Still worried about Luna's and Lily's safety! (update #33)

[Kirsten]

For a couple of days, I hesitated to write about this, most of all because I wanted to respect the privacy of a family close to me. Like I mentioned before in my "I'm back home"-thread there's a problem with my neighbors, and this keeps me worrying since I came back.

Well, I don't wanna go into details, so let me tell you just this: My neighbor has severe problems atm and isn't herself anymore. If that term leaves room for speculation, assume the worst. Right now she's abroad, but should be brought back the next days.

She was originally supposed to look after Luna and Lily while I was in hospital, but in the weeks before I left, she already did some weird things and we had an argument about that (because one of the things she did affected me a lot), and at that point, she started blaming me for all her misery. So I decided that my mom looked after the girls, and not her.

A wise decision, as it turned out. Many things happened while I was away; she went downhill quickly, and a mutual friend filled me in. Amongst other things, she told me that my neighbor had mentioned she would do something to my cats, like chasing them out of the house!!! Ever since I heard these news, I'm terrified!! I'm still in shock to learn how close I was to lose Luna and Lily!!!

And what if she's coming back? I assume she'll be admitted to a facility when she's back in Germany, but what if she's released from there sooner or later and comes back home? Can I ever trust her again, even if she's on medication? Will my girls be safe here? Do you think it's better I move?

Believe me, this is not the homecoming I expected to have!!!

Kirsten

[sasvermont]

A friend of mine just recently gave me some very good advice: Pray for or wish for what you want to happen, not for what you don't want to happen. In other words, think and act to the positive, not the negative.

I couldn't figure out what you were trying to say as to what went wrong with your neighbor, but if it scares you that much, maybe a move is in order.

Glad to hear you are home and are safe and sound.

[Kirsten]

I couldn't figure out what you were trying to say as to what went wrong with your neighbor,

Just pm'ed you.

Kirsten

[Pawsitive Thinking]

You shouldn't let her drive you out but just be safe in the knowledge that your precious girls shouldn't be entrusted to her

[Laura's Babies]

If you don't let your girls outside I wouldn't worry about that neighbor. If she starts coming around making trouble, call the law and let them deal with her.

Just remember in your prayers at night to ask Him to keep you and your girls safe from all harm and to help your neighbor get well.

[Taz_Zoee]

Does this person have access to your home? If yes, get the locks changed NOW. Otherwise, just don't let her anywhere near you or the girls.
But with what you've been dealing with personally, it might be a better idea for you to move, so you won't have to live stressing about what she might/could do. Although, moving itself is not always stress-free either.
Oh my. I hope everything works out for the best.

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Does this person have access to your home? If yes, get the locks changed NOW. Otherwise, just don't let her anywhere near you or the girls.
.

my advise too! I would also avoid any possible contact with her !

[Karen]

Don't worry about your girls, okay? They will be fine, and you are there for them. If and when she returns, she'll likely have other things to concern her.

Treasure your peace now, I am sure it is nice to be back home.

[Kirsten]

Does this person have access to your home?

She used to have, I always had a second key to my apartment hidden in the stairways. She knew where it was, but I put it away before I left for the clinic. Call it instinct, but the weeks before I left, I already felt she couldn't be trusted anymore.

I would also avoid any possible contact with her

This is the same advice my doctor (who is also her doctor) gave me. But it won't be easy as we live in the same house (she lives one floor down).

However, they entire thing is so sad and scary! We used to be something like friends, I often went downstairs to chat with her, and she's also been a co-worker of mine. Now her disease turned everything into a nightmare.

Kirsten

[Kirsten]

Geez, I try so hard to get back to normal, but it's not easy to forget that there was this threat towards Luna and Lily. It's like a dark cloud hanging over me these days!

I look at them and see them in their sweetness and innocence, and the thought of the horror that almost happened is weighing heavy on my heart.

Kirsten

[Emeraldgreen]

I'm sure your girls must be so happy to be with you again.
Maybe you should get your lock changed and new keys. That way you will know there aren't any copies of keys around.

[Catty1]

Kirsten - I remember you saying, before you went into hospital, that you didn't really have any friends to look after your girls. You said something about your increasing poor health having contributed to that.

It sounds like your neighbour is experiencing the same thing - maybe a different illness, but an illness nonetheless.

Perhaps she has lost friends also, because of her moods, which she needs professional treatment to help.

Rather than fear, perhaps reaching out to her with some understanding would help.

Something like a little card showing you understand: "I remember when we had a good friendship and enjoyed knowing each other. As you know, I have been unwell, and had to go away for treatment.
When I got back, I heard you were in hospital. I hope you feel better soon."

Not exactly those words - just identifying with her situation as much as you can because of what you have experienced. Perhaps that will help the fear.

Just my sense of it - people are not the danger here; fear is.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[pitc9]

{{hugs}} to you and your girls!

[Kirsten]

The situation's getting worse here; I wish we had a private forum here at Pet Talk so I could tell you all the details!

Anyway, at this point, I think I need to rehome Luna and Lily as they are no longer safe here, at least until I find another place for us to live. I'm really, really scared!!! I don't know how to pay the money for a move, nor do I know how to make it in this poor health state, but we're definitely not safe here. Geez, this is such a nightmare, and I'm at my wits end!!!

Kirsten

[Catty1]

Kirsten - call the police, tell them what is going on, and ask them to do something!

I don't know about Germany, but here police can have someone committed to hospital against their will.

PLEASE call them.