I just can't believe this...panic in gut UPDATE: #22; finally an email

[Catty1]

Okay, I'm a person 'in recovery' and I know it's a process...

met N. end of March...

We had a spat now and then...he has 29 years recovery in 2 addictions....

I guess gambling was left

Argument last Thursday...

Was home to rest and go to work Saturday night...

No word since. Has cell. Left calm messages...also telling him that if he didn't contact by noon today, all clothes would be packed.

They are.

Ex-wife says when he is gambling he gets violent.

Leaving on cruise Sept 10. Hate to have to get the locks changed. But I have to.

I hate having to. I hate the addictive sickness and him going over the edge.

Kind of a nightmare. I put me and him and everything in God's hands.

This just makes no sense...no sense...

I am not perfect, far from it - but for N. to get outbursts of anger and run away...that doesn't help solve anything.

Prayers, please.

[Catty1]

I know....but rats he has the keys! Will get that looked after, though.

[Queen of Poop]

Get those locks changed NOW!!!!!

I'm sorry this is going on, but don't procrastinate. You need to be done with him. He needs a wake up call. Change your locks, go on vacation and deal with the rest when you come back, rested and relaxed.

[Scooter's Mom]

Please send the kitties somewhere safe while you're away on your cruise.

[Catty1]

Re: kitties...they are already being boarded at the kennel where I used to work. Mom and I decided that the first day N went back out.

I've already emailed my property manager (fastest way to reach her) and asked about switching out the lock. It's possible that our handyman has a couple with keys lying around. If not, local hardware store will have some.

I am not all that concerned about him arriving while I am here...it's while I am away.

My downstairs neighbour, former railway cop, has been notified to keep an eye out.

And his other friends have been put on alert.

The damn thing about situations like this is that there was some GOOD in it...damn...

But N has to get healthier before he can even think of setting foot back in here.

It's just a true shame, and a waste of a human being...that's what it is.

Thank you ALL for the cautions...I am getting everything together, no worries.

[Pinot's Mom]

Prayers for everything to be OK.

[Medusa]

Some good is not good enough. But you know that, Candace, so I won't rub salt in the wound by harping on it. You deserve better and this much drama is not going to improve. It's bound to happen again only maybe next time it'll be worse. I'm glad that if it had to happen at all that it's happening now. Be rid of him, get the locks changed ASAP and go on that cruise w/a new beginning before you. Prayers going up for you right now, girlfriend.