Has anyone noticed...

**Hellow** · 05-31-2007, 03:21 PM

...how pet talk is compared to how it used to be? I mean, it used to be like a lake. Everyone having fun, and you could pore your heart out into somthing and everyone will talk friendly. Now when you try to do any of thoes things you get accused of spamming or everyone calls you a troll or you get critisized or you get into a argument with someone. It wears you down and it makes Pet Talk feel like a bar instead of a home away from home. I will probably get called all of thoes names listed above then some but i just thought i needed to bring this to light so everyone can see.

**buttercup132** · 05-31-2007, 03:27 PM

I don't notice it. I don't get how you can say how it used to be you havn't even been here a month..if you don't like it leave no one is holding you back. People are obviously to get upset if you post immiture things.

**Roxyluvsme13** · 05-31-2007, 03:32 PM

Um, sorry, but how would you know what it was like before? It seems to me you just pretty much copied Michelle (kittycats_delight)'s post.

**Hellow** · 05-31-2007, 03:34 PM

No, i have wondered around here for a couple of months, almost a year, before joining.

**buttercup132** · 05-31-2007, 03:36 PM

Originally Posted by Reggie

No, i have wondered around here for a couple of months, almost a year, before joining.

I love how a couple of months turns into a year.

**Hellow** · 05-31-2007, 03:37 PM

Im serious. I have wondered about here for almost a year before joining.

**KittyGurl** · 05-31-2007, 03:57 PM

Originally Posted by buttercup132

I love how a couple of months turns into a year.

This is why there are arguments on PT. Everyone fights with each other.
Like when people are just asking for help, everyone gangs up on them and starts stuff. If everyone is just nice, then there wouldn't be this thread right now!

i also been seeing that people are ganging up on Reggie the most. Like in the one thread where Reggie was just asking for some tips on how to fix a water bottle. Everyone started saying Reggie shouldn't have the pets anymore. Just think how hurtful that would be.

**sparks19** · 06-01-2007, 12:39 PM

Originally Posted by buttercup132

I don't notice it. I don't get how you can say how it used to be you havn't even been here a month..if you don't like it leave no one is holding you back. People are obviously to get upset if you post immiture things.

is that REALLY nessecary?

We wonder why fights break out.... well there is a perfect example above. The OP mentions one thing and this is the FIRST response. so it was a battle from the start....

But.... it's like a playground..... not EVERYONE is going to get along with everyone else. We are humans and as such we aren't going to like or agree with everything or everyone all the time. We are emotional beings and things like this tend to happen. Look how many members are on this board.... it's amazing. You are bound to get some who don't like others and vice versa.... just roll with the punches

I think it is amazing that with this many members the board is as friendly and laid back as it is.

**sandragonfly** · 06-01-2007, 02:44 PM

reggie, don't worry about it. this same thing had happened to me when I was first all new to here - they even thought I was a backyard breeder back then.

eep, way way opposite of who I am/was.

like k9soul said about the good/bad expectations and gini about how you make it out you want it to be - I too have learned that there are not much in the world you can change and no matter what you have said or who you are - only good people will know the true of you. guess who I was taught that from?

well, you know, I've been seeing replies in my threads the same since I joined; they'll always be who they are, said by means or not. and unfortunately, since how some threads and members have had been, people have their own reasons why they're very sensitive with newbies - hard I know because you didn't find negativity when they put that in your threads, but, just wait until you make a few friends and you'll know by heart.

**smokey the elder** · 06-01-2007, 03:00 PM

This is a community of several hundred "regulars" and a bunch of assorted visitors (fat fingers; can't type)

...

Several hundred points of view, lots of potential for entropy. But there is surprisingly little, compared to other forums I've lurked on. Try a Yahoo! stock message board if you want some REAL flame wars.

I've belabored this in the past, but the written word is our only means of communication among the multi-dimensional communication spectrum available to humans. Emoticons only help so much! I.e. the much maligned "

"...

I think if there's a specific individual you have an issue with, take it offline to a PM. This can prevent virtual foot-in-mouth disease!

**Lady's Human** · 06-01-2007, 03:33 PM

Just one thing to add to what Smokey said:

If someone takes an issue to PM, and you have an issue with it, take it up with the Mayor. DO NOT take the PM public.

If you have an issue with a poster, discuss it with the mayor. No need for publicly calling someone a troll. It does no good, it just creates conflict.

If you feel the need to question the veracity of a post, just remember, tact is a wonderful thing. (Which I sometimes lack, but I try)

**Jessika** · 06-01-2007, 03:44 PM

Originally Posted by Lady's Human

Just one thing to add to what Smokey said:

If someone takes an issue to PM, and you have an issue with it, take it up with the Mayor. DO NOT take the PM public.

If you have an issue with a poster, discuss it with the mayor. No need for publicly calling someone a troll. It does no good, it just creates conflict.

If you feel the need to question the veracity of a post, just remember, tact is a wonderful thing. (Which I sometimes lack, but I try)

And also, theres a "report post" function for a reason, make good use out of it. You can even type in a message and it goes directly to Karen. This comes in handy when someone makes a post that is just out of control, a troll, or has obscene content. So instead of making a public ordeal out of it, just report it and it will be brought to Karen's attention.

**Taz_Zoee** · 06-01-2007, 04:24 PM

Lots of good responses on this topic.
I just wanted to add one thing I have noticed.
People read things differently. One person may type it in one tone of voice while another may read it in another tone of voice. Does that make sense? It's all in how the reader reads the post.
I personally think PT was a little harsher a few months ago. But I've only been here about 6 months (wow, it seems like SOO much longer

). I love PT and if I don't like how a thread is going I either won't read it or just won't go back to it again.

Can't we all just get along? LOL