My dog passed away

[shes_a_pirate]

My dog Ollie was hit by a car in late December and I unfortunatly witnessed the whole thing. I cried my eyes out, I couldnt get the memory of him getting hit out of my head.
He had been my dog since I was 5 and we were very very close. Does anyone have any advice to help get rid of those bad last memories?

[Taz_Zoee]

RIP Ollie.
Unfortunately, I do not have any suggestions to help forget what you saw. The only thing I can tell you is to remember all the good times you had with Ollie. Do you have any pictures of him you could share with us? Maybe sharing pictures and telling stories about him will help you put the accident further back in your mind. I'm sorry.

[blue girl]

I'm so sorry you had to witness that, and I also do not know of any way to keep that image from your mind, except to say that it will fade in time, and that your memories of all the good times you shared will prevail.

[Pawla]

I wish I did. I witnessed my Cocker Spaniel, Evans, get hit by a car when I was nine. I'm now thirty-seven. I can still remember it vividly when I think about it. I think as time goes by you won't think about it as much, so it won't be in your mind all the time. I'm so sorry for your loss. It is a very tragic thing to witness.

[shes_a_pirate]

Thanks so much for you kind words, they mean so much.

I have one picture on me at the moment that i can share,

[Pawla]

What a sweet face! He was a handsome boy!

[cyber-sibes]

What a sweet boy. I lost my dog to a car too, but I didn't see it. i did hear it, though, and it does linger. All I can suggest is that you "reframe" the incident and give it a better ending. Imagination is a powerful tool for healing.


Sit in a chair, relax for a few minutes. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, releasing the air slowly and feel any tension leving your body with it. Focus on happy memories of Toby for a few minutes. Now imagine that day, and replay everything up to the moment you saw the car coming, and then imagine that Toby miraculously escaped being hit, and instead, after the car passed, picture him standing on the other side, wagging his tail and looking at you. The look in his eyes tells you he is alright. Imagine a glowing light begins to surround him, and feel in your heart that he is safe & whole, which he is. Even talk to him out loud, and tell him how happy you are to know he still looks in on you, and he's in a safe place.
As you watch, he slowly fades, or rises, or whatever fits your idea about crossing over, and listen for his happy bark as you lovingly release him on his journey. Take as long as you need to, and embrace the image of him safe & whole, before opening your eyes.

I truly hope this helps, these kind of meditations helped me heal from the sudden loss of my Rosie when she was hit. The pain never goes away, but it does lessen.

Toby sure has a cute face, such soulful eyes.

[CagneyDog]

What a pretty dog. I'm so sorry about your loss. {{hugs}}

[Kfamr]

I'm so sorry to hear about this. Rest well, Ollie.

I wish I could help ease your pain. Just think, Ollie is now free of pain and constantly watching over you with a smile!