Free to good home - one mother in law

[shais_mom]

It just ate at me all night but I'm over it. She is not worth it!

Its a hard lesson to learn - but its one I'm learning myself. -
people just aren't worth it -

[jazzcat]

The other group of people who feel free to comment is my coworkers. I've worked at 3 places since getting heavy and all 3 places felt it was in their rights to comment on my weight. The other day at work, a coworker wanted to show me something upstairs. I we were standing near the elevator so I started towards it. He said "no, you need the exercise. Take the stairs." WHAT?!?! I usually take the stairs 4/5 times. Then we were upstairs and he commented AGAIN about how I needed to exercise more. I challenged him to a 1 mile speed walk and letss see who crossed the finish line first and who was more out of breath. He declined my challenge Just because we might be heavier than thou doesn't mean we're sedentary sloths.

Oh Kim, I could not take that!!! Why do people think it's socially okay to make comments about people's weight? It's the one thing left that isn't covered by the "political correctness" blanket. I think the PC stuff is way out of control but hey if your going to use it, use it for everything, make it socially unacceptable to make fun of weight.

What your coworker did is just another form of harrassment. Jerk!!!!

[slick]

Here are some examples of how my weight has given me "issues".....

Example 1
At work I used to hang around a group of people and we used to go for Dim Sum every month or so. Well I'm no longer invited and through the grape vine I found out why. It's because of weight and the fact that I eat more than the others. You see the others are all skinny minis.

It did hurt me at first then I got smart. These people aren't worth it and now when I see them all headed for the door I smile and say "have a good time". Hey, I work with these people, I don't have to be best friends with them too!

Example 2
When I was growing up my brother had a friend Terry. He was English and him and my brother and some other kids used to hang around together and when we got to be in our twenties we pubbed together. Long story short, Terry moved away. About 5 years ago he blew into town and was over at my Mom's. I was looking forward to seeing him again so I flew over there after work. The first thing he said to me when I walked in the door is "My God, you're FAT!!!" If he ever comes to town again you can be sure I won't be stopping to see him....arrogant bast****

Example 3
This goes back about 10 years and it involves a coworker who is still here. It was her first week on the job and when I was introduced to her he asked me when my baby was due. I quickly thought it out and said "November and I can hardly wait. The only thing is that I don't know who the father is but my baby's colour will determine that!!" That shut her up.

There are people (some PTers included) who love me in spite of my weight and that's enough for me.

Jazzcat, I'm sorry you had to be on the receiving end of that comment. It was truly uncalled for. Same hold true for you Catnapper.

...and to all the rest......we are women and we are beautiful!!!

[shais_mom]

Here are some examples of how my weight has given
...and to all the rest......we are women and we are beautiful!!!

that's exactly right - we are all goddesses!
I mean Slick - RICHARD posted our pic from 2005 on the eyecandy thread!
A few weeks ago - my co-workers and I were talking about how I had looked like I lost a lot of weight b/c I was working out about 3 times a week. (must get back into that habit) and I was thanking them - then the ER brought a Patient down the hallway - wheeled him the room. It was a teeeeny little 90 year old man. I said "we are going to take some pics of your belly today" he said "looks like you need some of your's when are you due?" I said I'm not. He said Oh I'm sorry.
My grandpa used to be rather vocal about my weight especially when I was a child. He got better for the most part as I got older.
I had a lady I was xraying once ask me when I was due b/c I had on a scrub top that had baby angels on it - she thought it looked like a maternity themed top.....
I had a guy IM me on yahoo out of the blue one nite - he was asking me all kinds of questions. He asked me what I looked like - I said brown hair - short - green eyes - plus sized - After 10 minutes from not hearing his answer - I don't know if he blocked me or not - but I responded - That's what I ********** thought - and Blocked HIM!
Not everyone can have as much tact or be as smart as we are. But they can't help it!
This was on the Dr. Phil show the other day. (re-runs)
http://www.clubbounce.net/
altho one of the guests - I don't think I would even qualify for him b/c he didn't even LOOK @ women UNDER 250 pounds!!!

[Husky_mom]

and thats why my fridge reads: I love my HUSKIES........... and not my MIL .....LMAO

Mil´s sure can get very very annoying........... and say the hurtest things..... and have no compassion to tell that at your face!! what a nerve........ been there done that........

so if anyone willing to trade MIL for a dog/cat/bird/etc...... I´ll pay big time!!

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I can't believe people say such hurtful things, especially people who are family!

I'm sorry that so many of you have had to deal with rude, inconsiderate MILs and others. I can't believe the way some people will behave- but I notice people will often criticize others for the things they wish they could change about themselves. So most likely they are jealous about something that you have and that is what leads them to make such hurtful comments.

[slick]

Staci, that Clubbounce looks like a real hoot!!! I would love to go there just one night. The next time we hook up in Cali do you want to go with me??? I'm not really a club person but that looks like phun!!

[RICHARD]

Not a MIL story but kinda close....


My GF's mom was a stone cold racist.


One time we were at my GF's place when her mom mentions how the Mexicans are taking over blah blah blah-She then turns to me and says, "Oh, not all mexicans are BAD!"

She then goes on to tell the story about how her and her hubby got a flat and some Mexican stopped to help them change the tire. They tried to pay him, but the "Mexican" turned the money down......

I said something like, "we are always around when you need us!"

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The GF's daughter was a gold plated biatch.

She moved in with her mother when she was in between penises -

I took the day off and had a left a drink on the coffee table...I jumped into the shower and didn't bother to close the BR door....I hear her voice at the doorway and asks if I am in the shower.

NO, It's the mass murderer from the street.

Later she complained about the booze to her mom and the fact that I was showering with the door open.

I think she tried to insinuate that I was exposing myself to her.....I can barely stand to look at my "own self"......

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All mom's have that "I am the only woman in my son's life" attitude.

When the time comes, they are cannot stand the idea that their son's are leaving the nest.

Don't worry about it..Next time, after she insults you, put a huge smile on your face and stare......Say something like, "Thanks for noticing!"

You shouldn't have any more problems, IF she gets the message!

[Killearn Kitties]

I can't believe the way some people will behave- but I notice people will often criticize others for the things they wish they could change about themselves.

So, so true. I see it in "real life", as well as here. People can be so critical of others for displaying the faults that they themselves have. Why is that? (And no, I am not saying that carrying a few extra pounds is a fault.)

I'm so sorry that your mother in law can be so unpleasant Lori. As far as mother in laws go, I was very lucky. My in laws were always welcoming, friendly, loving. Not saying we have always agreed about everything, but I never felt less than welcome in the family. I don't think I appreciated my mother in law nearly enough when I was younger.

[Callie]

I would've smiled sweetly and said "Well, you'd know more about that than I do".

"Don't get mad, get even!"

Callie

[Lady's Human]

I'm sorry, I've already got one!

Now run away, you silly english K-nigetts!

[jennielynn1970]

I've definitely found that when some one insults you they are normally trying to make themselves feel better about whatever it is that they don't like. My "friend" from high school was like that... She was pretty, but not very bright, and usually used whatever ways she could to get guys... if you get my meaning. Me, I've never been skinny, but I'm pretty, and back in the day we were always out clubbing, bar hopping and having fun. I don't think I paid for a drink for about 4years straight back then. My friend was usually the same with that, but she always had to make a comment to make you feel inferior.

She did the same with my jobs... I usually jumped jobs when I was younger. If something better came along, I'd go there. I really didn't care about longevity or anything, but looked at pay and benefits and stuff. Well, the one time I got laid off, and I was on Unemployment until I could find another job. My current car at the time was dying and I was looking for another used car. SO, on her lunch break, at this little newspaper she worked at for years being a typist and was scared to leave, we went to look at a local place for used cars. The salesman comes over and says hello and what am I looking for, and my "friend" says "Oh Jenn, I didn't know you could buy a car with food stamps!" What the heck?! Who said anything about food stamps?! I just looked at her, totally embarrassed, and the sales guys walked away!!

That's just how she was. She is still petty. She is still unhappy. She's married and has 2 kids and all she does is yell and scream at them and the husband. We don't really see eachother but once a year, and even then it's a bit much.

I could always count on her to make me feel bad about myself. Not what you need in a friend. And definitely not what you want from a relative.

[moosmom]

I had a mother-in-law once. A real bad alcoholic who used to call my hubby and me (now ex-hubby) at all hours of the night drunk out of her mind. Didn't like her then either. She's dead now. Got rid of the ex too. Happy as a clam now!!!

[jennielynn1970]

I had a mother-in-law once. A real bad alcoholic who used to call my hubby and me (now ex-hubby) at all hours of the night drunk out of her mind. Didn't like her then either. She's dead now. Got rid of the ex too. Happy as a clam now!!!

LOL! Just goes to show how nice it is without negative people in our life!!

[Marigold2]

My first MIL was straight out of hell. Hell I tell you. When she didn't get her way she would cry. Everyone would go "poor poor mommy her feelings are hurt". And then the knife would come out and she would stab everyone in the back. Oh she was so evil. Then it turned out many years after we were divorced that the woman had a brain tumor. Aperently the DR's thought she had it for about 10 years before it was removed. I don't know if that was the reason for some of the evilness or is she truly is evil. I do know she was a piece of work.