Major Worries! IT's EVEN WORSE!!!

[lizbud]

I am sorry I haven't responded before now, but please know that I have been keeping you and Jenna in my prayers since I first read this thread.

I don't even know what to say in a situation like this, but I did want to tell you that I am continuing to pray for you and your family.

I feel much the same way. Prayers for you & the whole family.
Knowing how the courts seem to work, your daughter must be out of jail
by now. I really hope that some way can be worked out to keep this poor
child safe & protected.

[kimlovescats]

First I just want to let everyone know that I AM reading your posts ... I just don't have the ability right now to address every one of them. All of you are dearly appreciated and I can't tell you enough how much all of your support and prayers mean to me during this terribly sad and stressful time.

Yes, Amy Beth is still in jail, as we have not bailed her out. She is calling several times per day, crying and pleading for us to get her out for Christmas. I am trying to remain strong, but I don't know how much longer I can hold out. It's very difficult leaving your first born baby in jail, especially during the holidays.

[borzoimom]

Honey- having her come to grips with this for one Christmas might help her make the next one.. The help you can provide is for the grandchild now, and let the courts get her the help. She obviously isnt listening to you..

[BC_MoM]

Amy Beth is old enough to take care of herself. She had a wonderful mother like you to raise her, and it's her choice to take what she learned from you and apply it to her own life. Why should you waste your life babysitting her?

You, now, have to take care of itty bitty Jenna (not that you mind, I think? but it does tie you down sometimes) and give her the best Christmas possible right now.

Stay strong!

[cassiesmom]

What would be the next step(s) if you were to bail your daughter out? What would happen next if you opted not to take that action?

I agree with brody's mum and jackmilliesmom -- that Jenna is blessed to have her grandmother and granddad who love her and have her best interests at heart; and a wish that you'll have a peaceful and joyful Christmas and all the best in the new year. [[[hugs]]] and prayers being said. If you find you need something, just say the word. hugs... elyse

[borzoimom]

I agree- if she spends the time in there verses any other day, it might make her realize she has to take charge of her life. ..

[catfamily]

Your one strong woman and the best mom I know I'm here for you whenever you need me Kim.Please don't hesitate...just call.
Love and Hugs to you my Dear Friend

[gini]

If you told us that your daughter had called and was crying because
she was going to miss out on her daughter's Christmas

then I would have a hard time over that. But instead I read that SHE wants to be out for Christmas.

TOUGH LOVE is exactly that TOUGH! And it is very hard on everyone.

If you bail her out, you will be right back at square ONE.

It sounds so horribly harsh - but what your daughter is doing to herself and to her own daughter - could not be harsher................

leaving that child alone..............it should never, ever happen again!

In the meantime, I offer up many prayers for you and your family.

[borzoimom]

I agree with gini...

[kimlovescats]

Amy Beth does miss Jenna. She always wants to talk with her on the phone and cries her eyes out afterwards! My daughter loves her baby girl, she is just very young still and has problems that need to be addressed. There is NO excuse for all that she has done, and she needs to "pay" and suffer .... and the courts and DCS will expect a lot from her before they give Jenna back to her. The thing is, that she is getting no help by sitting in a jail cell. There is also the chance that once she gets to court, that she will have to serve some time. If this happens, there is no getting her 'out'. She has severe abandonment issues with her own "father". It makes it that much harder to make her feel that I have also abandoned her. I know that I would be giving others the same advice that most of you are giving me ... but it is a completely different thing when you are facing this with your own child.

[borzoimom]

If nothing else- she is detoxing- without able to do anymore.. You do know that detoxing from this can cause depression..
Honey- we are just here to support you and your care for your granddaughter during this trying time. I really do feel this is the only way for your daughter to realize- this is a real problem. She needs to show she is trying to do something to correct the situation. Also with this situation with her, it will be hard to get a restraining order as the court could see her as a just as neglegent. Or at least she has a problem with her credability..

[RedHedd]

I agree with gini...

Me too. Prayers going out your way, Kim, that the path gets easier.

[My Peanuts]

I am so sorry about all this. Prayers are on the way. I know it must be eating you alive to leave Mary Beth in jail, but it needed to be done. I hope that she will understand that one day if she doesn't now.

[Catty1]

Are you in a position to order rehab treatment for her, or a psychologist? I'd call up someone - maybe that grandparents group at your hospital, a social worker, shelter, anything....even call a rehab centre.

They have seen and heard it ALL, and will be a great source of information and solutions.

Suggest that if she wants to be free, that she spend one of her phone calls on AA, and agree to a visit with them. They will send a pair of females (or maybe one). I know there was pot - but sounds like she has issues with alcohol as well.

SO many have lost families and kids - and got them back again. She can too, if she's willing to get honest and do the work.

Have her call AA, hon. And maybe call Al-Anon for your own sake, just to talk to someone.


HUGS

[catfamily]

Catty 1 ...That's great info