Downright rude threads!

[cyber-sibes]

What's with the total lack of sensitivity and good manners lately? Are some PT members so bored and disappointed with their own lives they want to spread their misery around by being rude & thoughtless towards other PTers? I just read through two more threads that turned argumentative and nasty. One was directed at a relative newcomer because the post was "in the wrong place". Come on, is that such an offense that it warrants a snippy reply?

I get annoyed at how often people cross the line towards someone, often the poster, and threads turn nasty. My solution is to not read it anymore, but I am concerned that this lack of decency by a few will drive people away who could be a wonderful part of this group. I grew up with "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all", and it's still darn good advice. Being coarse, insulting, insinuating, and superior says more about the person posting than anyone else. What do they think it shows, that they are clever? smarter than the other guy? Cooler? It shows just how little, mean-spirited, and shallow they are. The rash of tit-for-tat one-liners that follow just add fuel to the fire. In the end, no one benefits.

No point to this post, I know I'm not the only one here who feels this way. But I refuse to post this on any of those threads, because I'd rather they just die out asap. Thanks for letting me rant about it here.

[angelbow20]

I agree 100% with you!!! Im almost afraid to put a thread up to tell you the truth im afraid certain people are going to go off on me or something. I dont feel anyone should say anything rude in anyway, people post things for answers not or to say what they believe not to be yelled at or anything.

[JenBKR]

Thank you for posting this. It has also been bothering me. I just don't understand the total disrespect for other people. I know the threads you are talking about, and I just don't understand how people get SO rude. Hopefully posters will read this and decide to change their ways.

[Argranade]

Yes it should stop,PT has a rude side but we don't want new commers too see this because PT is a great loving site right? and we want to be able to have new members join with out being scared to post or complain about this site.

Sometimes we need to let it all out but somtimes im sure we can hold it in.

[iamgobsmacked]

I was raised to believe that when someone insults you without merit, smile and thank them for bringing your shortcomings to your attention. When someone is outright rude, ignore them, without food they cannot continue. Even miserable people cannot get satisfaction by trying to bring you down to their level if you refuse to fall for it. Ignoring someone who is rude is the best punishment of all.

There is a saying, "If you want to prove you are intelligent, think of something nasty or stupid to say. "Then don't say it."

All his spirit is what a foolish man lets out. The wise man has his spirit under control.

[moosmom]

AMEN Cyber-sibes!!!

I have always given people the benefit of the doubt. I have also tried to treat people the way I would like to be treated, with respect. I have seen SO much disrespect and rudeness towards certain PTers on this board by others, who have not yet experienced all that life has to offer, if you know what I'm talking about. It makes me ill. If my daughter EVER spoke to any elder the way certain members speak to us, the OLDER generation, she'd have been grounded.

I also realize that everyone has their good and bad days, God only knows I'm guilty as well. But some members just seem to be rude and disrespectful ALL THE TIME!! It saddens me.

And you're right, it's so petty, some of the stuff being argued about. Don't apologize for ranting here. That's what we're here for, to listen and learn. I only wish some members would do just that, LISTEN AND LEARN!

JMO.

[CathyBogart]

Hey, I know I've had my days, particularly in the last two months, so if I've offended anyone I'm sorry! I try to re-read all of my posts before they go up, but sometimes I just don't catch myself.

[JenBKR]

Hey, I know I've had my days, particularly in the last two months, so if I've offended anyone I'm sorry! I try to re-read all of my posts before they go up, but sometimes I just don't catch myself.

I think we all do that - it's human nature! Everyone has a bad day, or moment, or post, but some people seem to be constant about it. I'm *pretty* sure I know the offenders, and it's not you, so don't worry!

[sasvermont]

I get so anoyed with rude posts. I don't know the ages of these folks doing the nasty posting, but I suspect the ages are all over the place, not just young or old.

Maybe these people don't have a good command of the English language and resort to obnoxious, ill-bred methods of communication.

I will confess to a few short comments, since being here for a few years....but in general, I would like to believe I have given many an honest and colorful response - sometimes direct, but I have not wanted to be hurtful.

I just PM'ed one person, asking why she is being so mean to people. I doubt if I will get a response.

Some folks are just miserable most of the time. I am miserable just a little bit of the time. Most days are happy ones for me and I hope that comes through in my posts!

PT is a wonderful place to spend time and I hope that for the newcomers, topics like this will keep them looking and posting. It is sooooo typical of a forum to have its ups and downs. We have mostly UPS!

(((((((((((((((((Pet Talk)))))))))))))))))

[critter crazy]

This is mostly the reason why I dont post very much anymore. The thought of having to deal with rudeness, or just defend myself is rediculous! I try my best to be as nice as I can, And I dont think I have ever been rude to anyone. If I have I greatly appologize. I Dont reply to most threads much either, because people just are too defensive of someoes Opinions. It is very hurtful. I would love to post more, without the fear of being torn apart. Cyber-Sibes you have said everything, that i have been wanting to for a while. I just wish I could say it as well as you have!

[buttercup132]

AMEN Cyber-sibes!!!

I have always given people the benefit of the doubt. I have also tried to treat people the way I would like to be treated, with respect. I have seen SO much disrespect and rudeness towards certain PTers on this board by others, who have not yet experienced all that life has to offer, if you know what I'm talking about. It makes me ill. If my daughter EVER spoke to any elder the way certain members speak to us, the OLDER generation, she'd have been grounded.

I also realize that everyone has their good and bad days, God only knows I'm guilty as well. But some members just seem to be rude and disrespectful ALL THE TIME!! It saddens me.

And you're right, it's so petty, some of the stuff being argued about. Don't apologize for ranting here. That's what we're here for, to listen and learn. I only wish some members would do just that, LISTEN AND LEARN!

JMO.

I am NOT trying to start a fight but you usually are rude to alot of the younger members on PT. Ive seen you post somthing nice to only a few of the younger memebers
And not everyone on PT knows how old everyone is.
Someone may think that someone is 13 but really they are 20.


I know the OP was talking about me and I have fixed what I said and explained myself

it's not right for anyone to be rude. Is it alright for an adult to be rude to a teen? No. Is it alright for a teen to be rude to an adult? No. I don't like it when the "respect those that are older" situation comes up. It's a two way street and both people are in the wrong.

I totally agree! I hate when adults think thats its ok. Its not, just because were younger dosent mean we are any less human and dosent mean we have any less feelings.

[shais_mom]

I remember the thread in question way back when this was posted but I must have missed this thread.
Honestly - I try and try and try to IGNORE the rudeness adult, young adult alike. But some days it just gets to me more than others. I was informed in PM earlier that I have "picked" on people. I may have but if I did it was b/c they were picking on someone else. I am a hugely passive aggressive person so for this to be thrown in my face...... I hate conflict but I can't stand the rudeness for any member. Young or old. Respect is a two way street - and to quote

- I hate when adults think thats its ok. Its not, just because were younger dosent mean we are any less human and dosent mean we have any less feelings.

That is entirely true but the 'youngin's need to remember that just b/c we are older that WE are any less human and doesn't mean WE have any less feelings.

**good thread - Pat **

[Cataholic]

ZOWIE!! I **think** I just stumbled on the thread to which you were referring. If so, all I can say, from a mother's perspective, that would have broken my heart.

[Laura's Babies]

Once I see a thread going "sour" I don't post on it, don't even go back to see what is going on.. Life is to short!

[Husky15]

One hundred percent agreed.

I truly don't know where I would be today if I had not found Pet Talk. I went onto Google and typed in Pet Forums and was lucky enough to come across PT. Once I joined Pet Talk and got to look around and stuff, I was amazed. Everybody was so nice and I did not see one person fight. I assumed that where this forum is all about pets and how we love them that people would be nice, but I never expected them to be this nice. Never once have I seen a forum where people were not at each other's throat. Most of the forums I've been on were full of foul language and everybody was yelling at everybody and dissing everything. There's just no other word to discribe Pet Talk but amazing.

That's the main reason why I continued posting on Pet Talk. And getting to see everybody's adorable pets and learn about them is wonderful. Everybody is so trusting here. Pet Talk is just one big family and it is very special to me.

Even my parents and sister notice a difference in me. My sister noticed that I smile a lot more now and my mother especially notices how much I've learned about animals and how much more I love them and appreciate them.

It is only natural that some people clash. Not everyone in this world gets along perfectly, and they are going to argue and fight and defend themself, it is only human nature. But we must remember to have self-control. Even I have to remember to because I can have quite a temper when I want to.

And we can disagree with other people's opinions and say that we disagree, but we must respect their opinion and they will respect our's. That's the one big thing that I remember when posting on a forum, because disrespect of opinions is what I find to be one big cause of fights.

All in all, I just don't like it when I see people fighting - especially on Pet Talk. Sure sometimes what people say can be funny, but it's fighting nonetheless. And personally, I do not wish to be on bad terms with anyone on this site.

What I often remind people is that this is Pet Talk - we are all here because we love pets. That separates us from the rest of humanity, but in a good way, so we should respect each other for that, despite our differences.

Exactly.

Again with the -long posts- *sigh* ... I get on here to write one sentence and end up with a stinking novel :P

You and me both lol.