What a huge slap in the face...

[Toby's my baby]

Thanks everyone, I started crying AGAIN reading this.

I feel so childish crying so much about this, but it's so important to me, I really have no desire at ALL to move. Kari, it does seem like you know what I'm going through. I am pretty outgoing to some extent, and usually make friends fast, but I dont know, just thinking about it makes me angry.

I'm not trying to take any actions, but I was JUST WONDERING...can my parents MAKE me move, or do I have a say in it??

[Marigold2]

This might be something that your parents feel they must do for finanical reasons. It might not be apperent to you now since you don't have to worry about those things. You are almost grown up and your parents have to do what they feel is best for the family as a whole. I think you should be supportive of them and try to understand their point of view. I am sure they would appreciate that. Perhaps this move is harder on them then you know. I am sure it took a lot of soul searching and planning for them. They are after all leaving their friends as well. Change is always scary but it is a time of growth as well. The world is a huge place and there is so much to see and do, new friends to meet, new places to explore. I hope that you can put a postive spin on this for your family's sake as well as your own. Try to think of this as an advanture not as a heartship. This can be postive you have to try and think of everyone in your family and not just what you want to do. Sorry if that seems harsh but that is the way I see it.

[Taz_Zoee]

I am sorry you are going through this. I cannot relate to what you are feeling. We lived in the house that my parents still live in since I was 3 years old. That might be why I have such a hard time with change now in my adult life. My brother was almost going to move his family to Texas and I was not happy about it. They have since changed thier minds (my SIL got a new job and loves it too much).
I know when I was in 8th grade a friends family moved but she lived with me until we finished the school year. Do you have any friends you could stay with? Or would your parents not hear of that?
Good luck and I'm sure you'll make the best of what ever happens.

[finn's mom]

I feel so childish crying so much about this, but it's so important to me, I really have no desire at ALL to move. Kari, it does seem like you know what I'm going through. I am pretty outgoing to some extent, and usually make friends fast, but I dont know, just thinking about it makes me angry.

Don't worry about crying, it's not childish. It's a big move, a huge change and it's not a thing you should feel silly for being upset about. It's ok to be angry. Just do your best not to pin your anger on anyone, because no one is out to make your life harder or more painful. Your parents have your best intentions in mind, I'm sure of it. Some things are hard and it's normal to feel angry or bitter or sad or scared. By all means, be mad if you have to. Go beat up a trash can with a baseball bat or something. We all love ya here. Pet Talk (and many other things!) will be here, no matter where you live. xoxo

[Toby's my baby]

Don't worry about crying, it's not childish. It's a big move, a huge change and it's not a thing you should feel silly for being upset about. It's ok to be angry. Just do your best not to pin your anger on anyone, because no one is out to make your life harder or more painful. Your parents have your best intentions in mind, I'm sure of it. Some things are hard and it's normal to feel angry or bitter or sad or scared. By all means, be mad if you have to. Go beat up a trash can with a baseball bat or something. We all love ya here. Pet Talk (and many other things!) will be here, no matter where you live. xoxo

Aww, lol thanks for the laugh. My mom came home last night, and we talked about it a little bit today. I told her how upset I am, and the reasons why I wanted to stay. Once again..you guessed it.. I started crying. She is much better at making me feel better than my dad. I'm not so mad anymore, but I'm still really upset. We sat down a couple of minutes ago and picked out a couple houses that we liked. It doesn't feel so bad right now I guess I've just calmed down. Me and my boyfriend talked about it, and he's going to try come out if he can, and I'm comming home with my dad when I can get away from school. . . if it doesn't work out, than I guess it doesn't, but we're going to try. All this support has made me feel so much better, and to hear the stories of things everyone else has gone through. I'm trying to take a good attitude with this, and it is working. My mom said these next 4 months I'll just have to spend a lot of time with my friends and stuff, but I explained to her how strict her and my dad are. She agreed to talk to my dad so that me and my sister would have more freedom until we move, so we can have fun with the time we have left.

[I_luv_rusty]

Glad that she listened, and you'll get to have time for friends.