How could something so nice turn out so bad?

[catnapper]

I swear, my husband's sisters are the psycho twins of Pennsylvania!

We had plans on getting a family portrait of all 9 grandkids + Cameron together for Christmas for hubby's father. Nice idea, right?

Well, thanks to his sisters having no idea what they were doing, we made the photo studio reschedule two times, with today being appointment #3. It was for 12:20, and both sisters come in at 1:00 claiming thats when Ash said. Ummm, no, I heard Ashley tell them 12:20 and to be there at 12:00 to make sure everything was good.

So then, the deal was all boys wear red shirts with tan pants, and the girls to wear black or whte shirts and tan pants. Everyone wore jeans except my three (and Cam). Plus, they were wearing blue, green, etc. We went out and BOUGHT NEW SHIRTS just for this since they were adament the kids all coordinate! Like we have money to do that!

Then, because we all do Polyanna's in his family, we told my SIL that we'd buy Jay a red sweater for this photoshoot as his Polyanna gift since he didn't have a red shirt either. The girls gave SIL the shirt and she litterally tossed it back at the girls and said "Jay wouldn't wear this!" Ummm... no thanks? Just rudely tossing it back at Ashley? Thank goodness I kept the reciept!

Oh, it gets soooo much better from there. They finally got all settled, and took a series of shots. The first set was trashed by both SILs because they didn't like how their kids looked. So back to shooting a SECOND set. There was one everyone agreed on except my one SIL, and Ashley said, "I like that one, Jay's smiling in it" Jay FLIPPED on her, dropping F-word after F-word, in front of a dozen little kids. Screaming these curses at her at the top of his lungs, then his mom starts in on Ashley saying how she always has a smart mouth and puts down her kids. Huh? She merely said she liked that he was smiling! Then SIL began to berate all three of my kids, in full view of all the other families trying to get their photos taken.

Heather said to Ashley that she didn't need to sit around being screamed at and that she was leaving. Of course that sparked more fire in SIL who called hubby up to scream at him over what the kids did. Personally I think Heather was mature to leave clamly rather than fight back. Staying would be stupid because it would just give her more cause to scream at them. My kids are always darned if they do and darned if they don't with my inlaws.

Sorry to write this novel. I can't stand how my inlaws and hubby keeps letting them step all over us. Christmas Eve shold be interesting at their house this year!

[borzoimom]

I uh would have had a few other words... Good grief.. I am speechless people could be so tacky... jeez.. Next time- or maybe this time, just your family.. and cursing in front of children??? jeez..
You go right a head and vent.... I agree to the vent!

[joycenalex]

i don't know what a pollyanna is? who is jay and how old is he? and now that it's beyond clear that your SILs are not good about time issues, tell them anything is a half hour earlier then it is, if you plan on having future contact with them. and may i suggest at christmas, you travel with your 4 in one car, your hubby inanother, so if HE wants to stay at his parents when the SILS go nuts again (and they will) you and yours can leave and go back to your home for an family celebration. ((HUGS)) to you, dysFUNctional familys' put the FUN in the holidays, almost

[caseysmom]

Don't even get me started about family. I am so fed up, nobody will even take my niece for a week so I can get my sanity back. I have had her for 4 months with not one offer of help of any kind. They just tell me to throw her out on the street....geez I wouldn't do that to an animal why would I do that to my niece.

[TamanduaGirl]

when I was in another city they had a momma sanity program where parent could come and drop off their kids no charge for the day or even a week if they really needed a break, at no cost. It was in hopes of trying to prevent child abuse but I be your name gets on a list of something when you do it. But the state/city probably has some sort of service to help.

[catnapper]

Jay is 21 and a major jerk. Totally selfish and out of control. For his polynana gift, which is like a secret santa, I jokingly told the kids that the only thing he'd have use for is marajuana or a new bong. He came over last week smelling so strongly of pot that we nearly choked on the thickness of it.

The other daughter was arguing as well (but I didn't mention her part of the story) is 3 months pregnant and has no idea who the father is - at least Ashley knew exactly who the father was and she had been dating him a year (never thought I'd say somethign nice about him! LOL) There she was, shooting off her mouth (as usual) where it didn't affect her.

tell them anything is a half hour earlier then it is

That is why Ash told then to be there at 12:00 instead of the 12:20 time.