Mom still doesn't get it...and I keep winding up in tears...

[Catty1]

Part 1: Financial Situation - Self-employed. Not (yet) making enough to cover all my bills and pay anything on my large line of credit.

Line of credit was taken out when I needed to consolidate my start-up expenses last year; one condition is that they paid out my mortgage as well. I have small investments that pay something on it every 3 months...but at this rate I won't pay it off in my lifetime.

My idea - sell my present place which will wipe out the LOC, and leave me something over.

Part 2: related to the above - achieving a predictable and liveable income. This is why I am doing the sleep test etc and consulting with my doc and a life/career coach (a professional and friend who is working pro bono!) so I can GET to the point where I need less than 11 hours sleep and am not so dragged out.


Mom, for all her undergrad and Masters' degree, cannot see the link between my lack of sleep and not being able to pay attention on the job (as well as the memory gaps). She thinks I should stay where I am for 2 - 3 years, use part of my investments to make a hole in the LOC, and wait til my income is more to where I can afford another place. (Mobile home is affordable, and I will have my OWN laundry!)

Thank God I have a couple of friends who support me, but it is hard, as Mom is the only family I have left.

She wants to come over and help me 'organize' the place. I keep saying I am not ready - and I'm not. Not ready for any negativity. I want to wait until I start the CPAP machine on the 9th and hopefully gain some energy to deal with her and everything else.

I am venting, sort of...if anyone here can look at my financial plan and give me feedback, please PM me as I don't want to lay out details here.

Thanks.

[happylabs]

I am not real good with planning and figures but I can give you some moral support. I can totally relate to lack of sleep causing memory issues. Our brains and bodies are just like rechargeable batteries. If they do not get recharged, they do not work properly. It is tough when you have a parent or loved one that is into the negativity thing. My father was always like that. However, the more he told me I couldn't do something, the more I wanted to prove him wrong!

Hang in there. Hope things get better soon for you.

[Kirsten]

I'm with you on this one, Candace!

I'm afraid I cannot offer any helpful advice, but I know how hard life can be with a constant lack of energy. I'm in the same situation, unemployed even, and I don't see any perspective how I can ever do another job without being burned out again in no time!

We just have to hope that things will get better for us one day!

Kirsten

[Catty1]

Thanks, you two...

Kirsten, I don't know if you read my other posts. I had a sleep test and found out I have sleep apnea, which really saps energy. I stop breathing or brealy stop 15 times an hour!

Have you had a sleep study done? It just takes overnight. Might be worth checking out.

Also - any thoughts of using prints of your photos to raise funds for animal shelters and the like? They would love that!

[Queen of Poop]

Behind you 100% dear!! I'm here anytime you need to vent, a shoulder, anything. I'm not sure I'd be much help with your financial info right now, got enough of those troubles of my own right now.

[Catty1]

Thanks, Gayle...with my depression and ADD symptoms, which might also be aggravated by my sleep apnea, I am afraid to even TRY for a 'real job' as I have gone through about 11 of them since moving to Alberta some 10 years ago.

I hope I get this figured out.

[wombat2u2004]

Kirsten, I don't know if you read my other posts. I had a sleep test and found out I have sleep apnea, which really saps energy. I stop breathing or brealy stop 15 times an hour!

Candace, if you don't have the CPAP machine yet, I have a suggestion that may help you until you do get the machine.
Sleep on your side with your head hanging slightly over the edge of the bed.
It keeps your air passages open. It may be a little uncomfortable to stay that way all night, but perhaps you could wake and swap sides from time to time. That's what I was told to do by my specialist whilst waiting for my machine to arrive.
Hope that helps.

As for your financial position......don't ask me mate, I'm bloody useless with money....LOLOL. But I hope it will all work out well for you.

Wom