I met someone but.. at a bar.. suggestion?

[CountryWolf07]

i think I met someone last night.. He is my type.. and he just walked up to me and told me he knew ASL sign and he wanted to sign a little, so he did that.. *Was that an icebreaker, because I think so*, and he asked me if he could buy me a drink, then asked me if i was leaving and i told him no, so he said good cause he wanted to talk to me more and i guess he said he wanted me to teach him more so he gave me his # and i have it.. and I guess I am too scared to call.. but should I just call him? Cause' he kept insisting how he wanted to sign more and he'd love to learn more...

Is it a good sign that he checked to see if we both had our #'s right on the phone, too?

[JenBKR]

I personally don't see anything wrong with meeting someone at a bar, my friend met her husband at a bar. I think the whole stigma attached to meeting someone at a bar has more to do with going home with that person that night, both people drunk.....you know what I mean? In any case, he sounds like a good person and I think you should call. Just be careful, (although I would give that advice no matter where you met him). And, if he's interested in learning more sign language from you, I think that shows that he's interested in more than just taking you home for the night. Just my own opinion.

[moosmom]

CountryWolf07

Just be careful

Great advice. Please be careful. Although I'm sure there is nothing wrong with meeting someone in a bar, there ARE alot of strange people in this world. I hope he is all you've dreamed of. Good luck.

[Cataholic]

Oh. Oh. I thought you were dating someone? I guess not.

Nothing wrong with meeting someone at a bar. "Nice" people go to a bar, you were there, right?

Go slow, go carefull, and go in groups. WAH! I am such a mother! (and, don't any of you wise guys be adding anything to that word. )

[Ally Cat's Mommy]

(and, don't any of you wise guys be adding anything to that word. )

LOL Johanna - I am sure the thought never even crossed anyone's mind

I agree with the others - take it slow and be careful.

I also agree that there is nothing wrong with meeting someone in a bar - after all you have to meet SOMEWHERE!! (I'll bet you that if you ask on PT where people met their SO's you will get a lot of VERY intersting answers. I met my hubby when a friend of mine thought she had dialled a wrong number, got in a panic, and passed me the phone...guess who was on the other end of the line!! I know at least one PTer who has met their hubby online, so meeting in a bar is a pretty old-fashioned normal place to meet IMHO!!)

Re the ASL - It sounds like you have some common ground to start with, so why not take it slowly and see what happens.

[Daisy and Delilah]

I hope it works out well for you Best of luck. I agree with the fact that there are good people at bars too

[CountryWolf07]

Oh. Oh. I thought you were dating someone? I guess not.

Nothing wrong with meeting someone at a bar. "Nice" people go to a bar, you were there, right?

Go slow, go carefull, and go in groups. WAH! I am such a mother! (and, don't any of you wise guys be adding anything to that word. )

Nope. I'm not dating anyone right now - My ex dumped me 5 months ago. I am moving on and I'm ready to date someone again. So I'm kind of hoping, he'd be that person, but who knows..

I will call him later, see what he's up to for tomorrow night's game.. OSU/Iowa game.. good icebreaker?

[Cinder & Smoke]

I'm not dating anyone right now - My ex dumped me 5 months ago.

That louse!

Well, his loss, Your gain ... Keep on truckin!

And DON'T lower your standards - you deserve a *nice* guy - keep looking till
you find him!!

{{{Hugs}}} from Phred

[CountryWolf07]

That louse!

Well, his loss, Your gain ... Keep on truckin!

And DON'T lower your standards - you deserve a *nice* guy - keep looking till
you find him!!

{{{Hugs}}} from Phred

Oh thanks Phred! (hugs) I know I do deserve a nice guy, which I THINK this guy is a nice one... so hopefully we'll be friends and see what happens from there eventually.

I will never lower my standards to any guy, all I can do is to be myself and just let my personality show off. I am often told by my friends that I am impossible to forget because I leave an impression.

[zoey]

Hi! I'm glad you met someone nice, but take it slowly.
Did i understand you correctly? You both had given the other your numbers? If so, wait for him to call you.
Guys want you to be aloof in the beginning, trust me.
You don't have to play games, but just be patient and don't appear too eager. Just reserve your best for the right time and place, ya' know? Anyway, good luck!

[CountryWolf07]

Yes. I actually gave him my #, then he called my cell phone to get his number in it. He checked to make sure it was my # and I made sure it was his. So, it isn't fake or anything.

I did have his email address, but ha, it didn't work - but it figures.

I am going to call him eventually, see what's up and see if he wants to hang out.

I am so bad at this thing - dating - I don't know the games or the rules of dating, basically but I'm just gonna take it slow and see how it goes.

He was ONLY the guy that came up to me at the bar just to say hi and he kept apologizing if he'd offend me because I knew sign language and he wanted to participate in that and sign a little to me. He just talked to me, and I was with a group of friends, and he just came up and talked to me. When he asked to buy me a drink, I was thinking "ME?! Wow."

I don't have this happen to me much often, honestly.

[moosmom]

He sounds like a pretty swell guy to me! Good luck.

[BC_MoM]

That's really great! Give him a call! Even if a relationship doesn't work out, maybe a great friendship will! Good luck!

[Vette]

Thats how my mom and dad met,, and theyve been happily married 33 years (34 in Dec)

[Karen]

Yes. I actually gave him my #, then he called my cell phone to get his number in it. He checked to make sure it was my # and I made sure it was his. So, it isn't fake or anything.

I did have his email address, but ha, it didn't work - but it figures.

I am going to call him eventually, see what's up and see if he wants to hang out.

I am so bad at this thing - dating - I don't know the games or the rules of dating, basically but I'm just gonna take it slow and see how it goes.

He was ONLY the guy that came up to me at the bar just to say hi and he kept apologizing if he'd offend me because I knew sign language and he wanted to participate in that and sign a little to me. He just talked to me, and I was with a group of friends, and he just came up and talked to me. When he asked to buy me a drink, I was thinking "ME?! Wow."

I don't have this happen to me much often, honestly.

Wait a bit, then give him a call. It is 2006, it's okay for a girl to call a guy! Then if you want, set up a public place to meet, and have an ASL lesson plan in your head to start the conversation!