Advice...

**CagneyDog** · 12-11-2006, 11:25 PM

-sigh- I don’t really even know where to start with this one. But this guy I know has literally changed my life. I’ve never felt this way about someone before in my life. I literally wait all night just to see him sign onto MSN. I sleep beside the computer just to here it beep if he happens to talk to me once I’ve gone to bed. I’ve fallen so fast and for someone that I’ll totally never be able to have. We’re just friends, nothing more. Why do I feel this way about him :-( My marks have been going down in school just because I spend 99% of my time thinking of him. I don’t even know what the point of this is, I guess I just want to date him so badly but I can’t, and I know I can’t. What if he’s the one for me though? I know that it’s bad for me to fall so fast, and rely so much on one person. I’d literally do anything to be with him and that’s not healthy…beh. –sigh- I can't deal with it anymore. I can't get this kid out of my mind. Can someone please talk some sense into me. Tell me that this is just another teenage crush and he's not "the one". I'll feel this way about others in the future...right?

**Logan** · 12-12-2006, 07:27 AM

Please be patient. I'm an old woman by your standards, probably, but you need to let things happen on their own. Perhaps appearing to anxious could be a turn off to him if he is the one. I will admit, though, that about 4 1/2 years ago, I got an email that changed my life. And yes, I was watching for an email or a phone call, constantly!!!

And I was almost 40 years old!!!!

I didn't exactly play "hard to get", but I did step back and let him take the lead. We will celebrate our 4th anniversary on Dec. 21.

Hang in there, keep your grades up, get your sleep, and try not to sit there and wait on him. If he's the one, he'll find you, I promise!!!

**Cataholic** · 12-12-2006, 08:06 AM

Who knows if it is just a teenaged crush. No one does. BUT, if it is, and even if it is not, life must move forward. You can't stop living your life, as it sounds like you are doing right now. I had a great theology teacher tell me this: God probably does have ONE perfect person for us, one that is just toooo perfect in all ways, just for us. The kicker is, the next ten most perfect people for us are out there, too! And, we wouldn't even recognize the difference in their perfections. So, even if he is **the one**, there are other **ones** out there for you, too.

Don't dispair. Get moving, interested, etc. If nothing else, it makes the waiting easier.

**jackmilliesmom** · 12-12-2006, 08:25 AM

I noticed that you are talking about him and to him on MSN - have you met him if not he could be just telling you what you want to hear so please be careful and take your time. But if you know him and he and you connect on a different level to others if he is "THE ONE" he will make the right move at the right time - be patient. My grandmother believes that if it is meant for you it will come to you if it is not then you will see that even if at the time it hurts soooo much you feel like someone has snapped you in two.

I have been there and bought the t-shirt and thought my world would end when my last boyfriend just upped and moved away and left me I was living with him but I came home and found my husband just under a year later and what a man to find he is so loving and caring and treats me like I am his world and universe and beyond - much better than my world ending previous boyfriend - everything and more than what he could ever have been.

**caseysmom** · 12-12-2006, 09:38 AM

Well I can say the wise advice but those feeling may prevail! Your education will be around most likely long after this guy is. Please concentrate on your education and if he is the one he won't care if you have fallen asleep, he will wait until tomorrow.