Changes at Work - could be worse but I keep crying!

[ramanth]

The library is going through some changes and a bit of restructuring and I am caught up in it. Starting May 7th, I am being transferred to the Circulation Department on the 1st floor. I lose my office and my current phone extenstion/voice mail.

I will still do web work and some of my other current duties but they will be secondary to the Circulation duties.

I won't take a pay cut, however, those that make the most in Circulation get the less desirable shifts.

My new work hours will be 5 p.m. - 1 a.m.

This'll either be Monday-Friday or Sunday-Thursday... that much hasn't been decided.

I'm trying to cope with this decision. I really like all my coworkers and I will no longer see them as they all work during the day. At least two days a week I will be the only full time person in the building with a small staff of part time students helping out.

I have been promised and reassured that I did nothing wrong to instigate this change. I just can't help but feel I'm being punished though.

I know I can look for another job, but the market here is not that great and the benefits I get by working here are wonderful. But I might float my resume nevertheless.

Andy will continue to work his morning shift but will start looking for an evening shift full time. But until then, I'll only see him on the weekends.

Our marriage has hit a bit of a rough patch recently and we're seeing a counselor.

Could use some good thoughts through all of this.

[elizabethann]

I would stick it out on your new job and see how it goes. Who knows, you may end up liking it.

I hope you & your hubby can work things out. Sounds like you're in the right direction by going to counseling. So many couples just give up.

Take care.

[Marigold2]

With those hours you will hardly see your husband. Is that good or bad, you will have to decide?

[DrKym]

Thoughts and Prayers going your way!
I am so sorry that this is making you so sad, I hope that it will work out in a more positive manner

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I'm sorry to hear about having to change hours and locations. Work is stressful enough without having to deal with changes like that. I hope it turns out to be alright, maybe you will meet some new people and get along well with your new co-workers.

I know what it's like to only get to see your husband on the weekends, too, it's tough. Until recently when I quit one of my jobs, I only got to see Eric on the weekends because of our different shifts. It was difficult, but you guys will find a way to work it out.

[ramanth]

Thanks guys. I'm definitely going to give it a shot. I won't have many people in the way of coworkers. Just another full time person some days, and at least 3 part time people. Compared to the 15+ people I work with now.

With those hours you will hardly see your husband. Is that good or bad, you will have to decide?

Hubby, myself, and the conselor agree that us working different shifts is not a good thing. We need to see each other and communicate to work things out and by not seeing each other only delays the progress and avoids the problem.

Don't get me wrong, hubby and I love each other very much. We don't fight or abuse each other. If anything we are too complacent. We have one big personal problem and a lot of small ones stemming from that.

[lizbud]

Well that pretty much sucks. I'm sorry to hear things are so unsettled
right now Kimmy. Will you both still be able to do the counseling with the
new hours? I have worked graveyard shift before & must say I never did get
used to the hours. I was mostly a zombie the whole time.

There are others who adjust very well to off hours & say they love having
some time off during normal working daytime hours. have you ever tried it
before? It wouldn't hurt to update your resume anyway. I wish you both
the best of luck. (((Hugs)))

[Daisy and Delilah]

I'm sorry if I missed a thread somewhere but working in a library myself, I have to ask. Why is your library opened so late? Again, I probably should know this but I can't remember. What is your job there if you don't mind me asking? I'm always interested in library info.

I have just recently transferred to Circulation. It's a very busy place. No time for even taking a deep breath

I wish you all the best. Both at the library and at home.

[ramanth]

Will you both still be able to do the counseling with the
new hours?

We won't be able to go together unless he found a job with similar hours. I think until then, I'll continue to see Janet, but it's up to Andy if he wants to go talk to her privately. We both like her.

have you ever tried it
before? It wouldn't hurt to update your resume anyway. I wish you both
the best of luck. (((Hugs)))

Thanks. Back in high school/college, I worked at a grocery store and would occasionaly work till Midnight, but the schedule would change weekly so it was never a set work time. I mainly worked days or afternoons.

Andy loves the evening shift. Since I've never worked it for a long period of time, I'm not sure how I'll like it, but I'm willing to try.

[ramanth]

I'm sorry if I missed a thread somewhere but working in a library myself, I have to ask. Why is your library opened so late?

It's a law school library.

What is your job there if you don't mind me asking? I'm always interested in library info.

I was hired in as an in house web technician. It's what my degree is in. I also helped with the online catalog, exams, and worked with faculty as well.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Thanks, sounds very interesting

[Vela]

Aww I"m sorry to hear things are tough right now. I will send good thoughts your way so that hopefully everything will work out for your best good in the end. I hope you are able to enjoy work, or find a new job you like better, and that you are able to work things out with Andy. Don't despair, it will all be okay even if it's sometimes hard. Wishing you the best.

[kimlovescats]

Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry to hear these things. Change is so very hard, but adding problems at home just compounds it! I agree that working on your relationship with Andy needs to take priority right now. Exactly "how" you are going to work that out, I wish I had an answer / solution for you! Please try to remember that the first year(s) of marriage are the very HARDEST! You learn so many things about eachother that seemed non-existant beforehand! You two WILL get through these rough patches and come out stronger and closer at the end of them! If you want to talk / vent / share, I am only a PM away!

Hugs,
Kim

[Kalei]

Aw I am so sorry about what's going on. I would never ever be able to put up with a 5pm to 1 am shift, so if you do, then I really admire you. That's a really long shift and a very inconvenient one too. I will definately keep you in my prayers that your work will get better and also that you and your husband will be able to patch things up together

[caseysmom]

I am so sorry about that. I worked swing shift before kids and loved it but I hate to see you and Andy have any stress put on your lovely new marriage. You guys are so cute together and it has always seemed like your a perfect match.