What are your silly pet peeves?

[zanzanfergie]

Of course - your professional voice is different. It's necessary - you're not doing it to get attention or be cute.

But it's that stupid whiny little girl "I'm so innocent" voice that drives me nuts!

When I'm talking to grown-ups and strangers I put on a little girl "I'm so innocent" voice, because I can't help it. It's like when dogs first meet I think - they very quickly sort out by body language who's dominant and who's submissive. Once it's sorted they can usually be friends. I put on a very submissive, innocent voice (and put my head down) almost subconsciously, because I don't particularly want to be the dominant person, and because if I'm submissive the other person usually accepts you better and doesn't feel any need to hurt you or challenge you.

But that's just me. I think you were referring to a very confident person who was just pretending to be shy, right?

[Kfamr]

People who call late at night.

Some people try to sleep.....

People who are overly loud.

[popcornbird]

Originally posted by zanzanfergie
When I'm talking to grown-ups and strangers I put on a little girl "I'm so innocent" voice, because I can't help it. It's like when dogs first meet I think - they very quickly sort out by body language who's dominant and who's submissive. Once it's sorted they can usually be friends. I put on a very submissive, innocent voice (and put my head down) almost subconsciously, because I don't particularly want to be the dominant person, and because if I'm submissive the other person usually accepts you better and doesn't feel any need to hurt you or challenge you.

But that's just me. I think you were referring to a very confident person who was just pretending to be shy, right?

That's me too. I can usually talk absolutely normally with someone my age or around my age........even if they're new. I'll probably stay quiet with someone new for awhile, but when I start to warm up to the person, I would pretty much talk normally. When I'm around older people though, especially ones that I'm not so used to, I get that quiet/soft voice too. Its SO not on purpose. I can't help it. I just get shy.

[smokey the elder]

Telemarketers!!

TV on too loud.

Too many idiotic driving maneuvers to go into, but particularly people who drive with their blinker on and make an opposite lane change! How dangerous is that??

[Pam]

Originally posted by Cataholic
Why does it bother ANYONE anymore than two people talking...'cept you can't hear their end of the conversation? WHY, people, WHY?

Here's an example. You are sitting in the waiting room at a doctor's office. You maybe have brought a book to read. You spend the entire wait listening to someone on their cell phone yacking about nothing really and it dominates the room. Yes, people do talk to each other in waiting rooms, but when you are sitting beside someone you tend to talk quietly and sometimes folks even whisper so as to not disturb others. Cell phone talkers must of necessity talk louder. Also, do they really think we are interested in hearing their conversation. I think in this instance they should have the thoughtfulness to step outside much as they would do to smoke. It's just courtesy. JMHO.

Also, cell phones ringing in church. Did anyone ever hear of the vibrate option? Unless you are a physician on call and it is an emergency I see no need to have a cell phone turned on in church. If they must they should use vibrate.

[Tonya]

Like Kfamr said, people who call late at night.

Parents who smoke while driving with their kids in the car/holding their baby/pushing the stroller.

The word "holla". One of my friends uses that word all the time and I want to kill her for it.

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by Tonya
The word "holla". One of my friends uses that word all the time and I want to kill her for it.

Tonya,
What does that word mean? Like Hello? Or Holler?

[Tonya]

For instance...her voicemail on her cellphone says "What's up boo, I'm not here right now. Leave a message and I'll holla back at choo....holllla! peace."

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by Pam
Here's an example. You are sitting in the waiting room at a doctor's office. You maybe have brought a book to read. You spend the entire wait listening to someone on their cell phone yacking about nothing really and it dominates the room. Yes, people do talk to each other in waiting rooms, but when you are sitting beside someone you tend to talk quietly and sometimes folks even whisper so as to not disturb others. Cell phone talkers must of necessity talk louder. Also, do they really think we are interested in hearing their conversation. I think in this instance they should have the thoughtfulness to step outside much as they would do to smoke. It's just courtesy. JMHO.

I understand your example, BUT, I just don't see how that is any different than someone that talks loudly to the person next to them...I don't talk any louder on my cell phone than I do in person...really, the phones are kind of more sophisticated than that. Maybe the person is just loud? I stand by my opinion, it isn't any different. Imagine a group of girls all chatting, giggling, etc., in the grocery, at the mall, in the waiting room,...just as annoying, IMO, than someone that is talking on a cell phone. I think alot of people's hang up is that it seems exclusionary to them, or seems like they are being slighted by being in the same confined space with someone and to know that person on the phone is just so not into them...

[Amber]

my pet peeve is fighting. People fighting over dumb things, and the thing is the people dont even *really* know that person.

[Kfamr]

Dumb people.

People who try to 'police' things that they know NOTHING about.

[Pam]

Originally posted by Cataholic
I think alot of people's hang up is that it seems exclusionary to them, or seems like they are being slighted by being in the same confined space with someone and to know that person on the phone is just so not into them...

Gotta disagree. I think it's all about manners and upbringing and not encroaching on someone else's personal space. I work in a doctor's office and the normal chit-chat in the waiting room is for the most part almost hushed. Then you get someone in there with a cell phone talking and it's a whole different scene. I have actually seen people have to put away their books/magazines. I think that's just rude, but again it's all about how one was raised.

[gini]

I have to agree with Pam here. I don't dislike cellphones or the use of them. But, why is it necessary for you to talk so loudly? If you do, then you are invading my space and you are very distracting. I have no interest in your conversation whatsoever.

It seems as though the cellphone has become some sort of god, that must be obeyed. I just read that they have become such a nuisance that a book of ettiquete will soon be published for the ignorant.

Why should you have to be taught consideration and manners - why should a minister/priest/rabbi have to stop his sermon and comment on the ringing of a telephone?

Cellphones have become a godsend in countries that never had basic telephone services.

But there is the feature of voice mail - and you could retrieve the message later.

It isn't a matter of whether you are "so not into them" - but it might be a matter of "you are so into yourself and this device that must be obeyed".

[popcornbird]

Originally posted by Pam
Unless you are a physician on call and it is an emergency I see no need to have a cell phone turned on in church. If they must they should use vibrate.

I hear you on that one Pam! Same problem in the mosque! Every few seconds........trrrrrrr...........tanananana...... ......tadadadatadadada, and all those silly ring tones everyone has! Its soooo annoying THERE, because people go to worship and don't want to hear rings every few seconds. They have signs all over the mosque, to turn your ringers off, and they make announcements too...........but how many people listen?

What makes me even more upset then cell phones in the mosque is ill-mannered kids in the mosque! Because its Ramadan right now, we're going to the mosque pretty much every night, and there are thousands of people there, so its a huge crowd and not easy to control. Our mosque........when they built it, they made a prayer room, specifically for mothers with young children, so if people come with their kids and the kids aren't behaving, they can pray there, and not disturb everyone else. Then they have babysitting service as well, so there's absolutely no excuse to see kids running around, screaming, crying, etc. in the mosque, in the prayer room that's supposed to be quiet! I just hate it when people don't control their children, really hate it. Also, I'm sure you folks teach Christian kids respect for the church. Muslim children should be taught to respect the mosque, cause its the house of God, a house of prayer. Its not a playground for heavens sake! They have volunteers trying to keep things under control, but people just don't listen.

I don't see why oh why they have to disturb other people when there's a room for mothers with babies, and a huge room with babysitters caring for the kids. People can be sooooo selfish. Of course when someone tells them something, even politely, then they become the bad person.

[Cataholic]

Oh, I think you guys took that last comment kind of not how I meant it...

I was raised correctly. I have table manners, am professional, classy, don't wear white after labor day, can identify most crystal, know how to set a table, blah, blah, blah. But, I don't see myself as somehow lacking because I talk on a cell phone all day long, everywhere. I am not a loud person, so, maybe my cellphone talking is less 'offensive' then some others? But, I just don't get it at all.

I can't really see talking on a cell phone while waiting in a doctor's office (though I AM one of THOSE people that thinks my time is just as valuable as the doctor's and calls ahead for the wait time), nor, do I see talking on a phone in church (? do people really do that?), and I laugh at the gym people that do it...JUST like I laugh at the gym people that stand around and talk-real time real place- as it is just such a waste of time to be in a gym and do nothing. But, sitting outside Starbucks waiting on someone? At the grocery? Heck yeah...I put the phone into my pocketbook when I ring out, just as i would stop talking to my friend.


I really think it is the WAY people talk on cell phones (or as a group of people talking really loud in a restaurant, or walking five abreast, or drive the car with the music so loud, or the ,etc.).

I just don't see the issue with cell phones.

Now, I am off to write some thank you notes for some gifts less someone think I wasn't brought up correctly????