Nathan 2

[Scooter's Mom]

For Stephanie's extra day, yesterday we had a birthday party for Nathan at a local park. Me, mom and dad and Charles had each brought him one present for that day, but Stephanie didn't bring him a thing! All she did was buy the cake. She didn't even get him a present. Some of my friends over the internet, who haven't even met Nathan, are sending him presents for his birthday, but his own mother didn't even show enough interest.

Perhaps it isn't that she didn't show enough interest, maybe she didn't have the money for a cake and a gift. And the photos will show the cake for many years to come. At 2, he won't remember that she didn't buy him a gift. But he will be able to look at the photos and know she was there and brought him a cake.

[jennielynn1970]

Just curious... who's Jaxon Lyric? (If I missed a thread, sorry!)

I hope things will go better for Charles and Nathan. It's good that he can decide whether or not Stephanie can take him, whether he feels it's safe or not. Obviously, from past experiences, it's not. What she did to him, where he had to go the hospital, that's just bizarre for a mother (or anyone) to do. Does she have any conscience at all? Ugh. Some people should just not be parents.

[sumbirdy]

Perhaps it isn't that she didn't show enough interest, maybe she didn't have the money for a cake and a gift. And the photos will show the cake for many years to come. At 2, he won't remember that she didn't buy him a gift. But he will be able to look at the photos and know she was there and brought him a cake.

Well, I would understand if she didn't have the money. But she's made a big show about telling us just how much she has meant for spoiling Nathan. And Nathan's not seen much of it. Whatever she does bring for him, she takes right back. And she even complained about buying the cake. And I know he won't remember, but it's just the thought. And when he does see those pics and the pics we took on the same day at the same place a question he might ask is "Why was I smiling for yours but not for hers?" He would not smile for her, not once. She had mom take a pic of her and him together and he tried to get away.

Another shocking thing she said to mom on the way to get the cake was that she would rather see Nathan dead than Charles. Why would any mother even THINK of that? And why would she rather her son die than her ex-husband?

[sumbirdy]

Just curious... who's Jaxon Lyric? (If I missed a thread, sorry!)

I hope things will go better for Charles and Nathan. It's good that he can decide whether or not Stephanie can take him, whether he feels it's safe or not. Obviously, from past experiences, it's not. What she did to him, where he had to go the hospital, that's just bizarre for a mother (or anyone) to do. Does she have any conscience at all? Ugh. Some people should just not be parents.

No there was no thread. Jaxon is my new little nephew, born on June 18. He is Eli's brother. They live in Deleware and I will be getting to see them Christmas! Since Eli and Nathan are only 2 months apart, I can't wait to see how they get along together.

[jennielynn1970]

Holy Geez... This Stephanie chick needs some serious psychiatric care. Wishing to see Nathan dead rather than Charles? First, why would you want either of them dead? Does she mean that if Nathan wasn't in the picture, she wouldn't have to be going through all this and her life would be simpler or something? I'm trying to think of what a wacko would be thinking!!

It's just appalling to me that this woman makes these comments, does horrendously abusive things to her son, and then gets to spend more time with him. What is wrong with the legal system??

I remember reading in other news articles how the same things happened, where the mother or father was deemed to be a hazard to the child, had a high probability of causing more harm to the child, and yet they gave that person more time in the custodial agreement. And then when something happened, and the child was hurt or killed, the courts were like, "Umm... Ooops." Seriously. They didn't give a crap, as long as they weren't going to be held responsible. They just said that they couldn't forsee what would happen.

I would be trying to find a way to discredit her once and for all. Isn't there any way she can be taped saying things, or doing things, or anything that would be legal and held up in court? I'd also still try to find a way to put some kind of tracking device in something that Nathan wears when he goes to see Stephanie (Karen's suggestion of in his shoe/sneaker was a good one).

There's got to be something. I'm just so sorry that you and your family have to be going through this, and Nathan, this might come back to haunt him years from now, which is just sad.


Apart from that...
Congrats on the new newphew!! Hope you get to see them all soon! I LOVE his name by the way, it's really cool. Wasn't there a movie or a song called "Jason's Lyric"?

[sumbirdy]

Holy Geez... This Stephanie chick needs some serious psychiatric care. Wishing to see Nathan dead rather than Charles? First, why would you want either of them dead? Does she mean that if Nathan wasn't in the picture, she wouldn't have to be going through all this and her life would be simpler or something? I'm trying to think of what a wacko would be thinking!!

It's just appalling to me that this woman makes these comments, does horrendously abusive things to her son, and then gets to spend more time with him. What is wrong with the legal system??

I remember reading in other news articles how the same things happened, where the mother or father was deemed to be a hazard to the child, had a high probability of causing more harm to the child, and yet they gave that person more time in the custodial agreement. And then when something happened, and the child was hurt or killed, the courts were like, "Umm... Ooops." Seriously. They didn't give a crap, as long as they weren't going to be held responsible. They just said that they couldn't forsee what would happen.

I would be trying to find a way to discredit her once and for all. Isn't there any way she can be taped saying things, or doing things, or anything that would be legal and held up in court? I'd also still try to find a way to put some kind of tracking device in something that Nathan wears when he goes to see Stephanie (Karen's suggestion of in his shoe/sneaker was a good one).

There's got to be something. I'm just so sorry that you and your family have to be going through this, and Nathan, this might come back to haunt him years from now, which is just sad.


Apart from that...
Congrats on the new newphew!! Hope you get to see them all soon! I LOVE his name by the way, it's really cool. Wasn't there a movie or a song called "Jason's Lyric"?

The only thing I can see for us to do right now is to just keep telling her no she can't take him. She's still able to see and visit him.
Another thing is she keeps shoving this teddy bear on him every time she comes over, oblivious to the fact that he doesn't like the thing. Every time she hands it to him, he pushes it away. He won't touch any teddy bear now.

Anyway, here's some pics. They're not all from his birthday.

[jennielynn1970]

How are things going with Nathan and his "mother"? (I use that term loosely!)

Hope all is well!!

[sumbirdy]

Well, she didn't come out the week before last, said she was sick. Nathan was sick this last Thursday and didn't want her to touch him (but she did anyway) Charles still isn't letting her take him, he still doesn't trust her. She told Charles she still loves him and then tried to convince him to let her take Nathan for a week (which he said no to). She told mom she could live without Nathan but she couldn't live without Charles. She tried to steal a pair of Nathan's shoes. She told mom she really liked them and they went with an outfit she has for him and that mom should just let her take them. Mom said no and she called mom mean. And then she tried to take them anyway. She shoved them into her diaper bag when she thought no one was looking and covered them up with stuff. I went over there and took them right out. She keeps lying about stuff that Nathan does or says. If you're around Nathan long enough you can predict if he was to say something what it might sound like. He pronounces all his k's, c's, ch's and ck's as t's, he can't say his s's or sh's and he almost always leaves a syllable off of words. (I'm Mer) She tried to tell us he said shicken (for chicken) We just now got him to say that he's two and she tried to say that a couple of weeks before his birthday he told her "I'm going to be two" He also doesn't talk in sentences yet. His a little behind in his speech. She lies about things that happen to people that were there. She tried to tell me that the guy across the road wanted Nathan to ride on his tractor and I was there, what the guy said was that Nathan didn't need to be around it while he was trying to work! I could go on and on but I won't

Basically she's still crazy.

[jennielynn1970]

One good thing for Nathan, on the subject of speech, is that when he starts school, they will screen him, and more than likely he'll receive services free of charge from the school district. Ours actually goes through the Intermediate Unit, and when there is a severe speech impediment, they get an IEP (which is an Individualized Educational Program), and it's something that is covered federally. You might want to see if he can even receive those services now. He might just be able to if he qualifies as a "high risk" kid (mom and dad split up, maybe one parent has a drug or alcohol problem (mom???), things like that). I've seen a lot of kids get some great services, and we're talking all the way up through middle and high school.

Is there an early learning day care kind of place he can go to, qualify for, like through income limits and stuff?? That might help, and maybe they can start something like the speech classes there. I'd see what your county has to offer for him. I'm sure his dad would have to sign him up, but if you can find the info, and get Charles to fill it out, or just sign it and whatever, Nathan might get a great boost in that speech area and other things!

Hope Nathan feels better!! Hugs to you both!

[sumbirdy]

One good thing for Nathan, on the subject of speech, is that when he starts school, they will screen him, and more than likely he'll receive services free of charge from the school district. Ours actually goes through the Intermediate Unit, and when there is a severe speech impediment, they get an IEP (which is an Individualized Educational Program), and it's something that is covered federally. You might want to see if he can even receive those services now. He might just be able to if he qualifies as a "high risk" kid (mom and dad split up, maybe one parent has a drug or alcohol problem (mom???), things like that). I've seen a lot of kids get some great services, and we're talking all the way up through middle and high school.

Is there an early learning day care kind of place he can go to, qualify for, like through income limits and stuff?? That might help, and maybe they can start something like the speech classes there. I'd see what your county has to offer for him. I'm sure his dad would have to sign him up, but if you can find the info, and get Charles to fill it out, or just sign it and whatever, Nathan might get a great boost in that speech area and other things!

Hope Nathan feels better!! Hugs to you both!

We tried to enroll him in speech therapy, but he didn't qualify. They said his motor skills are advanced and even though he doesn't talk right, he still understands almost everything you say.

[jennielynn1970]

You've got to be kidding me.

Well, hang on till an early learning program or something.

There should be something subsidized by the state or county for school. There is no way a teacher will let that one go by, and a good speech therapist will make sure he is seen.

Can you make a fuss?? If he is developmentally delayed in his learning and isn't where he should be, they really should provide services. It's that whole "No Child Left Behind" deal.

I'd dig further... he's entitled to something.

[sumbirdy]

Charles got a new job a couple of weeks ago at a private airport. Nathan got to go close to them, and he absolutely loves "panes" lol.



I was going to add more pics but my computer is screwing up and it won't let me upload any more on photobucket. I'll add them in a few days (hopefully)

[jennielynn1970]

I just adore Nathan! He's such a cutie!

Please give him a big hug from me!

[Catty1]

Oh, boy! Getting to see all the panes with Daddy!

He is just so cute! And I bet Charles feels better having a job - and not trapped in an office building!

[sumbirdy]

Oh, boy! Getting to see all the panes with Daddy!

He is just so cute! And I bet Charles feels better having a job - and not trapped in an office building!

Charles definetely feels better getting out of the house every day and getting some new friends. He works in the department that preps the planes for flight and Nathan gets to go see about once a week. The guys Charles works with adore Nathan and they let him get in the pilots seat of one of the planes (of course, we didn't have the camera with us )