...help...

[Catty1]

Right now I am just plain SCARED.

1. I live in one of two condo buildings. The Reserve Fund Study was just handed out. That just shows what repairs have to be done in the next few years - and they are major...two boilers, new roof being the biggies. We knew this was coming.

With the price increase in NG, and these repairs, the monthly condo/maint fees will go up an average of $200 per month. I pay $320 right now, and having a 2 bdrm means my increase will be above average.

I can't afford to live here if that is the case. There is a meeting on the 24th...I am suggesting either a Special Assessment - a one time payout for repairs - or peddling these 30 year old buildings to a developer and getting some form of payout.

My realtor - a good guy - thinks I should sell and get out NOW - so I am just trying to see what he and I can put together as far as another place to live...

2. I am a bag of nerves again...just really jittery. Though my present bosses are nice and fair people, I am reacting to my job the way I used to - getting more and more stressed and fearful until I get too sick to work any more.

I am taking today, and hopefully tomorrow, to work on these 'old tapes' so I can look forward to going to work. This long meltdown started over a week ago, and really crashed on Wednesday night...add one for Friday.

Just want good thoughts, and prayers, and everything, as I am telling myself I am loved, and a good and intelligent person - and I can be healthy and will be so starting now.

Using the Law of Attraction (God, etc) - I will be making a list of everything I want in life, and believing it is on its way to me. In addition, I will be replacing destructive thoughts with good ones.

I want to call my bosses and say I am trying to trade off tomorrow with the other gal (waiting for a call back) and I am terrified.

My mind has turned them into monsters...and they are not. My mind is confusing them with other bosses who have been...not healthy for me.

THANK YOU for listening.

C

[Daisy and Delilah]

Candace, you are always the "Rock of Pet Talk". Always stepping up to help others. I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through a bad time right now. I just wanted to offer my thoughts and prayers to you. I hope it all works out. Being scared is a terrible feeling. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[RedHedd]

Remember we do this thing called life just One Day At a Time

[lizbud]

Remember we do this thing called life just One Day At a Time

This is so true. I hope your realtor can work something out for you.
In the meantime, try to look at your "job time" as a temporary release
from your worries about the condo. It's not productive to worry 24/7.

Hope you hear better news soon.

[shepgirl]

Catty, sorry to hear you are going through such a fearful time right now, but I do agree with the others about you being the rock here. You were one of the first people I met by pm on here and I was always glad you cleared things up withme. So I'll be thinking of you throughout the night and day tomorrow. I know when the chips are down you will find the strength to rally to the challenge.

What really amazed me is the price you were paying for a 2 bedroom condo, out here this would be at least $900 and sometimes not all inclusive.

I know your real estate agent will give you his best advice and will help you through this rough spot.

[Catty1]

Hi, everyone.

First - shepgirl, my mortgage for the condo is $569.00; the $320 maintenance fee is on top of that, so it is about $917.00. The taxes are inlcluded in the mortgage; heat and hot water in the fees (as well as snow removal, garbage pickup, etc). Electricity and cable TV are extra.

Sometime around 6 pm yesterday (Sunday), I found that "I" was back. That horrid distorted thinking that sat in my head like a steel cage and had me so horribly scared of everything had gone. WHEW!

I did some writing last night, and have been able to keep a good head on - today I even walked to a meeting and back, 15 minutes each way - it was a breakthrough as I haven't 'walked' in months.

Work today was ok...no panics on my part...I didn't come home all tense and stuff.

THANK YOU all for the support, and the phone call, and everything. I am working - like, homework! - on moving forward and REALLY taking care of myself. One day at a time.

OH - and I emailed my realtor and said "let's get me out of this place and find another one for me to live in"!

{{{{hugs}}}} to you all.

[moosmom]

Candace,

You ARE a rock here on PT. You are always the one cheering everyone else on when they have problems.

Know that I am here for you, girl. I'm only a phone call away.

You'll be in my prayers.

[jenluckenbach]

Prayers for YOU, Candace! Things will work out, one way or other. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[Catty1]

...wow...thanks so much - and I got a phone call too!

I really appreciate the support - it's hard for me to ask.

I do feel better now - ALMOST enough to go to work tomorrow...

Gotta put myself first right now.

{{{hugs}}}

[Medusa]

Candace, I concur w/what everyone else has said: you've been here for everyone else on PT and we'll be here for you. I'll light a special candle w/your name on it tonight that you'll be calm and peaceful. You know what to do, how to do it, and you'll get it done.

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through some tough times. Things will get better and we'll all be here for you for emotional support. Just remember that you now have friends from all over the world who care about you very much. Just relax, take a deep breath, and tell yourself that tomorrow will be a better day. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. (((HUGS)))

[carole]

I could not agree more,Candace you always go that extra mile to help anyone out, you take the time to research things out and help people,you are amazing, i have often thought it and now want to say it, i am sorry you are having this troublesome and worrying time ahead of you, i am sending you giant hugs and positive vibes that everything will work out ok for you and you will be able to continue to live where you are, take care and all the best.

[Catty1]

Thanks, Carole, and to everyone.

I have called the mortgage broker my realtor recommended, and she and I are having a meeting on Friday afternoon. I'm just doing my homework and getting 'pre-approved'.

Out of the 12 units in my building, at least 6 are for sale...mine would be the 7th.

It will be interesting to see what the meeting about this on the 24th turns up. When I state my opinion that the building is not worth pouring all the money into - Alberta is an oil province. It goes through booms and busts. This building is one that was built during a "boom" around 1980. This means it was likely built in a hurry - and it was run down a bit when it became condos instead of apartments...and the first management company to have really let it slide, and spent money in inappropriate ways.

The new management company and the Board are really good...but this massive repair facing all of us just may not be feasible.

A homeowner might have to go into debt with a loan to replace a roof...but doing that will add some resale value to the home. Here - all the repairs would not increase the benefit to anyone, and would increase our costs tremendously. As it is...the main repairs, replacing two boilers and two roofs, will not even be completed for about 6 years. Worth waiting for? I can't afford to.

Thanks again folks.

{{{hugs}}}

[Bengalz]

Hi Candace,

I haven't been on PT much (work + life have taken over...especially work) however, I just had to pop in and give you my best You are always so supportive of everyone here and now it's your turn to get some back.

Not sure where exactly you're located but Alberta living costs are outrageous at the moment - real estate being one of the major factors. Your situation and feelings are understandable and I sincerely hope a good solution is soon to be yours. Is location a big deal for you? Have you thought about moving to one of the smaller surrounding communities - would that work at all? A very dear friend of mine did just that and she is a much happier lady.

Please keep your chin up and all of us informed. A lot of good vibes here to keep you focused and get that problem solved!

Hugs

Betty

[ChrisH]

I am telling myself I am loved, and a good and intelligent person - and I can be healthy and will be so starting now.

The former you are - and the latter you fully will be.

Prayers and positive thoughts on the way.