Family in the Delivery Room

**sparks19** · 09-18-2007, 11:23 AM

OK I had no idea that you were allowed to have others in the delivery room with you. I thought it was just the momma and the "coach"

But apparently having the whole family in the room is very common these days. I had no idea. When we went on the hospital tour they were saying that they would call back to the room if anyone arrived to see us and we could let them know if they could come back or if they had to go to the waiting room. I jokingly said "So when you have to tell my mother in law she has to wait do you have restraints for that kind of thing?" lol The nurse said "Well you can have her in the delivery room if you want" I thought No thanks.... the ONLY person I want to be there in the room with me during the actual delivery is my husband and the Dr's lol NO ONE ELSE. I don't need everyone seeing me in all my glory lol.

but apparently some people have their whole family and sometimes friends in the room for the delivery. Who did you have in your delivery room?

a lady I know told me about one of her friends that had actually sent out INVITATIONS to her delivery to all her friends and family and it said on the card that they would call on the way to the hospital and they were invited to come and watch the delivery. WHOA that's a little too much for me lol

**My Peanuts** · 09-18-2007, 11:41 AM

I don't have kids yet, but I plan on having my husband and my mom in the delivery room with me. I don't think my mother in law should see ALL of me!

**elizabethann** · 09-18-2007, 11:49 AM

I remember visiting my SIL and Nephew about 15 minutes after she gave birth. She was still in the delivery section of the hospital and I could hear women screaming all over. That's as far as I've gotten....or ever want to get.

**My Peanuts** · 09-18-2007, 11:53 AM

OK, so maybe for some of the labor I wouldn't mind having other people in the room, but for the actual pushing, just my husband and my mom.

**sparks19** · 09-18-2007, 12:00 PM

Originally Posted by My Peanuts

OK, so maybe for some of the labor I wouldn't mind having other people in the room, but for the actual pushing, just my husband and my mom.

Yeah that's what I mean.... the actual birth part.

Yeah I could be in delivery for hours and hours and hours and hours.... it might be nice to have some people come in to visit and say hello and what not. but for the actual birth.... just my husband and my mom would be considered too (although she won't be there this time for the delivery)

**Logan** · 09-18-2007, 12:01 PM

It has been almost 17 years since I gave birth to my one and only. Mine was an induced labor and my husband was there with me the whole time. My mom came in for a while, during labor, and I would have had her stay, if she wanted to, but I don't think I ever asked her to stay. But she was there to comfort me a lot of the time before Helen was born, and when the labor was over and we had our baby, my parents, my husband's parents and a good friend, were to see us. I am very, very modest. I ddin't want a crew of people in the room, witnessing the birth of my baby. No videos either. LOL!

I think each person is different, though, and you need to do what is most comfortable for you. It is not about other people, it is about you and your new baby.

Best wishes to you!
Logan

**sparks19** · 09-18-2007, 12:04 PM

LOL Logan.... yeah I already told hubby NO VIDEO during the delivery lol. he can take all the video and pictures he wants to afterwards but please keep my nether regions out of it lol.

**caseysmom** · 09-18-2007, 11:51 AM

I wanted to go into the "ABC" room, the alternate birth center but my labor was too painful and I had to have an epidural, the abc room was just for natural birth...it turned out to be a c-section so only my husband was there, my sister was upset she had gone through lamaze with us.

With my second I had my sister and my hubby, the abc was not an option for a vbac. My parents did come in during the labor process just not the actual birth.

**Twisterdog** · 09-19-2007, 09:47 PM

I've heard of people having everyone but the plumber in there. No, not me. First, I don't particulary relish the thought of my family member seeing THAT much of my body. Second, I think it would just be irritating and distracting. I'd end up screaming at someone, I'm sure.

I know people who have video taped the whole thing, then had basically a party later and invited a lot of people over to see it. Ummmm .... NO.

**sabies** · 09-19-2007, 11:26 PM

joycenalex what a crazy story!

I just had my 1st 3 months ago and the hospital would not allow a bunch of people in the delivery room. They even suggested not having anyone in the waiting room since things tended to take so long, especially with a first birth.

I had my husband only. If I could do it over I would try to have a doula with me to be my coach, someone I had been working with. My husband is great but it was his first time too and we were both nervous and forgot what we learned in class. The nurse working that night was great but she had a different style than what I had learned and read about so I felt I was pushing in a more traditional way rather than some of the "newer" positions.