Terribly worried about my daughter and grandbaby! *UPDATE Page 3*

[kimlovescats]

How much more can a mother's heart break? My daughter confessed to me last night that she has been using some very dangerous drugs. She even did one recently in the presence of my grandbaby, Jenna. I am devastated!!!! I pleaded with her to let me take her to a hospital last night for help. She had almost agreed then her "husband" got involved and talked her out of it. He was yelling at her in the background and she ended up denying that she was in trouble and hung the phone up on me.

Today, she got a new job (that's good at least, but for how long) and acted like everything is "fine". I know it's far from fine. I told her that I was happy that she got this job, but she needs to address the real issues. She just brushed it off as "it won't happen again" ... a typical response..... and hugged me and left.

I don't know what to do, or where to turn. Her husband is a felon, drug user, thief, and I know he is controlling her. She only just moved back in with him this weekend .... to "work on their marriage". I have basically found out that I have NO legal rights as a grandmother to help my grandbaby, and I have no physical PROOF to hold up in court. She can admit anything she wants to me, but without real proof, it is just "hear say"!

In the meantime, her mother-in-law and I are making ourselves available to take turns keeping Jenna as much as we possibly can. Always trying to stay on top of things and get her out of any situation we can. At least my daughter's sister-in-law has a big mouth and tells her mother everything. Of course mom doesn't want her baby boy to do more jail time!

Add to this, the fact that my ex-husband has long since dis-owned my daughter and is what she stated last night is the main source / cause of her problems!!!! I sent "Daddy" a very direct e-mail last night, telling him that he better put his pride behind him and step up and be a father to his 1st child, if he has any feelings left for her at all .... before it's too late!!!! Amy Beth has even contemplated suicide.

I don't know what to do ..... I have never been so scared and felt so helpless in my life. I know what NEEDS to happen, but there are glitches and loopholes everywhere I turn!

PRAYERS, PLEASE, that's all I know that I can do at this point for my baby girl and grandbaby.

Thank you,
Kim

[Edwina's Secretary]

I am so sorry Kim....I can only imagine how helpless and frightened and frustrated and angry you must feel.

Unfortunately...all I can do is send you my sympathy. I wish there was more...

[Soapets]

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers....................

If Jenna is in any danger, you'll need to report them to the authorities, though. As difficult as that would be, it would force them to get some help and Jenna would be safe. Social Service agencies try to work with families, and if at all possible try to place children with biological family members......at least here. In the long run it might be the best thing for them.

Try reading the book "The Power of a Praying Parent" by Stormie Omartian, also. That helped me a LOT with the situation with my son. It gives you a sense of being able to do something, whether or not your daughter is aware of it or accepts it.........

{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Deb

[Catty1]

Call Family Services...from a payphone, if you really want to be anonymous.

Prayers are wonderful - and there are God-given people who are trained and willing to help.

Please call, or have a friend call them! They need intervention!

HUGS!

[kimlovescats]

Thank you, Sara. Just a kind word is helpful!

Deb, thank you for the book title, I can use all the support I can get! I need to feel like I am making the "right" choices and decisions when I make them. What is best for everyone, but most importantly, baby Jenna!!!

Catty .... I know you are right. My sister offered to be the "one" to call, but I don't know if she will. Everyone is so scared of what could happen.

[Soapets]

Even though you are afraid of what might happen, it needs to be done. It is MORE frightening to think of what might happen if nobody calls and reports them.

PRAY, and have faith that things will work out for the best. Pray for God to put the right people in the position to intervene at the right times, and it will happen. Pray for strength to trust in God, and for guidance every step of the way. And pray for God to keep a protective shield around Jenna first, and then your daughter and "son-in-law" and other family members. It WORKS!!

I'll be keeping you and everyone involved in my prayers, in this manner, and will be checking for updates. Let me know what you think of that book...

Deb

[Karen]

Someone needs to call, you know that. Better now than when it is too late.

You will be in our prayers.

[Laura's Babies]

I have no advice for you, just know I will be praying for this situation, you, your daughter and grandbaby.....

[Glacier]

Kim,

I was a child protection social worker for a number of years. I could not agree more with the other posters who said you need to report your concerns. Everyone who knows about the issues needs to make a report. The more information the social worker has, the better she can protect your granddaughter. It sounds like your daughter needs help too and they could help her get it together so she can parent safely.

I'm not sure if they have a program like this where you live, but where I used to work we often used "kinship foster homes." They were relatives of the kids in care, didnt' matter what the relationship was--grandparent, aunt, cousin, ect. Often the foster parent was preapproved well in advance of the child coming into care. It was a bit of a precaution. We knew there were issues in the family. If a child had to be removed in a hurry, a pre-approved home made things much easier-on both the child, the parent and the social worker. Might be something to ask your local department about.

Good luck. I hope both your daughter and grandbaby get the help they need before any major damage is done.

[kimlovescats]

Deb, prayer is the only thing that I have relied on thus far. Without my Faith in God, I would have crumbled long ago. I pray constantly for intervention, that He will show me the way, what to do, what I CAN do, and that most of all, He will send a guardian angel to protect baby Jenna. Of course I pray that He protects my precious daughter as well! I lie in bed at night and run terrible scenarios through my head of what might be happening and what COULD happen ... then I have to turn it over to God and ask for peace so that I can sleep.

I want so badly to rely on my Faith and to Trust fully in Him, but I prayed for years and years for my brother. He finally died in a pharmacy late one night while trying to get more pills. He fell out in the floor with a seizure, fractured his skull, and was brain dead. Finally after days of life support with no brain activity, my parents had to make the difficult decision to turn the machines off. He was my "big brother" .... he was physically handicapped since birth and although I was 8 years younger than him, I always felt very protective of him. We all prayed earnestly for him for years and years on end, and ultimately he died a horrible death. I still in my heart have not forsaken my Lord and I trust that He had His hand in what happened with my brother. It is taking every ounce of Faith I have, to continue to Trust and Believe that my girls are in His hands as well, but I do BELIEVE and TRUST in My LORD GOD!

Kim

[Soapets]

My heart goes out to you.......... Just keep the faith, no matter what.........

{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}

Deb

[jazzcat]

Kim, I wish I could help somehow but you know that you have my support and my prayers.

[Catty1]

that He will show me the way, what to do, what I CAN do

You and your sister can phone. Both of you.

Afraid of what "might" happen? You have to put that in God's hands.

Look at what is happening already....

hugs. You will do the right thing. You know that. There is only one choice, the way I see it.

I hope your faith is strong enough for you to partner with God and take the action only you and your sister can.

[shais_mom]

I would definatly follow the advice of those here.
I am offering my prayers and thoughts for you also.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kim, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Please take care. (((HUGS)))