Rob didn't come home lastnight

[king2005]

I woke up at 7:30am & found myself on Rob's side of the bed, with NO Rob!
So I got up & looked to see if he was in his office, nope. Looked downstairs, nope & the car is gone.

I know Rob left at 11pm to go work on the server at work that wasn't starting up. BUT hes usually only gone a few hours & always back in bed. I asked Tom if he has heard from Rob. Tom had NO idea Rob was even gone

SO I called his cell, it was off
So I called his blackberry, which can never be turned off as he needs it to report server activity from work. It rang & rang & rang.. I left a panicked message as I was freaking out, cause the passwords on both laptops have been changed (not like him), so I couldn't get onto his msn to see if any of his co-workers knew where he was.

Rob messaged Tom a short message, stating that hes at work. Well thats NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME! I sent him a 2ed message asking him to call me as I'm worried.. nothing... So Tom sent him a message tell him to call me so I can stop freaking out... That was at 8:00am & its now 10:04am & still no call.

This isn't like him, he always calls me & always answers his phone.

I just want my Rob *cries more* !!!!

Toms really pissed cause I'm freaking out cause Rob's not calling me

[beeniesmom]

Don't panic. There is probably a good reason. Maybe he was in the server room and couldn't hear the /phone blackberry. My husband has a very similar job and the same happens to us occasionally. There is always a good reason why he didn't call or answer the phone. I usually get very pissed but in the end feel like a fool when there was nothing to panic about. I hope he calls soon to reassure you.
It usually is when he is in the server room.

[king2005]

His Blackberry vibrates. & I never had problems getting ahold of him in the server room (it litterly is just an office with 3 big servers in it).

No body is even at work as its sunday & they hardly work from home on the weekends.

Rob know how I get, as I have anxity

[king2005]

its now been 12 1/2 hrs...

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Btw, who is Rob?? Is he your husband or friend?

[king2005]

We're not married, but we've been in a 7yr relationship, so by law, he is my husband.

[king2005]

We just found out where he's been & why he was ignoring his phone.
He fell asleep in the server room. Apparently it was a MAJOR server that went down & it had to go back up ASAP!

It feels like a HUGE weight has been lifted off my chest.

I'm very attached to Rob as he's really all I have. I'm also not fully dependent (mentally) so it scares the hell out of me that I couldn't reach him. If I loose Rob, I'd have to move to PEI & live with dad or my sister, or atleast very close to them. Stupid Anxity <_< I can care for pets of any kind, but not myself <_<

Thanks everyone for the support, it was helpful.



Tom took me to the Mall cause he knew I needed to get my mind off it. I bought some things Rob & I needed, socks & undies & I bought a COOL PLANT!!! Its an Irish Shamrock! It has MASSIVE purple shamrocks & has pretty pink flowers!

[kuhio98]

I'm very attached to Rob as he's really all I have. I'm also not fully dependent (mentally) so it scares the hell out of me that I couldn't reach him. If I loose Rob, I'd have to move to PEI & live with dad or my sister, or atleast very close to them. Stupid Anxity <_< I can care for pets of any kind, but not myself <_<

Did you mean that you're not fully independent?
Are you doing anything to change that? therapy, medication, etc.?

[king2005]

Did you mean that you're not fully independent?
Are you doing anything to change that? therapy, medication, etc.?

Rob's helping me out. I'm having far less attaks. My attacks were high, then I met Rob & they went to med-low & now I hardly get them. Unless something big happeneds, but they are no longer random.

A few Dr's wanted to put me on meds, but I have ripped up the prescriptions, as I want to help myself.. well let Rob help me... He's getting me to do things I really don't want to do, like answer the phone & call the super when something breaks. We're doing lots & its working, but I NEED Rob.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Glad you got hold of him at last - maybe you won't panic quite so much if it happens again

[kuhio98]

A few Dr's wanted to put me on meds, but I have ripped up the prescriptions, as I want to help myself.. well let Rob help me... He's getting me to do things I really don't want to do, like answer the phone & call the super when something breaks. We're doing lots & its working, but I NEED Rob.

Well, that's a lot of pressure to put on another person. I'm glad it's working out for you. I hope in time, that you see that you can count on yourself to handle daily life. You are your own best friend. It just takes practice to learn to trust yourself. And trust that you will be able to handle whatever life throws at you. Sure, it's nice to have another to share with. But, it's a 2-way street. You have to be in a place where the other person can count on you too. And, I think taking the medication would be a way to help yourself. To take responsibility for your own well-being. Not so dependant on another for your comfort level. Best wishes to you and Rob.

[Vela]

Well, that's a lot of pressure to put on another person. I'm glad it's working out for you. I hope in time, that you see that you can count on yourself to handle daily life. You are your own best friend. It just takes practice to learn to trust yourself. And trust that you will be able to handle whatever life throws at you. Sure, it's nice to have another to share with. But, it's a 2-way street. You have to be in a place where the other person can count on you too. And, I think taking the medication would be a way to help yourself. To take responsibility for your own well-being. Not so dependant on another for your comfort level. Best wishes to you and Rob.

I agree with you. It's very hard on someone to have to responsible for someone else's stability and happiness in life. It becomes very draining over time and can cause problems in the long run. I know this by watching people I know struggle with it and sometimes it becomes too much for the relationship. I am glad he is so helpful to you, that is great, but you have to try to get some stability without it being all up to him so that he can also depend on you if the time comes and so that he doesn't ever get to the point where it becomes too much of a burden for him to carry. I think you would be better off taking the medication and seeing a therpist, to help you become more stable in yourself and not so dependent on another person, for the simple fact that we never know what tomorrow will bring and it is good if we can be strong on our own when we need to be. I hope things get better for you.

[king2005]

I agree with you. It's very hard on someone to have to responsible for someone else's stability and happiness in life. It becomes very draining over time and can cause problems in the long run. I know this by watching people I know struggle with it and sometimes it becomes too much for the relationship. I am glad he is so helpful to you, that is great, but you have to try to get some stability without it being all up to him so that he can also depend on you if the time comes and so that he doesn't ever get to the point where it becomes too much of a burden for him to carry. I think you would be better off taking the medication and seeing a therpist, to help you become more stable in yourself and not so dependent on another person, for the simple fact that we never know what tomorrow will bring and it is good if we can be strong on our own when we need to be. I hope things get better for you.

Robs not doing everything. He's helping me do things. There was a time where I wouldn't go ANYWHERE alone & now I'm pretty good at going places on my own. I also never looked for my own jobs & "I" got myself a nice happy job at Samsung! I use to NEVER talk to people I didn't know & now I talk up a storm to anyone who says hi to me, I don't go out of my way to talk to people, yet. I use to get really scared if a stranger yelled at me for something I accidently did wrong. Now I will choose to ignor them or tell them off (depends on the situation).
7 years ago, I would NEVER have made plans to go to the zoo with people I didn't know & now I'm going with 2 people I don't know this june!

[Vela]

Well I'm glad you have been able to come so far, that's great. I just hope at some point you are able to gain some strength in yourself so that you won't need his help to do things that would be great. I wasn't cutting you down or trying to be rude.

[king2005]

I don't want to talk about this anymore, you guys were right, hes left me..