Depression and pregnancy?

[JenBKR]

I haven't really wanted to talk about this, but I'm starting to think I might feel better if I do. I have such an amazing array of emotions lately, but over all I seem to be stressed, worried, anxious, and depressed. I am still on my Prozac (OB/GYN said it's perfectly safe) but I am still feeling this way. I understand that my hormones are all over the place, but I guess I had thought I'd be so happy just being pregnant that I wouldn't feel so down. Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled and I love my baby, but I have so much on my mind; will I be a good mom, will we be able to financially support a baby (a big worry of mine).....is this normal at all? Just looking for advice for those who have been there or are going through this all now.

[sirrahbed]

It sounds completely normal. The worries you list are common and hormonal disturbance can be huge in pregnancy, even without the worries. It differs from pregnancy to pregnancy and woman to woman. My daughter Missy is nearing the end of her 2nd pregnancy and has been all over the place emotionally - even crying often. She hardly EVER cries normally and this pregancy has messed up her hormones much more than her first baby. I think you really would be wise to mention this to your OB/GYN and most likely they will be able to reassure you. If your medication needs to be changed, they may suggest that. But please know that even someone with no tendency towards depression can feel overwhelmed by the hormonal change of pregnancy. Talking about how you feel is so helpful I hope you totally enjoy your pregnancy and mentioning your worries to the doc can help you relax and try to enjoy the changes as much as possible. I suspect that you are also quite tired at this stage and that makes everything seem worse.

Take care and here are some (((HUGS)))

[AdoreMyDogs]

Perfectly normal. You might want to ask your OB/Gyn about St. John's Wart, also. It's a wonderful herb, all natural. I take it as a preventative and it seems to be working. It's completely normal to worry about such stuff, all new moms do You might want to pick up the book "What To Expect When You're Expecting", too, if you haven't already. That book covers all kinds of stuff, including what you just mentioned. It'll ease your worries about anything that might come up in the entire duration of your pregnancy. It's a great book with loads of helpful stuff in it.

Congrats on the pregnancy, and don't worry, everything will be JUST FINE!

[sparks19]

I haven't really wanted to talk about this, but I'm starting to think I might feel better if I do. I have such an amazing array of emotions lately, but over all I seem to be stressed, worried, anxious, and depressed. I am still on my Prozac (OB/GYN said it's perfectly safe) but I am still feeling this way. I understand that my hormones are all over the place, but I guess I had thought I'd be so happy just being pregnant that I wouldn't feel so down. Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled and I love my baby, but I have so much on my mind; will I be a good mom, will we be able to financially support a baby (a big worry of mine).....is this normal at all? Just looking for advice for those who have been there or are going through this all now.

Worrying about those things is totally normal.... but if you are feeling that it might be a little more than normal I would contact your OB and talk to them about it. they can help you

It's tough at this stage of pregnancy because nothing has really happened to make it feel.... real. that sounds strange but I know I didn't really even start truly feeling like there was actually a being growing inside of me until just recently when I started feeling the kicking.

Just know that all your concerns and worry are totally normal..... but try not to stress about it because it's not good for the baby for you to be too stressed. Talk to your Dr and they should be able to help you through it.

[Husky_mom]

I can´t say from my own experience, but honey you sound perfectly normal!!..... I know we tend to worry about lots of things...... adn once baby is here you´ll worry even more......believe me...... but when that comes I´ll be here if you need anything......I´m no mother-expert but I can share my experience so far with you

my big worry was "will i hear the baby cry at night and would I´d wake up to feed?"...... needless to say I DIDN´T SLEEP AT ALL!! , but yes, I did hear him and I did woke up..........hey I woked up every 2 hours to medicate a dog why wouldn´t i wake every 3 to feed my baby??

you´ll be great and even if you feel bad sometimes, you are way normal adn we love you!!

[JenBKR]

It sounds completely normal. The worries you list are common and hormonal disturbance can be huge in pregnancy, even without the worries. It differs from pregnancy to pregnancy and woman to woman. My daughter Missy is nearing the end of her 2nd pregnancy and has been all over the place emotionally - even crying often. She hardly EVER cries normally and this pregancy has messed up her hormones much more than her first baby. I think you really would be wise to mention this to your OB/GYN and most likely they will be able to reassure you. If your medication needs to be changed, they may suggest that. But please know that even someone with no tendency towards depression can feel overwhelmed by the hormonal change of pregnancy. Talking about how you feel is so helpful I hope you totally enjoy your pregnancy and mentioning your worries to the doc can help you relax and try to enjoy the changes as much as possible. I suspect that you are also quite tired at this stage and that makes everything seem worse.

Take care and here are some (((HUGS)))

Thank you so much, it's good to know I'm not the only one. Yes, I am exhausted most of the time, and while it's starting to get a little better, I still don't feel like doing much. The house is such a mess (although I will give kudos to hubby, he has been trying to get some cleaning done lately. I think he's just sick of seeing the mess haha). I feel like sometimes I just don't want to deal with some of life's everyday stresses.....

[JenBKR]

Perfectly normal. You might want to ask your OB/Gyn about St. John's Wart, also. It's a wonderful herb, all natural. I take it as a preventative and it seems to be working. It's completely normal to worry about such stuff, all new moms do You might want to pick up the book "What To Expect When You're Expecting", too, if you haven't already. That book covers all kinds of stuff, including what you just mentioned. It'll ease your worries about anything that might come up in the entire duration of your pregnancy. It's a great book with loads of helpful stuff in it.

Congrats on the pregnancy, and don't worry, everything will be JUST FINE!

Thanks for the advice! I did just get that book, so I will look through it in the next few days and hopefully it will help. Thank you!

[JenBKR]

It's tough at this stage of pregnancy because nothing has really happened to make it feel.... real. that sounds strange but I know I didn't really even start truly feeling like there was actually a being growing inside of me until just recently when I started feeling the kicking.

That's exactly how I feel...I have heard the baby's heartbeat but I can't...feel...anything. I worry if my baby is ok, if I am eating the right things...everything. Gah!

[JenBKR]

I can´t say from my own experience, but honey you sound perfectly normal!!..... I know we tend to worry about lots of things...... adn once baby is here you´ll worry even more......believe me...... but when that comes I´ll be here if you need anything......I´m no mother-expert but I can share my experience so far with you

my big worry was "will i hear the baby cry at night and would I´d wake up to feed?"...... needless to say I DIDN´T SLEEP AT ALL!! , but yes, I did hear him and I did woke up..........hey I woked up every 2 hours to medicate a dog why wouldn´t i wake every 3 to feed my baby??

you´ll be great and even if you feel bad sometimes, you are way normal adn we love you!!

Oh thank you thank you! That is another worry, I am a heavy sleeper. I bet hubby will wake up though and elbow me to take care of the baby Thank you so much for your help!

[Husky_mom]

Oh thank you thank you! That is another worry, I am a heavy sleeper. I bet hubby will wake up though and elbow me to take care of the baby Thank you so much for your help!

ooops!!.... I added another one

just please don´t stress too much....... take it easy......

[petslover]

Jen, everything will be okay. I have never been pregnant but have had a few close people that I have watched pregnant. It is completely normal to feel like that.

I know you will be a great mom. We talk often on MSN and I can tell by your words and knowledge that your baby will be extremely lucky to have you as a mom. He/She/ or even they lol will grow up in a great household and become wonderful people.

Have you ever thought about starting a blog? I am reading a friend's pregnancy blog right now and she lets out alot of emotions in it. It makes her feel better too.

I wish you luck and if you ever need to talk don't hesitate to IM me.

[BitsyNaceyDog]

Oh thank you thank you! That is another worry, I am a heavy sleeper. I bet hubby will wake up though and elbow me to take care of the baby Thank you so much for your help!

Don't worry about that. You probably won't sleep as heavy once the baby arrives. I'm normally a really heavy sleeper, but now I hear every little noise Nathan makes. Right now Nathan sleeps right next to me, but eventually he'll sleep in his own room and we'll use the monitor. We got this Graco monitor and we love it, it's so clear and it picks up everything. We haven't used it at night yet, but I know I'll be able to hear him well (we've used it during his naps).

[sandragonfly]

sorry, I'm no expert on this one but if I were there, I'd just give you plenty of hugs you needed. (((and some hugs here that you'll be okay)))

take care or yourself dear.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Oh Jen {{{hug}}} I didn't realise you were feeling like this


Firstly, you can't take St John's Wort while on Prozac or any other anti-depressant whether you are pregnant or not and...........

secondly, the way you are feeling is perfectly normal and shows what a great Mommy you are going to be! Your baby will become more real to you once he/she starts congo-ing round your womb As for sleeping......you will become attuned to every little sniffle and snore - its been proven that Mums can pick out their baby's cry when there are loads of the little darlings bawling their heads off In fact, I used to wake up a split second before Katie did

As for the financial side of things - we had the same problem but I came to the conclusion that if you wait for the "right" time to have a baby it will never happen. You and Shawn will provide your little one with all the important things in life - love, humour, kindness, a sense of right and wrong.....babies don't need the latest fashion just to be kept fed, warm and safe.

Try not to worry too much - this time next year you will have a gorgeous little person in your home and will be passing on tips and advice to other anxious mums-to-be

Take care sweetie - you are doing great!!

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Aw dear Jen, I've never been pregnant, but I understand perfectly what is happening to you . It is so normal to feel upset, that little person is going to change your life completely! I have NO doubt whatsoever that you will be a great mom!