My son is engaged!

[happylabs]

Okay, I know this is a pet site but this is a BIG deal for me. My son is 24, college graduate and accepted a job in his field in county government. What more could a mom ask for? Friday night we went to dinner, myself, my daughter and her boyfriend and my son and his girlfriend/now fiance'.

Before the salads were served Nicole put her hand out and they told me about their engagement. I could not be a happier mom. I love Nicole and was hoping some day she would be my daughter-in-law.

So now I need advice. Any mom's here been mother of the groom? I have been googling duties, etc. It seems I have only experienced mother of the bride duties in my family as I have two sisters and between them they had 5 daughters!

I also have to say that my son is a bit of a comedian. After dinner on Friday night I made the comment that I had no clue what my duties were. He said, "stay out of it!".

I welcome any comments and suggestions.

[Randi]

How nice for all parts! I'm sure you'll do whatever is right. One thing you could do, is tell them that you'll be there if they get problems with anything - otherwise, try to follow the below suggestion. LOL!

Friday night I made the comment that I had no clue what my duties were. He said, "stay out of it!".

[Cataholic]

WHAT? Little boys really don't grow up to marry their moms?

Congrats! I would do as much or as little as they want. Let them set the tone. AND, start shopping for a lovely dress now.

[pomtzu]

I married off 2 sons, and neither had huge formal weddings with certain protocol to follow. I was just there and available for anything that they asked for help with - which wasn't much.

[Karen]

Be there when they need it, gather together a list of family and family friends for your side - everyone you can think of, and if you're ambitious, sort it into "must invite" and "could invite" and "only if you're lacking bodies to invite" for him. Asterisk females if they are having a girls-only bridal shower.

Ask Nicole when they have settled on colors for the wedding to let you know, and shop for your dress according - you needn't match, you just shouldn't clash!

Ask Nicole if there's anything you can do to help, and be gracious if she says "No, thanks!"

[moosmom]

HappyLabs,

Congrats!! Do they have a date set? My daughter is getting married June 4, 2011 of next year. She's got the majority of the big stuff already done, so she's way ahead of the game.

I try not to meddle and am there for any questions or help she asks for. I'm sure as the date gets closer, I'll get more involved, but only if she asks me to get involved.

I'm so happy for you!!!! And your son, of course.