Miley girl had a BAD, BAD day!

[sasvermont]

When I left for work yesterday, I let Miley have the run of 1/2 of the house, behind two closed doors. Ti had the other half which is pretty standard these days. When I got home, one door on Miley's half was open, Miley was on the porch, hovered in a corner with poop and pee on her back end and side, she looked awful and scared to death. She let me pick her up and I took her directly to the bathtub for a bath. Ti was asleep somewhere in the house. There was fur all over the porch and I couldn't really tell who's it was, as they both have the same colored fur. I haven't found any wounds on either of them. To make a long story short, Miley is really scared of Ti now. I think I am going to have to put her on some sort of drug, to calm her down. What a mess.

She looked and acted so scared this morning as I was leaving. I made sure the doors were securely closed.

I am seriously thinking about returning Ti. Cats!

[HayleyRosie]

I am so sorry to hear about Miley's bad experience. I would love to hear that her and Ti are getting along and love each other. I know you will do what is best for both of your furbabies. I will pray for you, Miley and Ti. Please keep us posted on their progress.

[Pam]

Oh my, poor precious little Miley! It's times like these that it would be nice to have a video camera playing at home in order to see what goes on when the humans are away. I am afraid that things must have really gotten out of hand this time. Coming home to that must have certainly shaken you up too!!! Thank goodness there were no signs of injury or any bleeding. My two can really toss the fur when they get doing their rolypoly antics but this sounds a little scary to me, certainly not even rough play, but probably an outright cat fight. Maybe you might just want to call Ti's breeder and let them know what has been going on just in case, worst case scenario, that things get even worse with the arrival of Juni. One really needs to have the wisdom of Solomon to handle feuding felines. I am afraid I am totally lacking in experience in that area, but do wish you well with whatever path you have to take. I know you are feeling so torn right now.

[sasvermont]

I emailed the breeder a while back and let her know what was going on. She portrayed Ti as being a non-alpha kitty. Well, that just isn't true. He isn't violent, but he does want to be king. Gabe was mean sometimes, but he knew his place in the house pecking order and stuck with the program. I think that is why he worked out so nicely. Ti, on the other hand is trying to be king and Miley just won't stand for it.

When I emailed the breeder, her response was "well, he was rough with his roommate Aby girl cat but she was rough right back..."....which doesn't give me much hope for the kitten.

I will keep a close eye on the kitten and if I sense that Ti is being too rough, bye bye Ti. I love him, and he loves me now, but I have to live in my house with some peace. If he doesn't learn to back down, then he will have to go!

He is a highly desired kitty, and pretty darn flexible, so I think he would adjust to a new house quickly, as he did mine, for the most part.

I want peace in my house, not what I have now.

One and one half more months.....

[Pam]

I feel so bad for you with what you are going through now. When I got Ripley I was sooooo concerned that he would be a 'cat chaser.' I can't say that he doesn't try it now and then but he responds very well to NO! Even when he does catch up with them he doesn't do anything but I just wanted everything to remain as peaceful as it was before so I was very anxious about how he would do.

Your breeder sounds a little more receptive than Gabe's breeder. The people who Robyn got Gabe from tried to return him when their son supposedly developed allergies. The breeder would not even consider taking him back, and Gabe was still only maybe 10 weeks old at the time. We thought that was VERY odd. I know if I bred any animal I would most certainly want it back if it didn't work out with the new owners.

Here's hoping it doesn't come to that, but you have to do what you have to do for Miley's sake. This is very sad indeed but the thought of more fights is even worse. (((hugs)))

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Originally posted by sasvermont
hovered in a corner with poop and pee on her back end and side, she looked awful and scared to death.

How horrible! And this is not good. The poop and pee means she really was scared to death and certainly not just faking it. Was it somewhat dried on her or did it look relatively "fresh?" Sorry to be so descriptive, but that would be a good indicator of just how long she had been huddled in the corner like that. And I wonder if that happened during the fight or if she was too scared to leave the corner?

I'm sooo sorry you are having to go through this SAS. Even though Miley might be a little bit of a prima donna, she was there first, and most certainly doesn't deserve this - poor kitty.

It's easy for me to talk because I haven't been there and bonded with Ti, but he doesn't seem to be trying to fit in at all, and seems to be wearing out his welcome a bit. I feel bad for him, but like you say, he would probably get along anywhere.

I sure hope there are no more incidences like this, but at least you know now how rough he can be so you can keep an extra eye on him with the kitten. If Miley was that scared, I'd hate to see what he'd do with a kitten.

Hugs to you SAS, and to little Miley girl too, but none for the big bully Ti, who is definitely in the doghouse now.

(Gee, guess my loyalties are with Miley also, I feel so bad for her even though she can be a little...witchy...sometimes. A little swat here and there, or a little spat now and then, but she does not deserve this. )

[shais_mom]

Poor Miley and poor you!
Have you tried rescue remedy?
I think that is what Kimmy and Kelly are using.
Good Luck!

[Edwina's Secretary]

Oh Ti....PLEASE be a good boy and be friends with Miley. She has had a rough time of it.

I think you are sooooooo gorgeous.....please, please, please behave!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

[PayItForward]

Hurry up June & Juni Rose.
Maybe the third cat will help.
It did in our house, though things are tougher at yours.

Thinking of you.

[sasvermont]

T & P's Mom: it was fairly fresh and it looked as though she had just continued to sit frozen at the cat door (that was locked shut)...although the porch door was wide open. Miley was accustomed to using the cat door and I had locked it so they would not use it when I was least expecting them to....... and she must have been too scared to use the regular porch door that was quite a distance from the cat door. Poor baby. She had a frantic look in her eyes. By the time we went to bed, she had decided it was safe enough to come down from the closet shelf and cuddle with me.

Ti is so lovable. I just don't get it. He has NEVER made an attempt to scratch me, or bite me or get away when I clip his nails etc. I really do think the problem is Miley and he just adds insult to injury! Ugh. I am sick from it. I cannot live this way!

[slick]

SAS I'm soooo sorry you are having such trouble. I've never been in that situation so I'm afraid I cannot offer much advice. Just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I pray that things get better for you all! I feel so bad for all of you. I can't imagine living with that much fighting.

[lailamara]

SAS I'm so sorry that things are so difficult. You will do what's best for everyone's saftey and happiness (yours too). Aby females are rather high-strung (I've only had two ). She may just not be able to adjust , but here's hoping for a breakthrough. I've got some cat behaviour books that I'll look through and if there is anything helpful i'll PM you.

[catland]

That's so sad, but you're right that Ti just might not be the right cat to co-exist with Miley. There are plenty of passive, gentle kitties out there who are not at all agressive (my sweet Joxer is one of them)

good luck - it must be so trying.

[catlady1945]

Some households are better with just a single animal. Cats are very territorial and there is nothing wrong with just having one rather than adopting and then unadopting.

[jenluckenbach]

This is such a sad situation. I have no advice. I have never had a cat not adjust. Best of luck whatever you decide.