Was I being to protective of Cali?

[Fox-Gal]

Cali went into heat a couple of days ago, driving us nuts with the meowing, but she already had an appointment with the vet today to get "fixed". Nothing like timing!

Well when I took her in, my vet wasn't there, his son-in-law was though. He going to be taking over after my vet retires. Now first let me say I can't stand this man and when my vet leave, I will be looking for a new vet.

So when I got there i was a little upset that they didn't tell me Dr. Anderson wasn't going to be in, they know I only use him. Then they tell me that because Cali's in heat that she might bleed more after the op. So I left! One because I don't like this man and two because of the extra bleeding.

Was I being silly about the whole thing? Does it matter that Cali might bleed a little more? None of my other cats were in heat when they had it done, so I don't know. Just because I don't like they man was it out of line to leave and wait for my vet?

The husband says I'm nuts and i should have left her there. Plus he says I was rude to him by my actions. I'm now feeling guilty about the whole thing.

[kitten645]

There is NO WAY you were being overprotective or rude. Never second guess a meowmies instinct. Health care for you babies is your responsibility and don't let anyone guilt you into feeling bad for what you felt in your gut was right. You can take chances on the lottery but not with your furbabies care. Rock on meowmie!
Claudia

[sirrahbed]

I think you did the right thing. I always go with my "gut" when it comes to my babies' care. I do not think you were being overprotective at all - just being a good meowmie like kitten645 said.

[davidpizzica]

Originally posted by Fox-Gal
Cali went into heat a couple of days ago, driving us nuts with the meowing, but she already had an appointment with the vet today to get "fixed". Nothing like timing!

Well when I took her in, my vet wasn't there, his son-in-law was though. He going to be taking over after my vet retires. Now first let me say I can't stand this man and when my vet leave, I will be looking for a new vet.

So when I got there i was a little upset that they didn't tell me Dr. Anderson wasn't going to be in, they know I only use him. Then they tell me that because Cali's in heat that she might bleed more after the op. So I left! One because I don't like this man and two because of the extra bleeding.

Was I being silly about the whole thing? Does it matter that Cali might bleed a little more? None of my other cats were in heat when they had it done, so I don't know. Just because I don't like they man was it out of line to leave and wait for my vet?

The husband says I'm nuts and i should have left her there. Plus he says I was rude to him by my actions. I'm now feeling guilty about the whole thing.

No you were not. You were looking out for Cali's welfare. I would have done the same thing.

[Nomilynn]

I don't think you were rude at all. Even if the doc has asked why you left, you could have just said - I don't even know you, why would I let you operate on my cat? I don't think that's unreasonable at all.

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

I think you did the right thing too. YOU have to feel comfortable with what you're doing and if you don't feel comfortable you have every right to take your baby and either go elsewhere or wait until your doctor is available.

[rg_girlca]

Don't even second guess your actions. You did the right thing. I remember when I had taken in a stray female cat who went into heat 2 days after I got her. But she seemed to continue being in heat. I brought her to the vet and upon x-rays, examinations, etc., they found a cyst on her ovary and that is why she was having, what they called a continuing heat. They said that they will spay her but there was a chance she would hemorrage. I had no choice but to go with the surgery. Fortunately she came out fine and I kept my sanity.
You can book another appointment with your vet when she comes out of her heat. I would have done the same thing. So good for you, for standing your ground and doing what was best for your Cali.

[CatDad]

I don't think that you did anything wrong. This is one of your babies and you need to feel comfortable if you are going to leave her for surgery. I would have done the same thing.

Make an appointment with the vet that you like and by then she will not be in heat anymore.

I would also start looking for another vet now as it may take a couple of tries to get one you like.

[trayi52]

It always pays to listen to that little inner voice that tells you if what you are doing is right or wrong. It usually pays to listen.

Just think how worried you would have been about Cali, if you hadn't of done what you did. Scarey! You done the right thing.

Willie

[Tonya]

I don't think you were being overly protective. You were uncomfortable, and you trusted your instincts.

[Fox-Gal]

Thanks everyone. I thought I was doing the right thing but after I got home and heard what he had to say I did start to wonder.

He seem to feel walking out was rude and I should trust Dr. Anderson's choice in his son-in-law and that if he told me Cali would be fine for the op. even if she was in heat, I should have gotton it over with.

Wait till I tell him, I'm not the only one who thinks I made a good choise. LOL

Of course tonight, there's that little part of me that wishs I had. It's 3am and I'm up with a meowing kitty. She only happy when I with her, if not she sits at the window moewing and meowing, VERY loud! Poor baby doesn't know what to think or do with these new feelings.

[trayi52]

Fox-gal, this is just too funny to say but I will tell you anyway. Back years ago, I had a cat that was in heat like that. The phamacist told me how to trick her into thinking she had been bred. Just do to her neck like a tom would do.

The funny thing was that one of my grandkids fell on the cat, and that satisfied the cat. That darn cat went right out of heat. Got that little girl spayed after that. But anyway find a child and let it fall on the cat. LOL! True story!

But don't listen to me, I have been known to say some pretty weird and crazy things! But then what do you expect? I'm Willie!

Willie

[catcrazylady]

I think that with a doubt you did the right thing! Even if you did like the vet the extra bleeding thing was enough to postpone the surgery. If you hadn't followed your gut it's possible that we could have had a scary health thread today. It's much better this way!!
Good luck getting through the noisy miserable heat!!

[catmandu]

There is a fine line between cautin and nosiness ,, and it a tough one , for a new Cat mother! Prayers are coming from All Of US!

[catnapper]

No, I would have done the same thing. There are two doctors in my vet's office. I love the famale vet, and absolutely hate the male vet. One time, Nicki was very sick and he was the only doctor in and I reluctantly took Nicki. She's had the same infection before, so I knew the meds to give her - he refused to give her Clavamox. I ended up returning a few days later, paying for a visit with the female doctor who readily gave Nicki the Clavamox.

I think its a matter of "intuition" of not leaving Cali. If you strongly felt that this was not the time or doctor to leave her with, then you are 100% right. Never ever discount those strong intuitional feelings