How would you feel about this?

[JenBKR]

Maybe a silly question - how would you feel if a family member asked to borrow your car to take on vacation with her, her boyfriend, and her daughter? She isn't the most trustworthy person in the world but getting better, he is more trustworthy than her, but I'm still not sure how I feel about it. It would be for a week, from Pennsylvania to Myrtle Beach.

[Cataholic]

I would feel better about helping them rent a car, with appropriate insurance taken out, and making sure they are both licensed drivers.

[Laura's Babies]

I can't believe anyone would even ASK! That takes nerve in my book.. It is a BIG NO NO in my opinion...

[jackie]

If it is your main car which you use and need daily, then no.

But if it is a second car which is not needed, then I would lend it out.

[JenBKR]

It is my main car that I use all the time, but they said they'd give me his truck to use while they're gone. Honestly, I really don't want to lend it to them, and I'm not comfortable with it, but I have a problem saying no and can't think of any excuse for why I'd need my car that week. I'm just wondering if I'm being silly for not wanting to lend it.....

I had the idea for them to rent a car as well, but they don't want to spend the money for that.....

[Cataholic]

It is my main car that I use all the time, but they said they'd give me his truck to use while they're gone. Honestly, I really don't want to lend it to them, and I'm not comfortable with it, but I have a problem saying no and can't think of any excuse for why I'd need my car that week. I'm just wondering if I'm being silly for not wanting to lend it.....

I am going to pick on you for a moment. I **just** had this 'excuse' issue with my sister last night. You are an adult. Why EVER do you need an excuse to do or not do something? WhatEVER is wrong with a simple, "No, I would rather not. I am not comfortable with that". Period, end of sentance. No more discussion. Talk to the hand, cuz the face ain't listening.

You don't want to lend it to them. You aren't comfortable with it.
Your problem isn't with saying no, it is with being assertive.

This isn't being mean. This isn't about being better than someone. It is holding true to yourself, and your ideals (okay, ideals might be taking it too far). But, really, I am somewhat puzzled over your, "I don't want to, but, maybe I should do it" position.

I think it is a bad idea, under the scenario you pictured. I have traded cars with various family members. Alot of the time, when I did rescue runs, I borrowed my mom's car!!! So, I am not against car lending in general, just under the picture you have painted.

[BOBS DAD]

It is my main car that I use all the time, but they said they'd give me his truck to use while they're gone. Honestly, I really don't want to lend it to them, and I'm not comfortable with it, but I have a problem saying no and can't think of any excuse for why I'd need my car that week. I'm just wondering if I'm being silly for not wanting to lend it.....

I had the idea for them to rent a car as well, but they don't want to spend the money for that.....

Wow!!!

I mean... I want to fly to CA this summer - but I also don't "want to spend the money" for the plane ticket. That is awful nervy of them!!!

Shiiitttt... what to tell them... what to tell them???

How close of a relative??? Will they reimburse you if something breaks down with the car???

If not... then maybe you could tell them that you would really like to but you just can't take the chance. You are afraid that the car isn't all that road worthy, needs inspected soon and that a long trip without a check on brakes, suspension and fluids is something you are concerned about. You would feel terrible if something happened or someone got hurt because your car malfunctioned???

[Rachel]

. Honestly, I really don't want to lend it to them, and I'm not comfortable with it,

I think you've answered your own question. You don't need any better reason than that for yourself. Trust your gut feeling.

As for them, all you have to say is *I'm very sorry, but it just isn't possible for me to do that*.

[BOBS DAD]

I would feel better about helping them rent a car, with appropriate insurance taken out, and making sure they are both licensed drivers.

That is a very good compromise idea, Cat! Quick Thinking and a possible solution to a sticky situation.

I agree with most probably that I wouldn't be too comfortable with notion. Unless I had like 20 cars and they were just sitting around doing nothing...

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

I would feel better about helping them rent a car, with appropriate insurance taken out, and making sure they are both licensed drivers.

I like this suggestion !

[Ginger's Mom]

Hmm, I am going to say "no" too. I am not very assertive, but in this case it is just too much to ask. A simple I am not comfortable with lending out my car for that long of a trip should be understood by everyone. I do have another question (it's actually rhetorical-I know that you won't know the answer), but how can someone plan a trip to Myrtle Beach knowing that they don't have reliable transportation nor the money to rent a vehicle? That just doesn't make sense to me.

[DJFyrewolf36]

No honestly would have been the first words out of my mouth...without hesitation. Then again I am super paraniod with my car...especially since really Ive only got one. Im hard enough on my cars, I sure don't need anyone else messing them up lol.

They should take the truck or rent a car. Part of trip planning is making sure you can aford to get where your going

[jackie]

ok, I didn't vote earlier, but now I have more information, so I voted NO!

You don't have to give them an excuse other then, no sorry.

If they don't want to spend the money on renting a car, I wonder how they will feel if something happens to YOUR car and they have to pay for it.

A million things can do wrong, from scratching the paint, to a fender bender, to a major crash. And most of these things can be covered with rent-a-car insurance.