I need advice!

[sweet_stormy]

Okay, Colubus Day Weekend is coming up and I need some advice. Okay, this guy that I like (he's about 20 years old) is coming to NY for a visit (he's in the Air Force) and he told me that he wants to see me and do IT with me and he said that when he arrived in NY he was going to call me. I don't know what to do. I am scared. I am almost 14 years old. Please, I need advice.

~sweet_stormy~

[slick]

First off, have you ever seen this guy in person?? How did you meet? Do your parents know about him??

My first reaction is DON'T GO TO SEE HIM!!!! If he thinks that coming into town for a weekend will get him something, then he's not worth liking and will never give you the respect you deserve.

[sweet_stormy]

yes, I know him. He went to my school.

[aly]

Please do not meet that guy AT ALL! He is bad news. What he wants to do is ILLEGAL and he can go to prison for that!

Please don't let this ruin your childhood. Be young while you can and don't try to grow up too fast. There will be plenty of time for that later.

[slick]

Sorry I'm confused. If you are almost 14 and he's 20 how could he have gone to the same school. If he graduated 3 yrs ago at 17 you would have still been in elementary school.

Correct me if I'm wrong....

[KYS]

sweet_stormy: I am scared. I am almost 14 years old.>>>>>>>

I think you just answered your own question.
It obviously doesn't feel right, DON"T DO IT
and DON'T meet this guy.
Call me old fashion, but I think "doing it" should be
special, and saved for that special person that
you are 100% shure cares about you, and visa a versa.

A 20 year old, you are not dating wants to come up
for the weekend and "DOT IT" to a 14 year old
does not care for you in the way that I am speaking of.

Just my two cents.

[babolaypo65]

Aly is right. What he is proposing is statutory rape. And he SHOULD know that. In most states the definition of statutory rape says if one person is 13 or if there is more than a three year age difference between the two people and one is under the age of 18 its RAPE as far as the law is concerned. Any 20 year old MAN who doesn't know that is not responsible enough to have sex.

You know what to do. Remember our posts about older-younger dating? We all said that it was okay (or most of us) if BOTH people were above the age of 18. (and some of us felt it was ok if both were close to 18)

He may be a nice guy, he may be fun and exciting, but a 20 year old MAN who wants to have sex with a 13 year old is immature at best, and a sick creep at worst. You're a sweet person. Funny, and smart... but he should WANT to be with someone who is an adult. And you deserve to wait until you're older, and ready, and in love with someone who loves and respects you.

Please don't do it.
You can PM me any time. I used to teach high school, and I used to teach sex education... nothing makes me blush.

[tikeyas_mom]

what the guy said is illegal, that is called rape if you guys actually went through with it, I am a lil confused about the school thing to... I really hope you dont meet him. .. .

[Soledad]

This guy ought to be reported. You are thirteen years old. Any man that wants to have sex with a thirteen year old girl has to be severely disturbed at worst and completely immature at best. There has to be some reason why he can't get women his own age.

[G.P.girl]

please dont go see him! take it from me i am 14 and i know that

guys like that dont really care about you. they just want to do it

with you then ditch you....no matter what he says it's true...

[Kfamr]

Are you being serious?

One simple word for you to say to him: NO.

DON'T give out your personal information, such as phone and address to this creep.

[binka_nugget]

along with what others have said...go with your instinct! You said you were scared..that is not a good thing when it comes to something like that. Tell him no and to cool it. If he's still interested when you're ALOT older, then fine..but right now, you're still a child and he is barely out of that adolescent stage.

[popcornbird]

OMG!

DO NOT go with this guy! DO NOT give him ANY personal information about your address, phone number, etc. TELL YOUR PARENTS. This guy has no good intentions and you need to be aware of that. You're a child and there's no reason for anyone to do that to you at such a young age! Say NO!

Ps. For those who are wondering about the guy being in the same school as her in the past, it could be *possible* if the school they went to is K-8 grade, or even K-6 with her being in kindergarten and him being in 5th or 6th.

[Kfamr]

Yeah and i'm sure he's been wanting to "do her" all this time.

[tikeyas_mom]

Originally posted by Kfamr
Yeah and i'm sure he's been wanting to "do her" all this time.

lol