Ally again :( *UPDATED*

[Ally Cat's Mommy]

*SIGH* Ally has done it again!

My In-laws are visiting, and when they arrived I warned them repeatedly not to pet Ally, and to give her a wide berth. MIL told me that Ally is only biting me because I dont pray about it, and that if I show her love, and speak softly to her she won't bite! (I REALLY resented this - believe me if love alone could sort out this behaviour, Ally would have stopped biting years ago!!)

Of course now the inevitable has happened, and my MIL got a sore bite on her hand from Ally. It's not infected YET, but I can almost guarantee that if this requireds a trip to the Doctor, Warren is going to tell me Ally has to go.

I am aware that this may eventually happen - I CANNOT have her biting Cali - and you can flame me for this if you want - but in all liklihood she will have to be PTS. There are no no-kill shelters here, and I could not rehome a cat with such bad aggression issues. I was just hoping to postpone this horrible decision for as long as possible.

On the one hand I feel sorry for my MIL, because I know that the bite is sore, but I am REALLY annoyed with her for not listening in the first place

[Lobodeb]

Awww, Julie, my heart is breaking for you!

Does Ally really need to be PTS? Maybe she would thrive in a single cat household. As long as you are very clear about her aggression issues? Do you know why she's so aggressive? If she's in an only cat household, she can do what she wants. How old is she?

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))) ))))))))

[Russian Blue]

I'm not familiar with your area at all, but is there a chance you could rehome Ally through the local vet. Or could your vet be of any help with techniques to discourage the behaviour? It must be so hard on you to go through this and try to make the best decision for everyone.

Have you tried any of the bach remedies.....is it a stress issue? I don't remember your previous posts on why or when Ally bites. Here's a good article regarding biting with some suggestions.

Cat Biting and Scratching

[Ally Cat's Mommy]

The issues re re-homing are:
Bahrain is a TINY island. I have been involved in cat rescue here for a number of years, and anyone who could give a cat a home has already had one placed there by me! Our ONLY shelter PTS approximately 40 healthy cats and kittens every month - there is no way they will be able to help rehome a cat with behaviour problems. (IF they had realised Connor was deaf, he would also have been PTS, but this was not diagnosed until after I adopted him).

Ally's issues started about 6 months after I brought Connor home. Her attacks are usually totally unprovoked - she will either attack my ankles as I walk past, or jump onto the chair next to me whilst I am eating and try to bite my arm. her favourite is to snuggle in your lap, and as soon as you relax and stop being vigilant she lashes out.

These are NOT little nips - these are serious deep punctures which usually require medical treatment, and have left me with scars.

Cass - the article you linked was great. Ally is a mixture of the Dominant issues and some misdirected anger also. She is the Alpha cat - and is treated as such. She always get given treats first, and has her own special bed where Connor cannot jump up. She is always greeted and petted first also. (An animal psyc told me this about 18 months ago, and I have been doing this ever since)

Sometimes she will STARE at Connor with total hatred in her eyes, then turn around and bite me. When I notice her staring at him like that I either distract her with treats or leave the room.

I DID try rescue remedy - but I can't get a steady enough supply of it to treat their drinking water on an ongoing basis, and Ally is impossible to medicate. I have also tried Feliway plug-ins and they haven't helped.

Debby - forgot to mention - Ally is 5 years old.

She is my heart-cat and this is tearing me apart

[Catty1]

Is there anyone here who might arrange a transport...I know it is Bahrain...any ideas out there?

Poor you and Ally and Connor...

hugs
Catty1

[cloverfdx]

Oh Julie i am so sorry that you are having to go through this {{Hugs}}. I have no advice, but you will be in my thoughts.

[Kfamr]

Oh Julie..

What a heartbreaking situation. I really don't know what to say, nor do I know how to handle many kitty behavioral problems. I can't imagine what you're going thru.

If you ever need anyone to talk to, my PM box is open as always.


{{{{HUGS}}}} Love ya and thinking of you...

Kay