about my birthdays *rant*

[Sirrahsim]

Last year i spent my birthday in the ER waiting room with my friend's two kids while she got stitched up. This year I'm at home taking care of my sick hunny. I had grand plans for both days that were both blown to bits. Is it a lesson to me to be less selfish? Do I spend too much time thinking about *me* on my birthday? I want to whine and pout and stomp my feet and yell at my husband for getting sick on purpose! I want to pitch a fit until he gives up the charade and feels all better... but whining, pouting, and stomping my feet didn't get me anything when I was little, so why would they get me anything now? On top of wanting to pitch a fit I am furious at myself for even thinking such a thing about my husband. I know that a) he can't and wouldn't get sick on purpose, and b) he loves me very much, plans to make it up to me, and would be very hurt if he knew I even thought such a thing.
*sigh* this whole being an adult thing is sure annoying sometimes. I'm gonna go look in on my hunny and try to think of a nice conforting dinner to feed my little sick hubby.

my hunny may not feel up to decorating my cake, but it's already frosted and I'll be darned if I don't eat cake on my b-day

[LoudLou]

First, let me say Happy Birthday!!! Second, can I join in on this rant? It's my birthday today, Aug. 2nd. I was unfortunately raised a Jehovah's Witness so we never did anything for birthdays...no longer one, you would think we would do "something"... but every time something gets planned something else seems to push it back... I've been married for 8 years now, I love my hubby dearly, he is truly my soul mate but in the past 8 yrs we've only really celebrated my birthday once...

So, I say, It's our party and we can whine, cry, and stomp in here all we want... then we'll go baby the men in our lives.

Happy Birthday once again!

[Sirrahsim]

teehee thanks so much, misery loves company Happy Birthday to you too!

[dukedogsmom]

Sorry both your birthdays have been screwed up. Couldn't your family be sympathetic and after your hubby is well, give you the one you deserve? It's not wrong to be disappointed. But I'm sure your hubby didn't get sick on purpose. I say you should have a late one. Better late than never, right?

[Rachel]

When I celebrated my 20th birthday, I didn't have a boyfriend or a husband, and didn't have one for many more birthdays thereafter. Take a minute to imagine life without your DH and you will understand you have the been blessed with the best way ever to celebrate a birthday..... in the presence of someone you love. You can make your day special in your own way, maybe by starting a simple tradition, like watching video together cuddled up in bed. John Edwards and his wife celebrate their anniversary each year by going to Wendys. Certainly they can afford to do something far more extravagant, but obviously the signifigance of that manner of celebrating, started years ago is so meaningful, they continue it to this day.

Happy birthday to you and Loud Lou. Be happy!

[Pam]

Happy Birthday to you and also Loud Lou! My first thought when reading this was......Don't worry. There will come a time when you see the numbers rising and want to ignore birthdays completely!

[RobiLee]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU AND LOUDLOU!!!

Sorry things aren't turning out as you would like. I hope it all gets better for you and maybe when hubby is feeling better you guys can go out and have that great day.

Robin

[anna_66]

I know your feelings this has happened many times to me on my birthday and other days when I've had big plans. Yes, it sucks but like Rachel said

Take a minute to imagine life without your DH and you will understand you have the been blessed with the best way ever to celebrate a birthday..... in the presence of someone you love.

I hope you and LoudLou both have a good birthday!

[Corinna]

Happy Birthday to you .

[slick]

Let's see now does that go now "The best laid plans of mice and men......something.......something......glee"
Count your blessings and be glad that you have a significant other who loves you. Besides, you can always go out when hubby gets better. Just make sure you don't get sick on that day. Take care and for what it's worth.....

HAPPY HAPPY PURRRFFFFDAY!!!

[gini]

I know that your birthday is just about over where you live........but I hope that you had a healthy portion of your cake..........and know that you ARE extra special for taking care of your hubby even though he got sick on YOUR DAY.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

[Tonya]

Happy Birthday!

I've always had not so great birthdays because my husband is a) A procrastinater b) Unsentimental and c) Forgetful. Finally, this year before my birthday I said "Look my birthday is coming up. I expect this this and this. I refuse to accept any less. Make yourself a note and do not forget." It worked. hehe.

Try not to be to upset, I know it isn't your hubby's fault that he is sick. Maybe he can make it up some other day.

[heinz57_79]

I can totally relate! This year was the first decent birthday I've had in YEARS! Having a summer b;day, it was often overshadowed by the Olympics. My father often FORGOT my birthday! Last year, my gf was the time was such a .... I took myeslf out to dinner and a movie and had to listen to her whine the whole time! grrr...

You know what, you have your cake girl! Eat the whole darn thing! There is nothing wrong with wanting your birthday to be about you! It should be! It's no fault of your hubby's for getting sick... bad timing, definitely... But maybe you can have a calorie fest, cuddle, watch cheesy movies, and have a raincheck on the GOOD stuff! Either way, Happy Birthday!

[Sirrahsim]

My b-day is over now, but it's great to see these nice comments first thing in the morning. My husband's fever went down a little from last night from 101.3 to 100.8. He felt so bad ths morning about "messing up" my birthday Poor hunny. He said he felt especially bad because he misspelled Birthday with the little sugar letters on the cake. He spelled it Birthdy and felt so bad about it. He is such a sweetheart I told him that all was well and he promised to make it up to me He got me the prettiest necklace and earring sets and a gorgeous watch He was only partially coherent when he gave them to me, but that's ok He is currently on his way to work (he's not allowed to "call in sick") where I fully expected them to tell him to turn his booty around and get back in bed As soon as the clinic opens we're going to get him in for an appointment. He's most definately in no fit state to control air traffic! Poor sweety!

[aly]

Originally posted by Rachel
When I celebrated my 20th birthday, I didn't have a boyfriend or a husband, and didn't have one for many more birthdays thereafter. Take a minute to imagine life without your DH and you will understand you have the been blessed with the best way ever to celebrate a birthday..... in the presence of someone you love. You can make your day special in your own way, maybe by starting a simple tradition, like watching video together cuddled up in bed. John Edwards and his wife celebrate their anniversary each year by going to Wendys. Certainly they can afford to do something far more extravagant, but obviously the signifigance of that manner of celebrating, started years ago is so meaningful, they continue it to this day.

Happy birthday to you and Loud Lou. Be happy!

Beautifully said, Rach. I agree completely.