A plea to PTers

[cyber-sibes]

Nicely said!

[BC_MoM]

Great post, Jess. I know I am guilty of this lately - but only because I will not let myself be put down in front of others.

[CountryWolf07]

Wow, why have I not seen & read this post? Great, great post, Jess! Thank you for posting this.

[GreyhoundGirl]

Thanks for posting, that was very well said.

[finn's mom]

I don't post much in Pet Talk anymore, but I do remember this thread, and thought it was a good time to bring it up again.

[Kfamr]

I don't post much in Pet Talk anymore, but I do remember this thread, and thought it was a good time to bring it up again.

Thank you for bumping this - it certainly is much needed around here lately.

[Hellow]

Yes it does need reading again. I remember a long time ago that thread about reggie being sick but i could not afford to take her to the vet. It turned into one of the biggest flame wars that i have ever seen. Then it carried on into my other threads. Made me take a break from here for a while.

[Lori Jordan]

I agree 100% with this post.

Me being at both ends,I have had a finger pointing at me also.But i know that some were trying to help,and others i felt were just being rude.

I have said and done some ignorant things myself,I have gotten heated at some posts also,so i am not playing an innocent role by all means.

But in the end i just hope that i come across as a good pet owner,all should know i do anything possible to keep my animals safe.I feel it is a learning game,it don't matter how long you have owned your pets there is something to be learned daily.When i see a fight breaking out i simply just ignore it even though i might peak in to see what is still being said.But reality is this forum is a hobby,and why make your hobby stressful?It ain't worth it i come too see pictures,read posts and even learn a thing or two.

There is always going to be that one person that wants to create problems,Some people cant live there life without drama,But they are figured out within there first couple posts and can be ignored.There is no sense of having the place we love being in shambles because of trouble makers right?

[Hellow]

There is always going to be that one person that wants to create problems,Some people cant live there life without drama,But they are figured out within there first couple posts and can be ignored.There is no sense of having the place we love being in shambles because of trouble makers right?

I agree. I never cause trouble, everyone else makes my posts into flame wars.

[sammy101]

Thank you for bumping this! This is probably the biggest reason I don't post as often anymore. The rudeness and fighting seems to be all over the boards.

[Catlady711]

It's not just this board, I've seen fighting on two other messageboards (not pet related) recently that normally don't have much conflict.

And before anyone says it (no malice intended), no I did not post in any of the threads the other boards are fighting in. lol

[Jessika]

Especially since I'm schooling to become a vet tech, I have to teach myself restraint and to exert professionalism at all times. This is a great place to practice.

I admit sometimes I've played into threads just for the drama, because let's face it, I'm a pretty forward person with my opinions.

But I think what also helps is to put yourself in their shoes; if that were you, what responses would you react the best to? Accusations and harsh words only turn people away; but polite and soft spoken advice people generally tend to listen to and lean toward. Nobody wants to be told they are wrong! Instead of pointing fingers and making accusations, educate! Suggest a different method; suggest educational sites so they can learn on their own to make their own decision on a topic rather than just telling them what's "right" and what's "wrong".

Education is key.