Pardon me, your thong is showing

[catnapper]

Ok, this is something thats been iring me for a while, but tonight took the cake.....

I hate the "fashion" where girls think its "cool" to have their thongs hanging out. I've never been too keen on the boys with their boxers, but it REALLY bothers me with hte thong. I wish I could walk up to them and tap them on the shoulder and say "excuse me, but could you please hike up your pants, or perhaps wrap a sweater around your waist?"

Anyhooo... tonight was my son's high school graduation. EVERYONE, and I mean everyone dressed up for the occasion, EXCEPT one girl.She wore skin tight jeans, then when she sat down, we saw EVERYTHING. I may have seen the South Pole, thats how much of a show we got. I felt someone needed to tell her that she was giving hundreds of people a free show, but hubby and the kids said "Don't you dare" I was honestly going to be polite, and talk to her as if I was trying to help her out. Kind of like I would if somebody had the tag hanging out of their blouse.

The parents behind her were having a feild day! The moms were all laughing and taking photos of her thong (yes, I did too!) As my son said, "Boy her thong will be in lots of albums!" LOL The dads were all looking left, right, up, down, anywhere but straight ahead to where she sat. It rained, so everything was moved indoors. It was CROWDED. Yet, the two chairs directly behind thong girl remain unoccupied - nobody wanted to sit behnd her and look at it all night!

Now what I want to know is this: Why are they allowed to dress half naked, yet we can't say anything to them about perhaps covering up so that we don't have to look at it? I am all for freedom of expression... but in such a public forum? Why not express yourself with your buddies at home, or at a club where others are expressing themselves. Why at a majorly family function? But then I wonder, why it matters WHERE they are... why should I have to look at her butt cheeks hanging out? Why do I need to know the brand of underwear, and her preference for underwear fabrics?

Then the same thing goes for girls who feel its their duty to shove their boobs as much as their wonderbra allows, then show them in their entirety for everyone to see? Excuse me, but I don't need to see that much cleavage when I run into the supermarket or when I go out to dinner with my husband. I don't need to see it any time, any place... unless we went to a Vegas revue... even then I'm not so sure I need to see that much boobage hanging out.

Now... I am fairly sure I'm rambling at this point (been a long day, but I hope you can follow me!) but they show off their wares, yet we can't say anything to them about it! God forbid! They would start saying how rude we were. If we were male, then they'd be screaming perversion or harassment. It just seems so unfair. I also think people are afraid to say anything because we are so uncomfortable LOOKING at it, that we are uncomfortable to say anything. Am I the only one who is annoyed at this whole "fashion trend"?

[sammy101]

Oh i hate that.I dont mind if girls wear thongs,but when its hanging out like that..ack its gross.I was at starbucks,and i had to see that for about 1/2 hour.I also hate REALLY lowtop shirts,i have some lowtop shirts,but i wear tanktops underneath.I barely show any cleavage,and i wear bras that actually fit me
I really dont see a problem with thong underwear,as long as its not hanging out everywhere.Mind you,i've seen a few older ladies that have everything hanging out.
My friends mom was talking about how someone lets their daughter dress in a little white tanktop,with a BLACK bra on,and a tiny mini skirt...i just dont understand.My mom would kill me if i wore that. Dressing with almost nothing on looks so umcomfortable.
Being a teen,i see girls getting in trouble at school for dress code,shirts too low,too short,your skirt is to short.AND girls have holes in their jeans in their butts,so theirs skins showing...ack its really gross.
I dont know how people could dress like that.

[jennifert9]

catnapper, I am with you...
I don't want to see things in public that would be "seductive" in private....
I have 2 major pet peeves on this same issue: women who wear bikini tops to a store that is NOWHERE near a beach...........isn't that a violation of the "No Shirt, No Shoes policy?" There isn't a beach for 15 miles but you couldn't find a shirt on the way here? I'm wearing a shirt AND a bra! Imagine that!!

And, the second one....usually encountered early morning at the grocery store, men with sweat pants on!! YUCK!! If I wanted to see your "package", I would have married you!! GROSS!!

LOL!!

I have to admit however, I think I am a bit of a "prude" (probably just my own insecurities but...... Even my 62 year old mother tells me to "loosen up a bit!"

[kitten645]

I am by no means a prude and I respect everyones right to express themselves as they see fit but I'm with you all. I've been it the super market a couple of times and seen girls..and I do mean GIRLS..under 12 wearing "shorts" less than six inches in length. Hip bones plus a few inches exposed. Sixish year old girls with skirts hardly covering anything, and my heartfelt fear is that there are so many perverts in the world, how could you ever let your child out there with that sort of covering or rather NOT on? It scares me to death to see kids out there by themselves that ARE covered up.. I can't imagine letting them out in public like that. Frankly if they were nude it would be less provocative. If you are 21 and can handle yourself, fine..dress that way and deal with the consequences but for the love of pete these kids can't understand what they are inviting. No one asks or deserves to be assaulted but there are certainly ways to avoid being the object of violence.
I just don't understand the parents of these kids allowing this sort of behaviour.
Claudia

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

I agree 100% !!! I am so happy that my own 16-year old daughter doesn't want to walk around like that. She has a good and decent taste!
Oh well, I would let her wear those things, I am a caring mom!!

[Corinna]

I had one of those once when I worked at a Subway. I knew her parents and knew it would not be condoned by them . So I was a bit rude , I rolled up a dollar bill and pulled the thong up and put it in the strap thenwhen she looked at me werid I said isn't that what you wanted? Her group of freinnds laughed and she never did it again. One of the group of boys there thanked me he had been trying to tell her how slutty she looked. They just got married last year.
I also informed boys I didn't care for the boxers showing please for the health lisence of my store I needed them covered all the way. I had only one or 2 who wouldn't andthey stopped coming in.

[moosmom]

I see alot of that stuff working at the funeral home. There was a girl one night, who had on a short skirt and blouse that allowed her bare midriff to show. She did NOT have the body for it either. She did not have a flat stomach. Everytime she walked, her fat jiggled. I'd never THINK of wearing something like that to a funeral, let alone at all unless I had the body of a super model.

I don't know what it is with kids today. I think it says alot about the parents. I never would have made it to the door if I dressed slutty. My father had a problem with me wearing nylons to school!

Catnapper,

What I would've done was quietly tell her that people were laughing about her behind her back. Maybe THAT would've done something.

I also can't stand when boys wear their pants down around their knees with their boxers showing. Makes me want to run up and give them a wedgie!!

[catnapper]

Problem isn't necessarily the parents. My daughter INSISTS on thongs. IF she gave me a VALID reason for wearing them outside of her standard "because I want to" I might let her. She hasn't therefore she will not wear them til she's out of my house. Then she can do whatever she wants. If ever I find a pair, I cut the strings and toss them in the trash. I find them about once a month, and we live down the street from an underwear outlet so they are only $1 a pair... at least I'm making her spend money for what she wants, while she knows we are adamantly against it. LOL

Kids are going to wear what they want, despite our parental protests. The more we protest the more they want to wear what we don't want them the wear. This is a fight I work very hard at... I KNOW arguing with her about the sleeziness of her dress will only make her dress worse, but I can't help myself from commenting. I currently joke that my oldest is in her "white trash bimbo" phase. Its about all I can do because arguing with her doesn't help. I sure wish I could comment to her friends "oh, I see you are also into that white trash bimbo look!" But I can't... sure dream about it though! I can't do anything except remind her that she needs to dress more appropriately in sizes that fit her (that and maybe make a few of the more offending pieces disappear).

I blame a lot of the media on the clothing. They blasted Britney Spears to fame when my girls were only 12. They've been dressing like that for years (No, I never bought her those clothes, but her friends parentsDID) so its only natural progression that as you get older, you want to show more skin. Blech. Please, I don't want to look at it. Just flip through tv channels and you'll see more and more bellies & cleavage than you ever did. these kids aren't getting the idea to dress like this from their friends. They are gettign it from watching tv at night, from the movies, from music videos.

[Kfamr]

I think it's beyond trashy when you see ANY type of underwear sticking out. Besides.. isn't it called UNDERwear for a reason??

And, weren't thongs meant (way back in the day) for when you wanted to dress up in a skirt or or dress and not have a panty-line? Oh no, but now we want everyone to see them.

What possibly could attract people to people like this is beyond me.

[Sus]

You can count me in as a "prude"..!! No, honestly - I'm rarely embarrassed about the way some people (mostly young) dress, I just don't understand it!! What I mean is that there is no logic to it. I can understand the need to flash your merchandise if you work as a prostitute, but as for the rest of us...?? Why would I let myself freeze to death wearing to little clothes for a cool day in summer? Why would I want a guy to fall in love with my boobs instead of all of me??? Etc. etc. - I just don't get it!

Love,
Sus and Bella

[Randi]

Sus, you summed it up pretty well - I agree! However, when I was a teenager, I did what I could to provoke everyone (mostly my teachers and certain parts of the family), concerning the way I dressed, but that was a short period. If you go on doing it for the rest of your life, something is definately wrong!

[kitten645]

I absolutely understand that the kids see and do what the media shows. I saw a big thing on Pam Anderson last night...like she was a role model. Girl has problems...body image wise, and in the head. I understand a bit of it being brought up in a catholic girls school...we would hike up the skirts to the brink of whatever the nuns would allow but for the love of all that is good and clean ...I could wear a thong but it's the most uncomfortable thing in Gods green earth...why would you want to, with a young great body? bimbos abound at any time...I just fear for their safety really..
Claudia

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by jennifert9
YUCK!! If I wanted to see your "package", I would have married you!! GROSS!!

LOL!!

What are you doing looking at men's grocery bags???

LOLOLOL,

Now I know why the cute grocery sacker gasl ask me if they
"can help me out with my bags"....

[PJ's Mom]

This topic is hilarious. LOL

[finn's mom]

I don't give a crap about other people's clothes. That's what new generations are supposed to do, shock others. Bellbottoms made no sense back in their day, either. Or even showing your knees or ankles at one point was considered disgusting and trashy. It all works out in the end, it's just fashion, nothing to get too worked up about. I don't like some of the things my niece wears, but, she's a good girl and it's just part of being a teenager.