Is it possible to friends with an ex?

[beeniesmom]

Help me out here guys....
I don't feel like explaining the situation.

Is it possible to be friends with an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/wife companion etc?

Please indicate why as well, if you feel like it.

[DrKym]

My ex and I had a amiciable split, he lived with us the last 2 years until he passed away last august.

So yes it is possible, depends on the terms of the relationship, and how and why you are splitting.

Good luck.

[ramanth]

I think it's possible. Even though my last ex-boyfriend and I broke up under not the nicest of circumstances, we're still civil to each other. We don't hang out, but he calls me at work something like once a year just to see how I'm doing.

[Puckstop31]

It is possible but not a good idea, IMHO. The trouble comes when one of you find a new relationship. Double the risk if the couple has been intimate together.

Once you cross the "sex line", the die is cast for better or worse.

[Jamieejo85]

I put yes. One of my ex's is still one of my best friends. We hang out quite often actually .. along with my boyfriend and his new girlfriend. It was kind of awkward at first but I was with him a long time and didn't want to lose his friendship and I am glad I put in the effort to make it work.

[LilacDragon]

The relationship that I have with my soon to be ex husband is AMAZING!

We live 4 hours apart and don't see each other very often (about once a month) but we talk almost daily on the phone.

We were together for almost 11 years. We both agreed last night that we are a great couple when we don't live together.

[Lobodeb]

It is very possible.

I am very good friends with an ex-boyfriend of mine. I just came to the conclusion that I could still talk to and confide in him even though he's a terrible boyfriend.

Good luck, Carmen.

[finn's mom]

I think it depends on the situation. I know I have always been able to be friends with exes. I was friends with my ex-husband until his new wife put the kabosh on that. She was actually the one who wanted us all to hang out, and then within five minutes of meeting me, she changed her mind and was really hateful to me. Oh, well. Her loss. And, I typically don't date men who have insecurity issues where it would become a problem for me to still be friends with guys I've dated in the past. If my fiance has a problem with a guy I've dated, it's because he doesn't like the guy, not because he's an ex.

I don't know what your situation is, but i'm sorry you're in it.

[angelbow20]

Well I was friends with my ex who is my sons father until his evil girlfriend came around. We talked all the time and hungout and then he started dated this girl, well now he doesnt see his son and she doesnt want him to be in his sons life and after 8 yrs of friendship we dont speak or anything anymore

[Uabassoon]

My best friend is actually an ex-girlfriend. We broke up though because we realized that we were best friends and not really in love with each other. The great thing is that because we were together she knows me better than anyone else. She's always able to give me the best advice especially when it comes to my relationship with Alexa since she knows exactly how I act when I'm in a relationship.

[Barbara]

It depends on the persons.
My ex-husband is a very good friend of ours. We had a period while we were divorcing in which it was not easy. But we always were decided that when we chose to get married we chose an interesting person- and I suppose we both were not ready to think bad of our judgment (You know, when people say "What an *?&%?X* my ex is" you always wonder why they didn't notice it earlier).

So after we were separated we kept in contact and have so ever after. He and his wife have stayed at our place and we at theirs. Didier (my ex) still is in the area where I am from and after the death of my dad he helped me with my mom (and we are divorced now 25 years)- he got her a new TV set when hers broke down and even went with her to see the lawyers when she sold our house and I could not come as often as needed as it is 400 miles away.

I am also still friends with old boyfriends of mine- I think the men in my life are a very fine collection (small but precious ).

[sparks19]

I would say yes. My father is great friends with all of his ex wives lol. In fact, him and his g/f would go golfing with my mom and step dad all the time. And when we all went to Florida few years ago one of the other people on the trip was his first ex wife. there is no annimosity there at all. they all even joke about what a terrible married couple they made hahaha.

[Edwina's Secretary]

I think if you were friends as well as lovers it is very possible. I have been friends with long ago boyfriends. Met their wives....my college boyfriend named his first child after me.

Time and distance have taken their toll on the relationships as well as different lifestyles, etc.

But, of course, it really depends on so many factors....just the other day I asked my husband why he never communicates with his ex-wife. Now the children are grown he finds nothing to talk to her about.

[Vio&Juni]

Definitely! I agree with Barbara here - when you start dating or when you marry someone it is for something special.

One of my ex-boyfriends is still a very good friend - we went out a few times with him and his wife. We call each other from time to time. If it didn't work out for us as a couple, that doesn't make him less my friend.

[mike001]

Very possible and very important to remain friends if there are children involved. I voted yes because of a few friends who are split but are great friends. As long as they don't live together they're both great.