waiting for the chaplain to arrive

**caseysmom** · 03-31-2009, 11:16 AM

My daughter has been chosen to "die" in the every 15 minute program.

The California Highway Patrol and the Law Enforcement Chaplain are due to arrive at any minute to notify me that my child has been killed in an alcohol related collision.

Will I cry? It is wierd....has anyone else ever been involved?

Good news is she will be sequistered for 24 hours

**finn's mom** · 03-31-2009, 11:19 AM

Oh wow, I can't even imagine how you'll react! Be sure to share with us afterwards.

**Taz_Zoee** · 03-31-2009, 12:19 PM

I don't have children, but I've seen these on TV before and I'd probably cry. In fact I have cried watching the small blurbs on TV.
It's a very powerful thing.

**caseysmom** · 03-31-2009, 12:29 PM

They just came, I felt bad because I didn't cry....I knew it wasn't real and I couldn't pretend...after they told me I just sat there....I hope I am not the only mom that didn't cry how embarrasing...

There will be a parent vigil thing tonight and a funeral tomorrow...

**Laura's Babies** · 03-31-2009, 12:34 PM

I wouldn't ever want to PRETEND something like that happened... Gee whiz, that is the worst day in any mothers life...

I understand it needs to be done but I couldn't do it...

(I had that knock on the door one night and got that news.. I didn't cry, I was just to stunned)

**caseysmom** · 03-31-2009, 12:36 PM

I am sure it will be hard at the funeral...my daughter was mad that she didn't get to be one of them at the crash scene at the school...

one of my neighbors drove by when I was walking the chaplain to the door...who knows what he thinks...

**moosmom** · 03-31-2009, 01:29 PM

I had a cop come to my door and ask me if I was who I was. I said yes, and the cop said, "It's your Dad." I knew the day would come but it never EVER prepares you for what you are about to see or smell. And believe me, the sight and smell of death is something that stays with you forever.

I'm just glad this was only a practice. Mine was NOT a dress rehearsal, unfortunately.

**Medusa** · 03-31-2009, 01:36 PM

I couldn't do it. I wouldn't want to attract that situation to me in any form. You're made of stronger stuff than I.

**caseysmom** · 03-31-2009, 02:53 PM

I know what you mean Donna, I found my mom, 911 made me try to resucciteate her even though I knew it was too late.

Laura's babies...hugs...I can't even imagine, I am sorry if this thread reminded you of that night but if I can help one mother not get that knock I don't mind. I was glad I had the day off, otherwise they want to come to your work...two coworkers of mine got that knock at night so I would not have agreed to that.

I had front row tickets to the kings game tonight to see my favorite nba player of all time get his jersey retired but this meant a lot to my daughter.

Medusa...this is trying to NOT attract that situation, I think my daughter is learning a good lesson, she just got her licence 2 weeks ago.

My other daughter texted me that there is an obituary for my daughter in the hallway at school and there is a tombstone on the lawn. Parents don't get to go to the crash scene this afternoon.

**Medusa** · 03-31-2009, 03:56 PM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

Medusa...this is trying to NOT attract that situation, I think my daughter is learning a good lesson, she just got her licence 2 weeks ago.

Oh I'm not finding fault w/her; just stating that I just wouldn't want to get that vibe going. As I said, she's made of stronger stuff than I.

**caseysmom** · 03-31-2009, 04:17 PM

One girl has to be taken to the morgue in a body bag and have her clothes cut off, two are life fighted to area hospitals and one boy is arrested and taken to jail so my daughters role in minimal compared to them.

**Taz_Zoee** · 03-31-2009, 05:15 PM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

One girl has to be taken to the morgue in a body bag and have her clothes cut off, two are life fighted to area hospitals and one boy is arrested and taken to jail so my daughters role in minimal compared to them.

Have her clothes cut off!!

No way!! The only way I'd be "ok" with that to happen is if I'm unconcious or dying. I would never agree to "act" that part of it out. I'm way too shy.

**caseysmom** · 03-31-2009, 05:38 PM

They tell that particular girl to wear modest underwear

I would wear a bathing suit...well I wouldn't do it but if I was 17 and had a cute body thats what I would do

Its funny I am not sad at all I am sort of amused that she is sequistered by the California Highway Patrol and she is there problem for the evening...

**boomersooner** · 03-31-2009, 05:39 PM

Wow! That would sorta freak me out, but I think it will stick with these kids' for a long time, hopefully!!

**caseysmom** · 03-31-2009, 05:57 PM

They spend a lot of money on the program and there are statistics showing it helps...its actually not every 15 minutes anymore its more like 35 or 40 so that is good.

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