I loved my Dad and he did an awesome job. My brother, on the other hand, is an a_hole, plain and simple. I loathe him so much that if I never see him again it will be all too soon. He thinks he's "all that" and more. His sole focus in life is to have as much money as possible and screw anyone who gets in his way. He hates animals...need I go on? Rather than go on and on, just take my word for it. Thank God I only see him a couple of times per year. He is family and I love him because he's my brother but I hate, hate, hate him as a person.
I'm not really sure what to say about your Father. I can only relate to you my experiences with elderly relatives. When I say elderly, I'm not implying that you are old so please don't assume that. I find that elderly men get cranky and speak before they think. Take my 85 yr old Uncle for instance...we just moved him into a care home and one week into his arrival we are getting phone calls that he is verbally abusing the staff. A friend's husband, a neighbour and another gentlemen that I knew all were not pleasant to be around. Maybe it's a "man" thing, I don't know. If you ever find an answer do let me know.
Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand and strawberries in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming WOO HOO - What a Ride!
Sometimes the most real things in the world are the things we can't see
Until one has loved an animal, part of their soul remains unawakened.