Huge prayers for Cathy and Al.
When my sister died, it was also from a gradual chronic illness...I had someone say that at least we had time to get used to the idea. She meant well.
Suddenly or after a long time, there is NO good way to lose someone you love - especially a child.
"When I think of Mick Jagger still singing that he can't get any satisfaction in over forty years of being in the Rolling Stones, I have to conclude that he's either lying or not all that bright." -- Henry Rollins