It's OVER

[Queen of Poop]

P.S. You can order that book online (and then you don't have to go out in the snow )

Yes, I could. But the book is only $9 and the shipping/handling is half of that again.

[Queen of Poop]

I've just learned that he's taken a couple of email addresses from my blackberry. Fool thought if he deleted them on my blackberry that he'd get away with it. But they're on my computer as I have it set up to delete from my computer only, not the blackberry. So I have an electronic record of his treachery.

Anyways, he now has the email for my boss and my counsellor.

What will he do with this - Lord only knows.

He's lost a measure of control be being out of the house, now he's trying to find another one. He's actually starting to scare me now.

[joycenalex]

call them right away and let them know that he might be contacting them, pretending to be you. now, this is from someone who was physically abused (once) and financially misused to the tune of 20,000. close all and any accounts that he has access to, change all the passwords to everything. get a lawyer, today. have you changed your locks yet? do your co-workers know he's been removed by the cops? you might want to let security at work know that he's out of your house and has been removed by the cops too. we have an employee assistance people at my job, and they can give you lots of advice and help. ((HUGS))

[Queen of Poop]

call them right away and let them know that he might be contacting them, pretending to be you. now, this is from someone who was physically abused (once) and financially misused to the tune of 20,000. close all and any accounts that he has access to, change all the passwords to everything. get a lawyer, today. have you changed your locks yet? do your co-workers know he's been removed by the cops? you might want to let security at work know that he's out of your house and has been removed by the cops too. we have an employee assistance people at my job, and they can give you lots of advice and help. ((HUGS))

I have let them both know. Fortunately our banking is separate. I have told people at work the situation. He cannot get onto our floors in our building without a passcard.

[Husky_mom]

good grief!......why can´t they accept it......like a "man".....

I bet this makes you even more glad you ended it........scary I know, but glad you are no longer involved........

you did right, let everyone be aware of the situation so he can´t proclaim be you and do stuff on your behalf.........take care honey......we are still here

[Catty1]

Let the police know too!

http://www.fp.ucalgary.ca/sexualharassment/Stalking.htm

This is at the U of C, Gayle. I know you have a counsellor, but this might be something worth discussing with her.

Write down every little thing he does. IT may be enough to add up to jail time, and mandatory counselling for HIM.

And your workplace, counsellor and boss all have record of this now.

Is there someone else you can stay with for a while? A friend that can all you at pre-arranged times? (Invent a code word so that she knows to disconnect and call 911 if necessary.) Or can the police have extra car surveillance with a drive-by?

The last thing I want to do is panic you...you have good people there and here - all working for your safety!

[lvpets2002]

I am so sorry to hear this.. But you do not have to take this from anyone.. You hang in there & it will work out.. (((((( BIG HUGGSS ))))))

[joycenalex]

hey gayle!!! i've been thinking of you. how are things? (hugs)

[Daisy and Delilah]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[borzoimom]

YOU just remember- none of this is YOUR fault. He is making the decissions he is, and it only proves more so illegal actions. Telling your boss of this- remember - there is such a thing a martial stalking.
As far as a pass card- unless he works there- the company has every right to ban him from the building. ie- stop him from entering even the parking lot. I am not sure where you work, so I am assuming its not a store.
If you need to talk- I have been there- and more than willing to help.. But I will say this- GET A DIVORCE LAWYER... !

[Queen of Poop]

Sorry, everyone. I've been licking my wounds and trying to mend my broken heart. I seem to be having alot of sad days and don't want to come here and whine/sniffle. I'm doing ok. Just real sad.

[Catty1]

Sweetie....you come here and whine and sniffle ALL you want...OMG! You have been to Hell and back, you DESERVE a good cry!

Lots of shoulders here - post over to General here!

HUGS!

[dukedogsmom]

Don't ever be sorry to come here. I wish I had a place like this when I went through my bad marriages. We can help you be strong. I think it's great that you're getting away from him. Have you thought about an injunction for protection or would that just make matters worse? It does sound like he's got a bit of a mean streak in him. Just be careful and know we're here for you.

[borzoimom]

Sweetie....you come here and whine and sniffle ALL you want...OMG! You have been to Hell and back, you DESERVE a good cry!

Lots of shoulders here - post over to General here!

HUGS!

I AGREE! YOU ARE ENTITLED TO FEEL AS YOU DO- and then there is tomorrow.. Please trust me- there is a life you have NEVER IMAGINED in your life- and its just around the corner.. I just with I could help.. I have been there- I know.. I thought my life was over- and NOOOOOOOOOOOOO it was JUST STARTING!

[luvofallhorses]

I am sorry, I just saw this. stay safe. nobody should have to endure this. you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
((((HUGS))))) btw Sasha is beautifu and hugs to her as well for helping you through this.