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    I just need to talk about this....

    I've been dating this guy that I work with for 2 months now...I thought that he was happy w/ me...he even told me that he loved me several times...I never said it back because I didn't know exactly how I felt yet, I mean 2 months was really too soon to be talkin like that to me...but I was glad that he seemes to like me so much...
    We like went out EVERY Sunday and hung out all the time when ever we could...we both worked dif. hours so it kinda sucked cause I usually worked when he was off and the same w/ him. Anyway...he told me that I was the first gf he had ever had...and that I was the first girl he had ever kissed too. (He's 18 by the way) 3 years younger than me) But he was so good to me and so sweet to me...he would come over to my house and we'd just have fun watchin movies on the couch together...when we were out at night we would ride around and just listen to the radio and talk...I just loved being w/ him...and he talked like he loved being w/ me too...and I think at the time he really did...then....
    The other day when I was fixin to get off work (I got off at 4 and he came in at 4) I talked to him for a few minutes and he only answered my questions..he didn't say anyhting else to me unless I said somethin first and that's so not like him....and when I started to leave....he ALWAYS hugs me or walks me out to my car...and he didn't do either...so that night after he had gotten off work I texted him askin what was up w/ him today...and he texted me back sayin that all this dating stuff was so new to him and a little rough...he said he didn't know what to do at times and he thought it would be best if he just didn't date anyone right now...and I didn't know what to say...he also said it wasn't my fault and nothing that I did...
    But it still hurts..I wanna ask him why..he didn't give me a good enough explanation...and now at work he avoids me and won't talk to me or even look at me...It's hard going in at work now..I know he was young..and so am I..but it's still hard...cause I did care about him.. I mean we had so many plans of what we were gonna do...nothin big planned or anything...just simple things... And now I think about him so much..it feels weird not hangin out w/ him or stayin up late texting each other til 3 in the morning.
    It just hurts...ya know? Anyway just needed to get it out and tell you guys...Thanks for listening about my boring life
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    Not boring at all. I'm so sorry you got hurt. Men! Who knows? Especially at that age, they can be very immature. I know it's hard but make plans and get out with your friends or family. Distraction is the best medicine. Just move on with your happy life. At least he didn't wait until you were completely involved or really knew your feelings.
    Again, I'm sorry you are hurt and sad. {{{HUGS}}}
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    Chalk it up to experience, kiddo. It is better for him to realize he's not ready for a serious kind of relationship at this point. He's young, and the enxt three or four years are going to make a huge difference in his life and maturity level.

    Take a deep breath, and make yourself wait a number of days before you text him again. The last thing you want to do right now is appear needy. You may be able to retain some of the friendship, but in a limited form, so you need to decide if you want to make that effort for a relationship that isn;t what you are looking for right now.
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    You have been given some valuable advice. I too, am sorry that this has happened and you are hurt. You may never get the explanation that you want. It would be best if you could stay active - get together with other friends - stay involved in YOUR LIFE and not his.

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    I think I know what happened...

    Some work places don't permit fraternizing among employees, even if they are at the same level. Your boss may have said something to him ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by beeniesmom View Post
    I think I know what happened...

    Some work places don't permit fraternizing among employees, even if they are at the same level. Your boss may have said something to him ...
    Agreed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by beeniesmom View Post
    I think I know what happened...

    Some work places don't permit fraternizing among employees, even if they are at the same level. Your boss may have said something to him ...
    That's definitely not what happened...we weren't the only couple going out that work there....one of my friends said that maybe that it really was too soon for him to date anyone and he didn't realize it till later...she said everyone matures faster at certain things than others and she said he just wasn't ready...I dunno really...that's just what she said...

    It feels so awkward when I see him at work now.. What's worse is that he won't even talk to me. I haven't tried talkin to him either, but I'm not the one who wanted to quit going out, so it makes it hard for me to know if it's alright to talk and say hi to him or if I should just wait and let him say somethin first. I haven't talked to him since that night we texted each other. I just feel like I need another bf cause I can't get him off my mind and I cry when ever I think about him...I dunno it's just hard right now....my brother says that I'll be over him in a week...I just wish I already was
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