I can't stop crying

[shais_mom]

Oh sweetheart you are neither lazy or selfish - you are a mother.

I agree - my thoughts with you wanting to stay home isn't lazy or selfish but more your husband's reaction was that he was acting like a putz. Tell him to ask Oprah if SHE thinks that stay at home mom's are lazy and selfish.
Another good friend of mine at work has 4 kids from the age of 8-3 and she worked part time for awhile and then before she had her last 2 she quit and just worked on an as needed basis for 2 hospitals. Then her husband lost his job and she had to work full time for a year and now she is back to part time and it has worked out for her.

[Logan]

I can imagine your worry and concern. I'm so sorry that you have been thrown this curve ball when you had such an ideal situation.

I think Staci had a good idea, though, in that you might be able to turn the tables and bring children into your home, rather than having to go out and work fulltime. It certainly bears looking into!

I also want to tell you that I have always had to work fulltime since my daughter, Helen, was born. Even when I was married to Helen's father, it was one of those things that just had to be. I went back, full time, after only 5 weeks. He stayed home with her for the 6th week. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. BUT, the good part is that my Helen is 15 1/2 years old now and she has not suffered from being in daycare all those years. She is a well adjusted young lady who is happy and healthy. I became a single parent the day she turned two years old. What I did was to do as Johanna said and I spent every moment with her when I wasn't working. I have never regretted a minute of that, either!!!!

In the best of schemes, you would not have to work at all. I just want you to know that it is not going to be the end of the world if you have to.

Best intentions,
Logan

[Samantha Puppy]

Doing my own daycare is something that we're thinking of. However, we might actually end up moving out of state so I can't get started on that until I know which state's guidelines and rules to follow.

It also takes up to a year to have happen, and that is time we cannot afford to live on one income. It also usually means home improvements to get it up to state regulation and we don't have money for that right now.

We'll see. We spoke last night and we're getting several different game plans together. Hopefully one of them will pan out.

[finn's mom]

If you could do what 4 dog mother did, that would rock! And, work part time a few nights a week. I hope one of your ideas works out for you guys!

[shihtzulover850]

well why don't you want to work full-time? do you not like yur job?

[caseysmom]

well why don't you want to work full-time? do you not like yur job?

I think if you reread her first post you will answer your own question.

[shihtzulover850]

oh you poor thing. it must be tough.

[Samantha Puppy]

oh you poor thing. it must be tough.

Are you being sarcastic or sincere?