Really need opinions....

[caseysmom]

I have a question and I am asking because I am really not sure about this, would help to get some other views.

My niece graduated from a pharmacy tech vocational program...this she completed about 3 or 4 weeks ago. I have to really nag her to go look for a job, she has had one interview.

Okay this sounds horrible but she is really homely looking...she had extremely thick orange hair and will not blow dry it, I dry it and straigtened it several times to show her and she just won't do it. The reason why I mentioned this is because I think it will be a bit hard for her to get a job working with the public...she is very socially challenged.

Now for the question...there are several pharmacy tech jobs starting at 2500 a month will full retirement and medical benefits for the state...only catch is they are at the mental institutions or prisons. My take is she needs to do what she needs to do to get a job, I can't imagine they would put her in harms way. At least interview and look at where you would be employed, she flat out refuses.

I am off today, I usually work during the day. She is just laying around the house, I told her if your not going to go look for a job go wash your car, it hasn't been washed since I helped you 2 months ago and its embarrasing to have it parked out front like that, you have to clean your car.

Anyway, am I being crazy expecting her to apply at a mental institution or prison?

[Catty1]

I think you ought to go back to the ultimatum of shape up or ship out.

Could the military not use someone with her skills?

Nagging won't do any good. I think this girl has problems....reminds me of my bouts with clinical depression. Has she ever been checked for this?

Otherwise, start cooking and cleaning just for yourself.

Sorry...just not liking this. Maybe she has to be ignored...in her house, it sounds like negative attention was better than none at all...

[caseysmom]

catty...I have 2 teenagers (one of them well thats another story) so I make dinner most nights and we eat as a family, she never offers to help or clean up after NEVER.

I think she needs to be assesed, I have asked her uncle to try to convince her of that.

The military has been broached to her with no response but I think the military would be fantastic for her. (and me she would move out!)

[Jadapit]

I think the girl needs to appy anywhere that she can get a job. I'm sure she wouldn't be in harms way at either of those places. Its amazing to me that she can get through school but she cant get off her butt to help you or say thank you for all you've done for her. I bet there are days you feel like tearing your hair out, hers to for that matter.

Are things going any better with you daughter? Aren't teenagers fun?

[caseysmom]

No things aren't really going better with my daughter either. She likes a boy that has been in trouble, he is in juvenille hall and sending her letters, my husband is having fits. I honestly don't see what she sees in him, she has had it bad for him since she was 13 and trying to mother him, I have heard her on the phone trying to keep him out of trouble.

Back to my niece...I have also looked into the peace corp...not even sure if they would accept her, they actually want you to have a 4 year degree...she has some college and a year of vocational. That would get her on a 27 month program in another county, hopefully would help her get some life skills too.

I told her today she HAD to wash her car, she did wash her car, the wet towels, bucket, and soap are strewn all over the lawn and she is laying on her bed.

[moosmom]

Caseysmom,

Your niece needs to do what she has to do in order to find a job. It's a tough world out there. I've been looking for full-time for about a year now, since I returned to CT from MI. Looking for a full-time job IS a full time job.

Tell her to try CareerBuilder.com, Monster.com (although I've heard that's a joke) and any other website she can find that will help her find work.

Having her assessed isn't a bad idea either. Depression can be really tough on you when you're trying to find work. The military will give her an excellent opportunity to use her skills and see the world. Any chance of maybe having a recruiting officer pay her a visit??? Just a thought.

Good luck!

[Lady's Human]

The military would be a BAD idea for someone with social problems, trust me.