What a huge slap in the face...

[Toby's my baby]

Wasn't sure what to title this, but I'm so upset right now. I just found out at 3 o'clock that me and my family are moving to Arizona. My parents have wanted to move there for a while now, but my mom got a job down there, so she will be moving in June and then the rest of us are moving in August. I don't want to move at all. I just switched schools this year, and I LOVE it here. I have a bunch of friends, I play basketball, and my boyfriend is here. I'm so full of emotions right now, it's hard to express it.

I'm pretty sure Maggie and Autumn are comming with us, along with my mom's cat. I'm not so sure about the horses though.

I don't know what to do, I've told my parents so many times that I don't want to move. I'm so upset right now, I just wanted to share it with you all. Thanks.

[Miss Z]

Aw, Beth, that must be awful. At least it's still early days, you never know, something could come up which could change things. I am sorry though that all this has come up so quick, and just when you were settled too. I would be devastated if you didn't get to keep the horses! Surely there would be somewhere you could keep them?

((hugs))

[JuniorxMyxLove]

That's terrible! Surely they can't leave the horses behind!

Well....if you do have to move...you'll make lots of friends(almost definitely)and you can keep in touch with your 'old' ones. Thats what I did...and do...for almost 6 years now. well...only for the last 4...but thats bc I was 6 when we moved.

[I_luv_rusty]

Aww I'm sorry, I saw your other threads about the possible move. Did you tell your mom and dad that your dad said if you didn't want to move you wouldn't have to?? I hope something comes up and you don't have to move. I'm sure you'll make new friends though. Explain to your parents why you really don't want to leave. (Boyfriend, School, Friends, Basketball, leaving the horses,and maybe anything else you can think of) Just be calm and nice about it, so they consider you responsible enough to stay. (I think in your last thread you said you would stay or something if you didn't want to go *not for sure if i'm correct what you said*) ((HUGS)))

I would give you tips on what to say, but when I moved (twice) I wanted to go. I would miss my friends, but in NJ now there is so much more to do and I can walk to my friend's houses. When I lived in FL, my friends were 7 miles from me. Maybe once you go there, you'll see it better. You'll miss your friends and everything but sometimes there are advantages. You could always keep in touch with friends, I still keep in touch with around 3 people where I used to live. It is not the same, but atleast I still talk to them.

[*LabLoverKEB*]

Oh, Beth! I am so sorry to hear this. I know you didn't wait to move at all. I'm sure you will make tons of new friends, though. Best wishes to you and your family, Beth. {{{{HUGS}}}}

[Toby's my baby]

Thanks everyone.

Did you tell your mom and dad that your dad said if you didn't want to move you wouldn't have to?? I hope something comes up and you don't have to move. I'm sure you'll make new friends though. (I think in your last thread you said you would stay or something if you didn't want to go *not for sure if i'm correct what you said*) ((HUGS)))

I told my parents that I didn't want to move, but they've pretty much blown me off now. I need to talk to my dad about staying here, and see if it is possible, but I need to calm down first so I don't freak out. The last thing I need is my parents to be mad at me because I'm arguing with them... or else having another anxiety attack because I get so worried. Hopefull they'll consider me staying here.

I've gotten several phone calls from my friends tonight, making sure I am ok. I was very upset in school today, and I'm happy that I have such good friends to make sure I'm ok.

[animal_rescue]

Awww Beth I'm so sorry, that's really gotta suck.

I really hope you don't have to move though.

[Toby's my baby]

Thanks everyone, I started crying AGAIN reading this.

I feel so childish crying so much about this, but it's so important to me, I really have no desire at ALL to move. Kari, it does seem like you know what I'm going through. I am pretty outgoing to some extent, and usually make friends fast, but I dont know, just thinking about it makes me angry.

I'm not trying to take any actions, but I was JUST WONDERING...can my parents MAKE me move, or do I have a say in it??

[finn's mom]

I feel so childish crying so much about this, but it's so important to me, I really have no desire at ALL to move. Kari, it does seem like you know what I'm going through. I am pretty outgoing to some extent, and usually make friends fast, but I dont know, just thinking about it makes me angry.

Don't worry about crying, it's not childish. It's a big move, a huge change and it's not a thing you should feel silly for being upset about. It's ok to be angry. Just do your best not to pin your anger on anyone, because no one is out to make your life harder or more painful. Your parents have your best intentions in mind, I'm sure of it. Some things are hard and it's normal to feel angry or bitter or sad or scared. By all means, be mad if you have to. Go beat up a trash can with a baseball bat or something. We all love ya here. Pet Talk (and many other things!) will be here, no matter where you live. xoxo

[Toby's my baby]

Don't worry about crying, it's not childish. It's a big move, a huge change and it's not a thing you should feel silly for being upset about. It's ok to be angry. Just do your best not to pin your anger on anyone, because no one is out to make your life harder or more painful. Your parents have your best intentions in mind, I'm sure of it. Some things are hard and it's normal to feel angry or bitter or sad or scared. By all means, be mad if you have to. Go beat up a trash can with a baseball bat or something. We all love ya here. Pet Talk (and many other things!) will be here, no matter where you live. xoxo

Aww, lol thanks for the laugh. My mom came home last night, and we talked about it a little bit today. I told her how upset I am, and the reasons why I wanted to stay. Once again..you guessed it.. I started crying. She is much better at making me feel better than my dad. I'm not so mad anymore, but I'm still really upset. We sat down a couple of minutes ago and picked out a couple houses that we liked. It doesn't feel so bad right now I guess I've just calmed down. Me and my boyfriend talked about it, and he's going to try come out if he can, and I'm comming home with my dad when I can get away from school. . . if it doesn't work out, than I guess it doesn't, but we're going to try. All this support has made me feel so much better, and to hear the stories of things everyone else has gone through. I'm trying to take a good attitude with this, and it is working. My mom said these next 4 months I'll just have to spend a lot of time with my friends and stuff, but I explained to her how strict her and my dad are. She agreed to talk to my dad so that me and my sister would have more freedom until we move, so we can have fun with the time we have left.

[I_luv_rusty]

Glad that she listened, and you'll get to have time for friends.