Three steps forward, two steps back...

[moosmom]

Just when I thought I was getting everything in order, yet ANOTHER bombshell was dropped.

I was talking to my *ahem* best friend, Suzie on the phone last night about my impending move. She proceeds to tell me that "30 days is sufficient enough to find an apartment". After speaking with my children, they aren't very happy that you and your cats will be staying in their room." Um, Hellllooooooooo!!! Your children don't live with you anymore. "Yes, but it's still THEIR room. Oh, and the closets are full." Not that I was planning on staying there for any long period of time, mind you. And finding an apartment isn't the problem. It's finding a job to PAY the rent for the apartment. My daughter is as surprized as I am, considering she told her that I'd be staying for a couple of months.

I'm hurt and angry that she just didn't come out and tell me she doesn't want me there. We've been friends forever and have always been able to level with each other.

So, I cried buckets last night (I seem to do that alot lately) and then went online to look for apartments (still don't know how I'm going to pay rent). I found a couple that are pretty cheap (not in the greatest area, but it beats living out of my car) and will let me bring my cats.

I am wiped out emotionally right now. I have an appointment with Social Security on Thursday at 9 a.m. to file for Social Security Disability. Keep your fingers and paws crossed.

[Catty1]

You're right - why didn't she just say no to begin with??? ARRGH!

I think she owes you an apology, if she wants this friendship.

I wish youall the luck at SS on Thursday - and hey, they may have a housing registry as well.

You aren't meant to be at Suzie's - which now sounds like it could really damage the friendship.

Our HP has some wacky ideas in store sometimes...and might just have a wonderful surprise for you!

HUGS!

[moosmom]

Catty1,

For the first time in YEARS I wanted to drink. But I just kept saying the Serenity Prayer, took my medicine and went to bed. It passed.

I sent her an email this morning. Here's what I said:

Sue, all you had to do was level with me and tell me you really didn't want me staying with you instead of beating around the bush, using the girls and every other excuse you could come up with (the closets are full???). I thought best friends could be honest with each other. I guess I was wrong.

If she calls me, I'm not answering. I need time right now and I think if I talk to her, it'll only make things worse.

I just don't know how much more I can take.

[Queen of Poop]

Donna, I am so sorry this light at the end of the tunnel has been extinguished. But fear not, where one thing goes astray, another usually comes along right away. Glad you did not take the drink, but your meds and bed time instead. I send you a big hug and a ton of prayers that you find a place and get the assistance you need.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Donna, I'm sorry to hear this and I hope that everything will work out for you. Lots of prayers and positive thoughts are being sent your way.

[catnapper]

Donna, I am so hurt for you! I wish I had the space to let you come here. Heck, I'd love to do a bartering thing with you -- you live here in exchange for taking care of Cam during the day (Hey, did that get a smile outta you?)

I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed things turn out well with your meetings and you find a new appartment. Shucks, I miss all your exciting threads about your crack ho neighbor, so maybe you'll get a new one! LOL -- now I hope that got a smile out of ya!

((((HUGS)))))

[cyber-sibes]

Gosh, Donna, what a bummer. She probably shouldn't have said anything to you till she cleared if with her kids, if that's who had the final say. Sorry you are going through even more stress. I'm proud of you for finding another way than to take a drink. It's at times like these that this disease starts "talking", and you kicked it in the teeth! The most important thing you can do each day is stay sober. If that's the only thing you do each day, then you are a success. Will keep praying for you, hon. Maybe next week at SS you will find additional sources of support. HP is lining things up somewhere right now. Don't quit before the miracle. (((hugs)))

[ramanth]

That just stinks. *HUGS*

She doesn't sound like much of a friend.

When we moved out, our rooms got turned into a guest room, a sewing room, and a storage room. There was no such thing as the children's room anymore. No sir.

[Sevaede]

That just stinks. *HUGS*

She doesn't sound like much of a friend.

When we moved out, our rooms got turned into a guest room, a sewing room, and a storage room. There was no such thing as the children's room anymore. No sir.

Indeed. "My" bedroom at my parents house is now a fishing room.

*****HUGS***** Congrats to you for not taking the drink! I am proud of you!!

If need be (and I am not trying to frighten you or anything, I am just saying if this ever happened) and you needed your babies fostered for a while, you know you can PM or email or IM me. I'd offer you a place to stay but I doubt you would want to move down to LA.

[jenluckenbach]

How horrible is that?!?! I sure wish I had answers for you.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

So sorry to hear that!

Is there any chance you could get more hours or ask for a small raise at work that would help with expenses? I hope they can help you at SS.

[Catty1]

Donna - I am sure eyou know now that trashy behaviour like that is not worth drinking over! I can't think of anything that IS!

BUT - you just got out of hospital, and are regrouping. You are regrouping and a bit fragile right now. So this threw you big time!

Give your sponsor a call every day, just to check in.

HUGS

[momoffuzzyfaces]

Donna I don't want to make you feel worse but, unless things have changed since I filed for SS disability ten years ago, they will automatically deny the first time you file.

I was lucky and mine was only denied one time. Even at that, it took a year to get it to go through. I hope things have changed and you get approved quickly. Good news was they repaid back to the date my disability took effect. I was disabled in 1995 but it wasn't approved until 1996. They paid the 1995 money to me. I sure hope this has all changed now!!!

PRAYERS on the way!!!

[davidpizzica]

Donna, you KNOW that I still have the shoulder any and all the time you need it. Big Pittsburgh {{{{HUGS}}}}!!!

[Catty1]

ummm...David....know anyone with a spare room and kitchen privileges?....