Prevent the torture of my son ;)

**catnapper** · 05-29-2007, 07:00 AM

Can we all play a game and scheme to make me laugh instead of seriously dream of ways to torture my son? He'll be 21 in a month and he acts more like he's 10.

He's had three jobs already this summer and been fired for laziness and not showing up. THREE JOBS! He likes the one at the video store paying $6 an hour that gives him 3 free rentals every time he works, which is only 15 hours a week. He thinks thats a fine summer job. Uh, what about his $4,000 tuition bill? Oh, thats right, his parents will pay that for him if he doesn't because he kows his dad won't let him miss out on education.

I won't go into details of the fights, because frankly they aren't all that interesting to the outside world... just typical fights between parents who impose rules on their son who's lived with freedom all school year in his own apartment. Now he's suffering because we expect him to clean up after himself, be considerate of others in the house, and work a full time summer job (aren't we EVIL?!)

Sooo..... lets have some fun dreaming of ways to torture him in the virtual world instead of going Tazmanian Devil on him in real life

Let me tell you, based on the stunt he pulled this morning, I'm ready to go up to his room and toss every single thing out his bedroom window. I can see all his clothes drifting out the window. The satisfying THUD of his precious DVD player hitting the concrete. The smell of cleaner in the air. The non-smell of a clean litterbox. Ahhh, it would be so satisfying. But I know I can't do it (not yet anyway

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**Laura's Babies** · 05-29-2007, 07:21 AM

It seems nothing motivates some of these kids anymore. I have a grandson that his parents are just as fustrated with. He will work, but only enough to pay the rent and buy food and other than that, he sees no reason to try to do more to make more money. He says all he needs is to pay rent and eat so why work anymore than that? He does live out on his own... well, he rooms with other guys so he is out of Mom & Dad's house. Thing is, he is not lazy.. just sees no reason to make a lot of money because he don't need money after the rent is paid and he works at fast food places so he gets a lot of his meals from there. He has no desire to own a car and if he has one and it breaks down, he sees no reason to fix it although he can work on any car and get it running... This is one kid that no one can call "materialistic".

As for what to do...? How about cleaning the room for him by putting everything in garbage bags and set them outside saying they are on their way to the garbage can?

**Marigold2** · 05-29-2007, 08:10 AM

The best and easiest way to make him grow up is to kick his butt out the door. If he has to sleep in his car, oh well. Not your problem. He is over 18 and should and can take care of himself. Don't let him manipulate you, torture you and make you an accomplise to his lazeness.

**Pawsitive Thinking** · 05-29-2007, 08:18 AM

Hope he meets the girl of his dreams, join forces with her and watch him metamorphosise (sp) overnight!

**king2005** · 05-29-2007, 11:26 AM

Stop paying for his things, like food, clothing, anything... even start to charge him rent, or raise it higher if he doesn't obey... Give him a set date, then give him a gentle boot out the door. He'll wake up quick, but wont be too hard off, as you'll still be watching over him

**jackie** · 05-29-2007, 01:29 PM

I would kick him out too, but I know that is easier said then done.

**crow_noir** · 05-29-2007, 11:53 PM

All i can say to him is that he is D*M*ED lucky he has parents willing to give a roof over his head.

My parents told me i could stay under their roof after high school IF i got a job. I got a job, a decent paying job. I always was an excellent kid, respectful, etc. My S.O. was even buying some of their groceries for them...

and what did they do. "Good, you finally got a job. You have 90 days to get out."

I had been raised to keep promises if you make them. So hypocritical.

Yeah... those last years were difficult. Both my parents really changed and it hurt.

Your son is dam* lucky he has parents to care about him. It makes me angry that he would take that for granted. It's always made me angry when my peers didn't respect their parents. (The ones with decent parents that is. There were a few that *I* would have liked to slap up a bit.)