Can I get an annullment(sp?) from my family??

[jenluckenbach]

I don't just want to divorse my brother, I want it written that we NEVER belonged to the same family!

shortened version of the story..............

My Dad threw out my brother's computer. (YES, stupid, but dad honestly thought it was 1) MY old one that did not work any more and 2) Just a piece of junk waiting to be discarded)

Dad put it on the curb for garbage and someone picked it up. An honest, albeit stupid, mistake.

BUT, dad did not own up to this mistake because brother is a hot-headed, foul mouthed, lousy excuse for a human being with absolutely no respect for anyone.


Now (dear old brother) is assuming that I stole it and owe him $1000 compensation or he'll have me arrested.

Such a lovely family I have.

[Karen]

Can you put up a notice saying "please return the computer that was accidentally left here, no questions will be asked"?

Hopefully your brother won't follow through with his threat to have you arrested for theft, when you do not have his computer!

I'd suggest your Dad, maybe, walk around the neighborhood and humbly ask if anyone knows who picked up the computer he accidentally put out to the curb, as his son is very upset with him for doing so. You never know, someone might know who took it!

[catnapper]

Oh wow. Now he has really topped himself. Your dad better step up and fess up. Or you'll have to stand your ground with him and threaten to stop your weekly visits. HE made your brother into the monster he is and HE better deal with it. HE can tell your brother to lump it or move out.

[CalliesMom]

I thought my family was bad!

Yes, you need to have a heart to heart with your father and tell him he needs to tell your brother the truth. It is not fair you are taking the blame and if possible, I would stop all contact with the brother.

[jenluckenbach]

I would stop all contact with the brother

Oh boy, don't I wish.

But unfortunately, my brother lives with my dad. And other than that, my dad is alone. My mom died 10 years ago and his best friend/phone companion/etc, just passed away this past week. I can't desert my dad now.

[caseysmom]

Sounds like having your brother there may not be too healthy for your father. I am sorry you are going through this but you know anyone can accuse somebody of anything, doesn't mean it will be believed. I would just ignore it, and your father made an honest mistake, hopefully your brother won't do something to him, and if he would he needs to be gone.

[Rachel]

Sounds like having your brother there may not be too healthy for your father. I am sorry you are going through this but you know anyone can accuse somebody of anything, doesn't mean it will be believed. I would just ignore it, and your father made an honest mistake, hopefully your brother won't do something to him, and if he would he needs to be gone.

My reaction is similar. The bigger issue here is probably not the computer nor your brother's accusations, but whether your father is safe living with this hot headed, ill tempered, money-grubbing brother.

[jenluckenbach]

In my opinion, my dad is not safe, but my dad refuses to see it that way. My dad is the perfect example of the "abused" in a bad marriage. You can't report the brother to the authorities because my dad won't admit that he might do harm. (just like the battered wife who refuses to turn in her spouse)

My brother is verbally abusive, as of now, not physically abusive, but I worry it could one day come to that.

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The bad news is, my brother doesn't BELIEVE my dad's story (the truth) he feels dad is protecting me.

The good news is, dad knows who has the computer and that person said he would bring it back. Hopefully he will.


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In the meanwhile, I cannot express the hatred I have for my brother. He is evil and I can't even imagine how his sweet little baby will grow up learning from HIS example.

[caseysmom]

I know here in california there are departments where you can report elder abuse. I think they are use to situations where the abused protects the abuser.

[jazzcat]

Geez Jen, I'm so sorry. What a mess for you and your Dad.

I have wonderful brothers and sister but I have a sister in law that rides one heck of a broom!

[Catsnclay]

Wow, this make my family look like a bunch of Saints!

The only advise I can give you, is to ignore your brother, if he cannot believe his own father...........

Maybe one day his child will see all this as clearly as you do, and walk, no run far, far away from him!

As far as worring about your dad & brother, well, they live together, let THEM work it out......stay out of it!! I know it is hard, but once you learn how to not fall for their Drama Queen moments, they will get less & less. It worked for me!

[Catty1]

I would look into reporting elder abuse. Your brother might lie - but the professionals in that can see through a lot of these things, they have seen about EVERYTHING....

It is up to you to call for help to protect your dad, as hard as it is. You just might make life a lot better for him - and yourself.

hugs
Catty1

[jenluckenbach]

Well, after brother cooled down he finally listened to my dad's story. He appologized to me. Unfortunately, I don't feel the guy will be returning the computer even though my dad offered him a monetary reward for it. It could still happen, but some people just don't care about what's right, they only care about what they HAVE. And he didn't STEAL it.......so..........

[catnapper]

WHY did your brother just have it sitting around... no cords or plugs attached? I might have thought it ws meant for the trash. In fact, the computer I gave you that you used for a long time was one Ash had thrown out thinking it was trash... I went out and drug it back in as soon as I saw it sitting out there. It was merely waiting to go somewhere (your house)

Still, your brother is ultimately to blame since he had it sitting around your FATHER'S house. Your father was simply housecleaning what looked like trash

As for the person who took it, shame on them for not returning it. Its on their conscience, and I hope they realize what they give in life does ulitmately come back to get them