I'd say, approach the cat on his own terms. Many cats are shy with people they don't know, until they get to know the person better and learn that that person is not a threat.
You said he's friendly when you feed him, so pet him then IF he wants you to. Then leave the bathroom while he finishes his meal.
If he's not friendly when he comes out, give him some space. You could stick a finger out towards him to see if he'll sniff it, at first. Go slowly with him. Maybe he has had bad, frightening experiences with some people before.
What does your boyfriend have to say about all this? Does he have any suggestions? After all, this is his cat, and I assume he and the cat are friends with each other... ?
Best wishes to you and the cat both!
I meant," said Ipslore bitterly, "what is there in this world that truly makes living worthwhile?"
Death thought about it.
CATS, he said eventually. CATS ARE NICE.
-- Terry Pratchett (1948—2015), Sourcery
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