It appears to me that I am being judged....

[kimlovescats]

EDITED to STOP POSTING!!!
I appreciate all the response to this thread, but I would REALLY like to let this thread disappear now!!! There are much more important threads to be spending our time on now!
I'm sorry for having such a mental break down, but I am fine and ready to move on!

HUGS AND LOVE,
Kim






by some of the PT police! Why? I can only assume because I recently stated that I was no longer going to be doing rescue work, and mostly because I placed 6 of my rescues with another rescue. THEN, God forbid, I recently rescued 2 more adult males from a very HIGH KILL shelter! Rescue is WHAT I DO ... whether anyone else in the entire world cares, understands, or not!

I have always said, to myself as well as others on occasion, that every cat that comes here is considered a part of our family for however long they are here. Whether that be a day, a year, or 10 years!!! There are certain instances when a cat needs a certain type of home environment and until that home is found, then they are here for the duration. YES, sometimes even, kitties who were "titled" as "keepers" may ultimately be moved on to another situation. It's just what works best for that cat, and the current situation at hand. For instance, overcrowding is an issue, kitties becoming moody (as little Angel had) and also the need to make room for new rescues. These two that recently joined our "family" were hours away from being KILLED at our local shelter. Why? Because they were adults, and also because they both were starting the URI!!! For those who aren't sure "who" i am speaking of ... they are Baxter and Redfurd, in my new siggy below!

In the future, I plan to keep MY business just that ... MINE!!! I joined PT to share my love of cats, and what bit of knowledge that I have concerning them. I have made some friends, and am blessed by that! However, I am sick and tired of all the *high school* attitudes that a few of the PT members seem to like to live ... I am SO over that phase of my life!


It is more than obvious when certain people refrain from posting on a thread of mine, no matter how many *bumps* I give it. So, I can only assume that they are using the "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" theory. Well, when it is obvious that a few you thought were true friends, do this, it still hurts!

You know what though? I know for a fact that what I do is lifesaving for these kitties, and that I am blessed for my work. Blessed by GOD my Heavenly Father ... and that is all I truly need.
For those of you who continually support me, I thank you and LOVE you dearly!!!! No one can judge another here, especially a rescuer, unless you have walked in our shoes!

I am not one to "toot my own horn" as I think has been pretty obvious here on PT, but I HAVE always believed in standing up for what you believe!

For those who care, and can stomach my latest news ... I will start a new thread of a completely blind 3 year old cat that was dumped into my care yesterday A truly sad situation, and YES I took her in!!!

Kim

[kt_luvs_kitties]

I dont know where this is coming from Kim, or who is making you feel this way.. BUT I can tell you that I dont see it that way at all. I have said many times how great of a rescue you run, how selfless of you and kind of you. I am sure that whom ever is making you feel this way, isnt in the situation you are. You make decisions based on a cat-to-cat basis. Which is how I would choose to be if I were to operate a business like rescue. You do whats right for the cat, not whats right for you, your family, or Pet Talk, and that is the best way to do it. You run your shelter with your heart, and I love you for that. Keep on saving those beautiful kitties, You have my support 1000%. *HUGS* Katie

AND PLEASE dont let others spoil your threads. I WANT to see your pictures, and hear about your rescues, and I enjoy your "business", so tell all Kim, I want to hear/see it

[kimlovescats]

Thank you, Katie!

(hugs)
Kim

[DogLover9501]

Kim, I'm not sure what happened, but you seem very upset

I want to send some big ((((HUGS)))), and let you know that I support you 100%, and always have, you know what you are doing, and you know what's right for you and the cats you have rescued!

And like you said, unless they've walked in your shoes, nobody can judge you.

I can't speak for everyone, but I don't judge you at all, I was also very surprised about this, as I didn't expect it to be a big deal.

Just know that there are alot of people here who love and support you!

[Karen]

I don't know who you feel is judging you, but it's not me or Paul, who, if there were going to be Police on Pet Talk, we'd be it!

We know that you are a human being, and that like all of us are not perfect. You need to take care of your won health and circumstances, and anyone who doesn't understand that must have lived a sheltered life and never hit a bad stretch.

Know that you are loved,

Karen

[nibblets]

In my eyes ALL of the rescuers and shelter workers on this board are truly to be commended. It takes a tremendous dedication and a true devotion to these little ones to do what you do.

Keep up the GOOD work...in YOUR OWN WAY!

[Denyce]

Kim, I am so sorry you are feeling this way. It hurts I am sure. I am also sorry I don't post more on threads. I have been here for 2 years now and I haven't even reached 1000 yet. I just don't have the time to post a lot. I don't even have time to read all the threads. But I understand where you are coming from.

I have always enjoyed your threads and admire what you do. I can barely keep up with the animals I have, my work, my husband and the small amount of rescue I do. I don't know how you fit so much in each and every day. But bless you for doing it because if it weren't for people like you the world would be a grayer place.

I also understand when you say you have to cut back on rescue and then end up taking in another one. Once it is in your blood and soul to be able to do something it is hard to be able to turn any of them away.

I hope that you don't stop posting and leave because it would truly be a loss. There are times I become very frustrated with threads here. I started a thread about a very desperate situation here in PA with 100 cats that had been abandoned in a home. I was a bit hurt and disconcerted when someone here in PA on this site that does a lot of rescue didn't even say....gee...good luck to me. But I shrugged it off because I am not friends truly with anyone on here and so I guess I can't expect people to jump and respond to my threads all the time either.

If people here are "shunning" your thread because of a decision you feel you have to make in your own life in order to maintain your own sanity or for whatever reason then that is truly their loss and not yours. I feel that PT people often do some truly wonderful things and really help some people out and I am always telling people that I meet offline about this site and how great it can be. However, I also feel at times it becomes rather "nose in the air and if it isn't my way it is wrong" too.

Ah well I am sure I have offended some people with my post but that is ok. I will get over it.

Denyce

[kimlovescats]

Thank you Robyn, Denise, Nibblets! I am probably just over-reacting as usual .... but I just couldn't let these feelings keep building inside of me. So .,.. I have let them out, and I hope it was a good thing!

Karen ... I was in no way referring to you or Paul .... and you are so right ... if anyone should be "the law around these parts* it is you two! Thanks for being supportive of me Karen!

Love,
Kim

[Barbara]

Kim I think there are many people here who love you and accept you as the person you are- and yes I can understand you very well when you say you cannot take it any more because I don't think I could take that much.

And then when your heart leads you to another kitty I am still happy because this kitty couldn't have more luck in life than to meet you

I hope you take care of you and can find the right balance between helping and thinking of you- but I won't judge you because you are a much better person than many I know

{{{Hugs}}}

Barbara + her 2 spoiled brats

[nibblets]

I don't always make responses on threads because many times I am at work and just reading between tasks, or at home I am pressed for computer time as my teenage son tends to stake his claim on it and my online time is short. Also, I don't feel like I know anyone very well...I'm kind of a loner..not just on this board but on other boards I go to as well. I may not say it, but I am praying for all the pets and pet talkers on PT.

I only have one cat and I don't have experience in rescue work. I feel like I should not get into discussions which I know little about. I am a very NON judgemental person, so please, all PT people know that I think you are all great.

I've gotten jumped on very harshly on other message boards by people who just want to stir up trouble and I know it feels pretty bad. Opinions are wonderful, but not when they are being force fed or someone else is being persecuted over it.
I tend to keep my posts 'light' when maybe I should speak up more. Usually someone else will say what I would say too, so I let that ride.

[lbaker]

If you are being "judged" it certainly isn't by the cats you have loved/rescued/cared for. Keep your priorities where they are, it seems to be a fine place.

[rkidsrcats]

Kim,

The Tribe and Samson think you are wonderful. We may not post so much, but please know that we read your stories about rescues and truly respect and admire what you and all the other rescuers and foster families out there do.

To get into rescue, you have to be willing to open yourself up to the emotional lows and the highs as well as being willing to make decisions that aren't always easy. We look at our Tribe and
are thankful that there are people like you who are brave enough to do it.

Whisker kisses from The Tribe & Sam

[prechrswife]

I haven't been around as much lately, but I will say this. I appreciate what you and the other rescuers on PT do. I realize it is something that I could not do myself because I would have much too much difficulty in letting go when it was time for the cats to move on. I can also tell that you try to do what is best for you, your family, and the cats in your care. Some of the decisions you have had to make in recent months cannot have been easy ones. Only you truly know your situation, so don't let others make you feel guilty about it. God bless you.

[Cincy'sMom]

I don't post on the cat side often, although I do lurk and admire the pictures. And I do agree that in all parts of PT there are some who feel a need to be overly judgemental. I myself have been guilty of this a time or two, although I genreally try to say nothing rather then start a controversy.

That being said, I have learned no one can fully understand your situation unless they are beside, you, living it with you. I just don't understand with all the amazing rescue stories you have shared, with all the beautiful lives you have saved, how anyone has a right to judge. You felt overwhelmed, and you helped your fosters find other rescues. Perefectly understandable. You saw other cats in desperate situations, and saved their lives, despite your personal feeling that maybe it was time to take a break. Seems to me you are someone to be admired, not judge.

Hugs to all your fur-family, both permanent residents, and those in search of their fur-ever homes!

[nibblets]

Originally posted by rkidsrcats
Kim,

To get into rescue, you have to be willing to open yourself up to the emotional lows and the highs as well as being willing to make decisions that aren't always easy. We look at our Tribe and
are thankful that there are people like you who are brave enough to do it.

If it were not for rescuers and fosters I would not have Julie...they saved her from a life on the streets.