Scared! Need Help!

[Lexi_Lover]

I know, I tried telling her that! She just doesn't understand! I don't see why she can't! She is usually really good about this. I haven't told her what friend because I know she will look at her differently and won't let me hang out with her anymore. Just because she cares for me so much! She thinks that my friend will influence me and make me do those things!

[petslover]

You did the right thing. You should be proud of yourself. You helped a friend out today. That doesn't make sense of your mom yelling at you though. I'm sorry for that.

[Lexi_Lover]

Does anybody know if there is anything more I can do to help her out! If it invloves me getting upset saying it, I can handle that again. I just want my friend to be as safe as possible!

I just wanted to send out a HUGE thank you to Karen for giving me great advice during this time and helping me through this and not to be worried! Although I am VERY thankful to ALL of you, for helping me and of course my friend as well!

I don't know what I'd do without her if it weren't for you all here!

[Lexi_Lover]

Nobody?

[flamepony12]

I think you did the right thing by telling a teacher. as oggyflute said, her life is worth more than any short-term damage your friendship might suffer.

P.S.~ does telling all of pet talk count as "telling anyone"? ^_~

[Lexi_Lover]

I don't know. I was unsure of who to turn to, and she doesn't know you guys so it won't really matter I guess. I needed some support and so does she. I guess that was all I could think of at the moment! I had to turn to somebody I trusted and who would give me good advice.

[Karen]

Keep talking to your friend, making sure she knows that you love her and are there for her. Let her know you will listen to her if she wants to talk, even if she wants to yell at you, being a freind to her is the best possible thing you can do for her.

[NoahsMommy]

Maybe you could do a search in your friend's area for teen crisis centers. Like, a toll-free number she can call and talk to someone without them know who she is?

[Oggyflute]

You did the right thing Leki, well done mate. As Karen said tell her that you wiil be with her for support. Things do get better, and your friend will be grateful and your frioendship stronger in years to come.

[izabelle24]

hi what your friend is doing is self harming, i used to do it as well. she needs to know that she can talk to you whenever she wants to. try to persude her to see a doctor maybe you could go with her, she just really needs to know that someone cares about her if its not against the rules of pet talk i could give you my email address and anytime you need to speak to me you can email me

[Lexi_Lover]

She went into student services to day when they called her down. I guess I am not because its going around my grade(And I NEVER told anybody except for the counseller, my teacher and my mom!)

Anyways, so she went down and came back about a half hour later crying, so I'm guessing that she did admit to getting help Which I'm glad for! She went home after. If she hates me thats her own decision! I had to do it for her safety!

I also talked to somebody else on the way out of class. She asked me if I had anythign to do with it. And that I shouldn't have told if I did! Its too late now, some friends just stand around and do nothing. I cared thats why I did it. The other counseller told me to relax cause its off of my shoulders now.

Shes getting help. He told me that there are many students do this and he said someimtes if they don't come in, they have tried to commit suicide if it got worse. Luckily they got to the hospital.

I hope and I think I did the right thing, even if everybody is mad at me! It was worth her being safe!

[Karen]

Yay! I am glad she is getting help. And if she is mad at you right now, I bet she'll get over it pretty quickly. And as for everyone else, you are right not to care what THEY think. You did the right thing, and I am proud of you.

[Vette]

I kept a friends secret. she told me she was going to run away. but that wasn't the first time she said that. so i didnt take her seriously any other time she said that. but one time she meant it. and i wish i had never kept the secret,, i blame myself to this day for what happened.

im glad you told someone.


if this alters your friend ship in anway... look at it this way. did you want to feel responsible and have a guilt trip for the rest of your life if she died? because if she died,, you would have blamed yourself,, even if her family and other friends seen signs that something was wrong..

a lost friend ship painful sure. but its a lot better then blaming yourself for the rest of your life.

[Karen]

Originally posted by Vette

dont be a noble friend. tell someone NOW.

Pssst - she did. And the girl is getting help.

[Vette]

I seen that and edited my post.

im so glad that she told someone about it.