the age of 8 or below!


@maerlyn: Cute idea!
@Catty1: Hahaha!!

[moosmom]

Respect the cat or stay the hell home!!

[kaycountrygal]

Sowa, Have you said anything to the friend of boyfriend yet??

[Sowa]

I told my BF he has to make him understand or I'm telling him myself and it won't be nice. So he told the friend not to do it, and if the cat is bothering him to ask if we minded moving the cat away from him. I guess the friend responded with "OK". I'm not sure how my BF worded it him, but I hope he got the point across. I'm sure they talk about how evil the cat is while I'm not there Though my BF likes the cat now.

It's funny. My dad claims to hate cats. He says they're pests, etc. Yet my cat snuggles every night with dad. Dad pats him all the time. When I asked him "You like the cat, right?" He says "That's none of your business. It's between me and the cat." He just can't admit that he likes cats now.

So my cats turned 2 haters into cat "likers". Maybe we'll work on #3.