I am so sorry you have had to go through this!
I agree that maybe Mr Magoo is suffering from a sensory overload, and he needs to take things slowly. BUT what I will say is NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS you need to establish your position as dominant leader in the heirarchy. (Case in point - Ally would never bite my husband, but has badly hurt me on several occasions).
Jazzcat's honesty has prompted me to share my experiences with Ally.
I have gone through hell over the past 5 months, with Connor and Ally's introduction. I haven't really posted about it, as I have felt depressed and defeated by the whole thing. Things do now seem to be improving, although this evening was another "rough" night.
Ally has on 3 occasions SAVAGED me - I do not use the term lightly. I have given birth 3 times, and the pain ranks RIGHT UP THERE!!! On the last (worst) occasion I completely lost the use of my right arm for 3 days - I could not write, type or drive. I was black and blue from my palm to above my wrist, and needed hospital teatment. I found it profoundly upsetting on 2 levels (1) that Ally could be capable of hurting me so badly, and destroying my trust, and (2) the physical pain, and worry that she would hurt one of my kids. I have scars which will take years to fade.
Her anger (no doubt resulting from a deep resentment towards me for bringing Connor into the house), seems to be exclusively directed at me, and she has never shown any inclination to attack anyone else.
It has changed my relationship with her - I cannot let her sleep with me (even for a nap during the day), and never turn my back on her.
For what it;s worth I fully understand your feelings right now - the pain, hurt and bewilderment.
All I can say is that I hope the situation improves. (((HUGS))) to you - if you need to chat or vent please post or PM me.
Julie
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