Are guys this way? (relationship advice?)

[CountryWolf07]

I am just asking if it's normal.. if a guy expresses his feelings through action. Mike does this. He always kisses me, hugs me, be affectionate... rather than telling me how he feels. He used to tell me how he felt about me, but that was back in the beginning when we started dating; then after we became serious about each other, he doesn't do that, but he still does the little things that means something, he still smiles and has that twinkle in his eyes when he looks at me, kisses me for no reason, puts his arm around me wherever we're at. We've been together since January, and that is a long time! I'm not worried, however, I leave in a week and a half to return back to Ohio State. I mentioned it to Mike yesterday and he goes "I know, it isn't a big deal. You just have to go back to finish school." We've already talked about things, like, he'd be going to Chicago in November for work.. for two weeks. He'd go with me to my grandparents down in Dayton for Christmas.. so yeah.. I probably am thinking way too much due to the fact I leave really soon. Just wanted to know what you guys had to say -- are guys this way??

[Catlady711]

My hubby is the same way. We've been together for 11 years and he used to be quite verbal about his feelings in the beginning too, now he doesn't say too much about anything. So I guess that's just a 'guy thing'. lol

[Karen]

I don't think it's necessarily a "guy" thing, but it is something that some people - male or female - just do. Some folks just are more comfortable "showing" than "telling" I guess. Still, when you're physically apart, he'll have to go back to more telling, won't he?

[CountryWolf07]

Even if we both haven't said those three little words yet??

[Jessika]

Actions speak louder than words, in my opinion.

Personally HJ and I aren't that way, but the relationship with my parents used to be. We never told each other we loved each other, but you know you just KNEW they did otherwise they wouldn't have done all those things for me. Of course our relationship is different now but it didn't always used to be that way.

I think he's trying not to make a big deal out of you leaving because he doesn't want to think about it and get too upset about when you're gone.

[CathyBogart]

My man is the same way. He does still tell me how he feels sometimes, but he's more inclined to give me a hug at a moment I most need it, pick up my favorite candy bar on his way home, turn on my favorite TV shows even though I KNOW he doesn't like them, and do a million other little things to show me he cares.

[Catty1]

There's a joke I thought of - and it may help:

A couple who have been married for 50 years go to a marriage counsellor.

The wife, whose idea this was, starts: "He never says he loves me! He never tells me that at all, even all the years we've been married!"

The counsellor asks the man for his view.

"Heck," says hubby, "I told her I loved her when I married her, and I ain't changed my mind yet!"

(There are enough men that use verbal BS, and their actions don't match.)