Feeling pretty rotten right now

[LorraineO]

Well,, after all this excitment over Rose,,,, girls,, I dont feel the connection .... you know that feeling you get when you see the right one? I thought I had it,,, I dont,,, now I feel terrible... REALLLLY terrible,,,,
Am I such a bad person for not having that feeling???

what do I do now??? We havent adopted her yet.. this is just a overnighter,,, Oh man,,,,

**Lorraine slinks off into a corner***

[Uabassoon]

I think you should give it some time. When I first agreed to take in Corkscrew, I did not like him at all and I couldn't believe that I agreed to take him in. Now I couldn't image my life without him and he turned out to be the most amazing thing to ever come into my life.

[kingrattus]

Like Uabassoon said, give it some time. The dog isn't acting her normal self yet & just might be shy & not knowing that u want her, so shes not getting too close.

Just try to be her friend for the weekend & the true Rose may comeout & u just might like that Rose.

[LorraineO]

It sounds so stupid,, but its the hair thats overwhelmed me too,, We took her to the groomers just to look at her,, no time for anything else,, and she is apparantly LOADED with excess hair,,, I good grooming and bath should take care of most of it she says,,,

Maybe I am just scared........ of having 2 dogs... never done this before.....

Uabassoon... kingrattus ,, thank you for your support.... I posted her newest pic on an the other thread called Rose is here today.

[chocolatepuppy]

Lorianne, I agree with the others, give Rose some time. As for the hair, maybe once you have been brushing her regularly it won't seem so bad. I've always had long haired dogs until Lacey. But then came Mandy, the one with the coat of a golden in the summer and the hair of a newfie in the winter and well ya just adjust. With regular brushings it's not that bad. When Mandy sheds woo hoo but it's only for awhile. I personally don't let hair bother me because I figure when you die you aren't taking anything with you, like that clean sofa, clean carpet, but your soul will take the love of your dogs with it. But everyone's different.

[dukedogsmom]

Chocolatepuppy, great way to think about the hair! I just didn't know what to say. Don't give up on her. I'm sure she and you will adjust just fine.

[kingrattus]

I saw that thread bbefore this one, she is a cuttie.

Don't worry about the hair, if u brush her once a day for 20 mins, it'll be all good. Also remember when dogs r scared or nervuse (sp) they shed like MAD!!!

Max was a moncho dog & hardly ever shed at all so brushing him was pointless, so we vacuumed him insted But when we would take him to a strangers home, we swore he was gonna go bald!!! The hair just wouldn't stop falling off of him.

See if u can foster her for a couple of weeks (just say u want to see if her & ur dog really can stand eachother on a day to day bases).

My old shelter did that. They also gave out "some" dogs for xmas. But only to young couples or single adults who want a friend for xmas. or if the person seemed to be a good person, but the dogs only went as a tryout. Except for this one dog. I'll share the story cause I was the one who found her a great home.

The young man & his girlfriend had just baught a house in the country. & were looking for a nice doggy to add to it.

I showed them around & none of the dogs were right for them. I told them there was 1 more dog, but shes very shy & scared right now. I told them that I personally knew nothing of the dog, but found away to get the dog to come to me without force.

I told them to copy me, & they did. I sat on my feet & did puppy calls & used an excited high pitched voice. She popped her head out of the doggy house & dragged herself over to me (she wasn't hurt, just scared).

I said watch me. She would lay about 5 feet infront of me & drop her body & lay on her back. I crawled up to her on my hands & knees & geve her a tummy rum & she started to give me kisses.

The couple did the same thing as me & she gave them both kisses to. But the second u stand up, she runs away into her doggy house scared again.

They said they wanted her & wanted to give her a scared free home. The shelter manager said come back in a week to let us know if u like her. They came back the next day. I was so upset cause they had her with them.

But they said we want her now. They said after a couple of hours of crawling around on the floor She was no longer scared of them & she was running around their home getting into things like a doggy should & they took her to a groomers (she was FLITHY) & bought her the cuttest bandana, a hat, a new collar & a new matching leash. The owner said they don't addopt dogs out at xmas time, but in her case he saw just how happy she finally was & said shes urs



So give ur new doggy a chance, she'll show her true collours in a few days

[LorraineO]

you ladies are the best,,,, I will sleep on it,, she has to go back to her foster mommy tomorrow at 3,,, already arranged and all...

I will still think,, I hope ono one is rolling thier eyes at my hair issue,,,, it sounds soooo dumb when youre not here and all,, but this is really a new territory for me... and get this,, my couch is black,,, and rose is a blonde rust color.... what a combo....

i posted this pic on the rose is here thread,, but I will post it here too.. Hubby took it today...

[kingrattus]

I'll solve ur couch problem right now.

Go buy a little love seat at a yard sale, doesn't matter the colour at all!! This is why. Go buy a bed sheet that matches ur room & only let her up on that love seat. Kick her off of ur couch & bring her to her couch & praise her to death on it.

Here was RB Max's 9 year old couch. It did look new several years before we got him (the couch was over 20 years old)


This was RB Max's chair after we tossed his 9 yr old couch out (we didn't always do the blanket thing cause we never really used that couch, so we just gave it to him & never cleaned it (not recomended, do clean it hehe or its get gross & smelly)..


I know the chair look sthe same, but its not. This was the chair Max had at moms house


& this was the love seat Max also had at moms house incase he wanted to strech out.

[Glacier]

Give her some time--how does your other dog feel about her?

If it's just the hair, get her groomed and bathed. If you keep up with the brushing, it won't seem so bad. Trust me you get used to it! I have lint brushes scattered throughout my house, office and truck! Also remember that she is likely still blowing off some of last winter's coat. My huskies look a little mangy right now, but once the cold weather comes they won't shed much til spring.

But if it truly doesn't feel right to you--take her back before you adopt her! She has a nice foster home and is safe there. If she's not the dog for you, she will be for someone else. Not fair to any of you to keep her if you don't truly want her.

[LorraineO]

Glacier,,,

Dont think I truly dont want her,, just was and still sort freaked about the hair,,, BUT,,,, We will take her to the groomers,, have her bathed and brushed,,, the lady said today she was loaded with hair,,, couldnt get over it!!! I will hold onto that thought.. she is truly a sweet dog,,,, hubby and my son just took both dogs out for a walk,,,

The two of them (the dogs) played together today,,, they like eachother... for sure,,, Lucy is a bit confused as to why there is another dog here and all,, but hey..... Maybe both of us will adapt...... eventually..

Again,,, I Really appreciate the words and advice,, experiences etc.... its helped alot......

BTW,,,, the groomer figures she is most likely 90% cattledog.....

[Smilla]

LorraineO, kudos for you for being so honest. Frankly, I didn't feel a connection with Lefty right away either. It actually took a couple of weeks for me, and there were times when I was afraid we hadn't done the right thing. (Though since we'd already made the step, I was going to see it through. I believed we really were Lefty's last chance.) Luckily, things have worked out. Just a half hour ago my husband and I were saying we couldn't imagine life without him. He's got his flaws, but he's part of our family now and we're happy that that's the case.

You haven't gotten to the "point of no return." You have time to change your mind if you feel it's the right thing to do. Is there any way you could keep her for a little longer, if tomorrow arrives and you're still not sure?

[LorraineO]

Well,, what we will do I think,,so far,, is keep her tonight as planned,,, she has to go back with foster mom tomorrow,,, this will give me sunday night, monday and tuesday and then the vet visit to decide... We can also ask foster mom if we can try keeping her for 2 or 3 days after that before signing any papers.....

I guess we could go ahead with the grooming anyways,, no matter what we decide,,,,whats a mere $40 to 50 ontop of the almost $200 we have spent already on a crate, dog sish collar ID tag and dish mat,, comb from the groomer and this funky sponge cleaning thingy,, removes hair from most stuff with relative ease!!!?

I think this grooming and good cleaning just might turn me over .... This is also my first really what I would call a long haired dog,,, its all new to me,, I get a bit frazzled with new.....

she is sweet.... really,, and I still do really want to give her the home I know she deserves... if you only saw the pics I have of her when she was found,,, its so,,, sad.

[Samantha Puppy]

I felt the same way after we took in Lila earlier this summer. I didn't give it that much time, because Samantha's demeanor changed, so five days later we gave her back. There is not a day goes by that I don't regret it... but it's too late now. Lila's been adopted by another family, so she can never be "mine".

Please don't give up so soon like I did. You *will* regret it.

[Shelteez2]

It took me a long time to truly bond with Clipse. I like him yes, but to really feel a connection.......? Now I can't imagine life without him.

As for the grooming I would get her professionally groomed and then to keep up with it I would get a zoom groom. A zoom groom will be your best friend. It really makes the hair fly and you can use it on your dobe as well.
Do you know what kind of food she has been getting? Changing her diet may help with the hair as well.

No matter what anyone here says though just go with your heart, you have to live with her afterall.

Good luck in your decision!