Very aggrivated right now!!!(9/3/09) UPDATED!

[coco-bean]

So my boyfriend has a very different teaching style when it comes to our dogs! Im always the one who feeds them, takes them outside, continue to try and help them learn their commands, give them treats and lots of love and praise and also bathe them! I always want to take them to the park but he never wants too! i go outside and throw the ball to her(coco, because cainan hasnt learned to fetch quite yet)!!!
BUT...my boyfriend on the other hand is very stern, i dont ask him to feed them because he doesnt give them enough, doesnt take them outside(and when he does, he throws a huge baby fit) doesnt give them treats, nor praise for that matter! He NEVER wants to participate in their lives...let alone mine(which is def. another story just in that) and just doesnt seem to like them most days! but for some reason coco still does what he ask's more then when i ask!(thats not the point tho) so anyways, im just aggitated because we just got home from the park and it was a total disaster, everytime coco doesnt go to him he freaks out and starts yelling at her to "come" and then when she finally does, she never gets anything, no pat on the head, no good coco, no nothing! I always yell at him for not being nice to them and not ever saying good girl coco, or good boy cainan! and he freaks out so much it just drives me crazy because i tell him all the time( i do mean all the time, so much that he's mad at me on a regular basis for it) and he still doesnt change!!! GRRRR....ticks me off!!!
Im the type of person that would rather have dogs for the rest of my life than have a child of my own(that may be selfish to some people, and some maybe not) but i'd rather give dogs who wouldnt normally of had a good life, the best life they could possibly have! but thats just me!
AHHH!!! I just needed to vent a little because no one else is as loving of their dogs in this house other than me, and i dont have anyone to talk to about it so i turn to my PT friends, who are always there to help me!! thank you all!!!

[chocolatepuppy]

Not agreeing on how to train a dog can cause many problems in a relationship, trust me, I know. My Lacey is the type of dog that needed total consistency as a puppy and hubby didn't go along much with it. While she has turned out to be a great dog, there are times when hubby is around she will disobey me because he is there. Our Mandy, who we recently lost, was an easy going dog, so not many problems there and I'm praying Layla will be also.
I too am the primary caretaker of all four of our furkids but hubby helps any time he is needed. Both Lacey and Mandy had many surguries/illnesses so of course we both had to pitch in. And now with a puppy of course we both need to take care of her.
If your boyfriend is not interested in your two dogs you are possibly headed for trouble with your dogs and your relationship. I wish you good luck with this situation.

[coco-bean]

I hope things work out for the best! Ill forever hold my dogs closer to my heart than my boyfriend! It will never change! If it came down to them or him leaving...it'd be him! I love them too much to push them off to the side and say "oh you'll find another home" that may be true, but this is there home! always will be!

[elizabethann]

It feels good to vent sometimes.

I have a question though. You said your boyfriend never wants to go to the park. Do you ever take Coco to the park without your boyfriend? You may meet some great people. People who love their dog(s) as much as you. Perhaps you'll meet a new friend. And maybe a new boyfriend? Sorry, but I had to sneak that in.

Anyhoo, good luck with your situation. I'm glad Coco has you.

[coco-bean]

haha, i kinda find myself sneaking that same question in everytime he says something rude or is mean....OR...just whenever haha! !!! i have taken her to the park a few times by myself and then by time i get home i find a very ticked off boyfriend because i didnt ask him to go! but oh well, thats his problem not mine!

[labmomma]

My first impression is, and I'm only expressing an opinion, is that you'd be better off without the boyfriend anyway. Your life is, obviously, very full because of the love you have for your dogs. You don't need to have the negativity that he brings to your life. He doesn't share the feelings you have for your dogs and that will always be a wedge between you. Furthermore, there isn't anything selfish in chosing not to be a parent if that's how you feel. Just some objective observations.
Labmomma

[coco-bean]

Okay im done, i've decided this is getting ridiculous! So I get up every morning between 6 and 6:45 and play with the puppies all day! well i just got back from wal-mart as you all know, I text andy and i told him i sure hope he isnt being a poop today, and he told me he was hungry! I ask him if he wanted eggs, he said yes! When i got home both dogs were in their crates whinning to get out(where is andy when all this is happening?) oh he's just PLAYING PS2 right next to them!! so i asked why he didnt let them out while he was out in the living room, his response "didnt want too" yea okay, so now lets see if i cook ur a** eggs! so he cooked himself the dumb eggs! i walked out in the kitchen to grab a pop from the fridge when he holds up the plate to coco and says sit, he gives her a HUGE piece of scrambled egg, and starts eating the rest himself, i dont know about anyone else, BUT i thought we had TWO dogs, not just one! Cainan was sitting their patiently for his piece of egg...he never got! GRRR...i think everything should be fair! they dont understand things like humans do(of course you all know that, but im just venting) that just isnt fair to give more to one dog then the other! he's so stupid!!!!

[coco-bean]

Ill have everyone know, i yelled at him and called him on everything he's done wrong to those dogs! he is now not talking to me! and his answer to everything after yelling at them is...*turn his head and continue watching tv* like nothing ever happened! except for the fact that he's mad at me! but who cares!

[Love That Collie]

Tonya,
This BOYfriend of yours IS an abusive personality, to say the very least There may be things that you do not know about him or maybe you do. He will not get better unless there is help for him and HE sees he needs help. He is abusive to you even though he might not have actually struck you.............yet. He sounds VERY immature and you are the one who has to decide whether you want to hitch yourself to his wagon, so to speak. You are not married to him so you are free to leave, even IF you WERE married to him you are free to leave. If he mistreats animals for whatever reason he can't be trusted with them. Who knows what he does to them when you are not around.

He sounds as though he does or could have an explosive temper at times. The way you describe it doesn't sound as though he treats you very well either. I would keep the dogs. Does he have any proof that HE has ownership of the dogs? Are they AKC registered or a bill of sale with his name on the papers?

[coco-bean]

there is no proof that he bought the dogs, the registration is totally in my name! I made sure i sent them in with my name only before he got ahold of them!

[Love That Collie]

Then by law they are yours.
Please, watch out for yourself and your fur-kids.
Has he always acted like this with the pups? Since you got them?