Chihuahua baby-post 37

[WELOVESPUPPIES]

I need to let off a little steam so please bear with me...I have been wanting to get a third dog for what seems like forever but my husband says two dogs are enough(big dogs). That's fine, he is intitled to his opinion, but what makes him think that he gets the final say. I mean we are a partnership and should make decisions together but the moment it is brought up he is shaking his head no which means he is not changing his mind, there is no discussion just reasons why we ARE NOT GETTING ANOTHER DOG. The part that frustrates me the most are the excuses that I get:
1. We already have two dogs--sorry but I do not see his point.
2. That is more dog food that we have to buy-okay I pay for this.
3. He will need to go to the vet-okay, I am the one who takes off work and
takes the babies to the vet and I also pay for it myself.
4. He will need a dog bed-okay yet I again I supply those things.
5. He will need toys-me again.
He makes it sound like these are all things he is responsible for but he is not. We have seperate accounts by the way for those who are thinking that funds are shared, I mean they are but we have our own monies for stuff we want, anyway off topic. I love animals and at one point in my life I would probably have owned Noah's Ark but I have come to the realization as I have gotten older that you have to have time and monies to care for "Noah's Ark". I am just asking for a third dog. He keeps saying when one of the others goes(which I dread to think of and hope is many years from now) then we can get another dog but my heart tells me that the excuse then will be that the kids are almost completely grown and we will strap ourselves to staying home and caring for another dog when we could just come and go as we please. This is who I am, an animal lover and sometimes I guess I feel he is trying to change that in me, which of course causes me to get my panties in a wad and get defensive. I do not want to change his mind because I do not want to possilbly hear later....see I told two was enough(for whatever reason). I work out of the house so I am home all day long, it is not like I do not have time and will be bringing a new puppy home to spend hours a day by itself. I guess I will just have to wait and see...I needed to vent and sorry for making a seperate thread for this but somehow I had to get this off my chest...

[Seravieve]

Lol.. I bet my partner said all those things too when I said no to the 3rd dog idea.. It only took about 7 months of nagging and then just happening to find a bindled boxer (my fav!) and well lookie there.. we have a 3rd dog. LOL.

Moral of my story? Find a dog he likes.. see how it does with your other two.. and before you know it.. You'll have 3! =)

[coco-bean]

my boyfriend asked me those same exact things and my reply was...
"nothing is going to change for me, im still going to...
*get up and let them out to potty EVERY MORNING
*feed the at the same time
*take them to the park TOGETHER as usual
*go to the vet practically the same amount as we do now(since someone is always getting hurt)
*I have enough love to give each and every one of them
*they each need food so it's no different feeding 3 verses 4(in my case)
bottom line...it's just another day for me...NOTHING NEW!!!
finally he told me i could...after i told him either way, im getting this puppy!
lol, i know in a marriage it's not quite like that, but dating..i think i can slip by doing this a time and again
i am totally with you on this one!
Best of luck, i hope you get another one to love!

[Freedom]

Big dogs mean big poops. I've heard that one.

Maybe he wants a small dog??

[WELOVESPUPPIES]

Big dogs mean big poops. I've heard that one.

Maybe he wants a small dog??

LOL....yep that is true BIG POOPS. But I am the one who wants a small dog, I would like a Chihuahua but prior to deciding on that breed I was pretty much open to any dog as I love them all and that did not fly either. I tried joking and telling him I would name it Hardley, hardley a dog But he just laughed and shook his head. I told him I would even by it a Harley Dog Jacket(as we own a Harley), still just the head shake. I get the excuse that what happens when someone comes to the door and the big dogs go charging, I said I guess the little booger will just have to learn to move or get run over Not that I would allow that but it is just one excuse after another I even told him I had a dream the other night that I was getting a chihuahua and ended up putting it back. He told me Oh...I don't mind if you buy one in your dreams

[WELOVESPUPPIES]

i am totally with you on this one!
Best of luck, i hope you get another one to love!

me too...I have plenty of LOVE, maybe that is what he is afraid of...I hear Chihuahuas are like potato chips, you can't have just one

[Taz_Zoee]

I feel your pain and frustration. I'd love to get another dog. But since he works from home and would have to deal with them, I really need his support. So that's why Zoee is an only dog.
Good Luck! I hope you can "talk" him into it.

[Vela]

You sound just like me 3 years ago, when I wanted to get another puppy for my now 4 year old Boxer, Cracker. I dealt with it all, but he still said no. He gave me all the same reasons you gave as well. Persistence pays off, and letting him know how truly important it was to me in a serious conversation helped too. If you notice in my signature, we recently got our third Boxer, Soda. She is 13 weeks this upcoming Suday. He truly loves her too, which I wasn't sure he would. Don't despair and have a sit down serious talk with him about why it's something you need in your life. Maybe he will listen?


BTW we don't have lots of big poops, I feed raw so they are pretty small and turn to dust by themselves LOL (solved one of the problems!)

[WELOVESPUPPIES]

I feel your pain and frustration. I'd love to get another dog. But since he works from home and would have to deal with them, I really need his support. So that's why Zoee is an only dog.
Good Luck! I hope you can "talk" him into it.

Poor Zoee....see I am the one that works from home--shouldn't I be the main decision maker Yeah yeah I known 50/50

[WELOVESPUPPIES]

You sound just like me 3 years ago, when I wanted to get another puppy for my now 4 year old Boxer, Cracker. I dealt with it all, but he still said no. He gave me all the same reasons you gave as well. Persistence pays off, and letting him know how truly important it was to me in a serious conversation helped too. If you notice in my signature, we recently got our third Boxer, Soda. She is 13 weeks this upcoming Suday. He truly loves her too, which I wasn't sure he would. Don't despair and have a sit down serious talk with him about why it's something you need in your life. Maybe he will listen?


BTW we don't have lots of big poops, I feed raw so they are pretty small and turn to dust by themselves LOL (solved one of the problems!)

That's what we have now two boxers...I think they would love a little brother See these are my babies below...gotta love'em

[Sevaede]

Indeed, persistence does pay off.

Beautiful pooches!

My Chi is a mischievous little girl but she is so full of love and spunk. I can't imagine my life without her!

[Vela]

Wow they are gorgeous! I don't usually meet anyone who has a white boxer as well, once in a while. Don't give up though. I work from home as well and do all of the dog care, vet visits, etc., just the same as you, and my husband was brought up to be a dog hater by his mother...so if I can get one I'm sure you can too! Don't give up hope, it can happen. I would love to see another baby around here!

[Sophist]

Beautiful dogs!

Sorry to hear about your difficulties. By all means, keep the discussion going. Let him know why you want one and the reasons you think it is right for your family.

Just make very, very, VERY sure that you have actually won him over and not just worn him down before you bring another dog home. Bringing home a dog that even one person in the house resents or doesn't want isn't fair to the dog, or good for the family as a whole.

Again, your dogs look beautiful, and I am sure you would only act with the best interest of all the furkids in mind. Just be careful not to bulldoze hubby without really considering his feelings, but also ask him to level with you some more. Talk to him about his financial concerns, but also make sure he knows thta you feel like he is not really being sensible about it, and it upsets you that his reaction is to just put his foot down and forbid you to do it before it has really been talked about.


And lastly, I agree that his reasons for not getting one don't sound great, but at the same time, make sure you are thinking carefully and giving him better reasons than "I want one!" Maybe make a list of the reasons you think another dog would be right for your family, and he needs to at least hear you out on the issue.


Good luck!

[WELOVESPUPPIES]

Thanks for all the compliments on my babies Duke and Champ. I appreciate all the encouragement and advice. Trust me I don't back down easy but I do not want to be a nag either.

Sophist...I definately agree with everything you are saying. I do not want my hubby to feel plowed over and just give me my way. There are five of us in the household, we have three children, and he is the only one not on board. I understand his side too it just aggravates me that he put his foot down and made me feel like that was that end of discussion. I am an adult too and I guess that kind of made me feel like he was being a father rather than a husband. I will take things slow because I do not want grief of I told you so every day for the rest of my life. So I will just take it one day at a time. I would never just go out and get a puppy and hope that the pup wins him over...I could not and would not do that to the puppy who had no choice in the matter. I love animals whole heartedly and will always put them first.

Again, thanks to everyone...and when the day comes you will all be the first to know!!(outside of family of course)

[Daisy and Delilah]

me too...I have plenty of LOVE, maybe that is what he is afraid of...I hear Chihuahuas are like potato chips, you can't have just one

I agree!!!! As I always say, to know a Chihuahua is to love a Chihuahua!! Two or more are even better Good luck! I hope you win-I love the name Hardley I always laugh at Daisy when she tries to act like a "real" dog.